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SPEAKING OUT: Sheryl aims to give others hope
Sheryl Gascoigne's most shocking interview
BOOZE SHAME: Paul, propped up by 'Fivebellies', staggers off train in May
HOT DATE: In the early days Sheryl was 'on fire' for Gazza
BATTERED: Sheryl after Gazza¿s infamous 1996 Gleneagles attack
FOOTBALL legend Paul Gascoigne's battered ex- wife Sheryl has sensationally branded him an ABUSER who INSISTED on sex TEN TIMES a day - even when she didn't want it.
She told the News of the World: "Paul used to force himself on me. I'd say 'No!' but he wouldn't stop. Ten times a day would be pretty normal for him.
"When he came home I knew the first thing on his mind would be to have sex with me - but it was better than him hitting me."
In an exclusive interview to launch her explosive new book on 12 tormented years with the England ace, mum-of-three Sheryl, 44, also told how she is:
- HORRIFIED Paul put son Mason's life in danger by driving while drunk out of his head.
- FEARFUL Gazza's addiction to drink and drugs could have led to Mason's problems with cocaine.
- HAUNTED so much by the abuse that it has made her unable to love another man.
Sheryl's hard-hitting autobiography, Stronger: My Life Surviving Gazza, explodes the myth she only ONCE suffered violence at his hands - the infamous episode at Gleneagles hotel months after they wed.
She catalogues a shocking diary of sex abuse throughout their time together, including their disastrous two-year marriage.
Sheryl, now a powerful voice for Refuge - the organisation that protects domestic abuse victims - said former England, Tottenham and Rangers' midfielder Paul, 42, demanded sex all the time.
Picking her words carefully she would not say it was rape, because she admitted she had consented to sex many times in one day. And she revealed she only stopped sleeping with Paul at all in 2003, five years AFTER their divorce.
She acknowledged they had a passionate and fiery relationship.
But, looking back, Sheryl now sees it as a form of sexual abuse.
Although Paul made her life a misery at times - and it was a far cry from the glamorous existence supposedly enjoyed by footballers' wives - she has transformed her fortunes and emerged stronger than ever.
She now hopes her story will help other women who suffer at the hands of violent partners and show them there is hope. The book even has a blank cover under its removable jacket so victims can read it discreetly.
Sheryl now admits that when she reflects on her own ordeal, she knows she should have walked away sooner. She added: "If a friend came to me and described the same situation I would say to her, 'He's raping you.' I recognise that now.
"Throughout our whole relationship I don't think I ever had a conversation with Paul about anything other than himself or sex.
"If I denied Paul sex it made him angry. It wouldn't matter if I'd already had sex with him seven times that day. If I said no, an hour later I'd get the verbal abuse.
"He'd say, 'You NEVER want to have sex with me! You NEVER want to show me any love! You NEVER show me any affection!'
"A lot of women would crave ten times a day. In some cases that's their fantasy to have a man that wants them that much. But that wasn't the case for me.
"I can't say I didn't enjoy it any of the time. Our sex life was good but there was the flipside when it was dark and it wasn't very nice. I tried not to say no and many times mentally I said no."
Sheryl was a divorcee, and already mum to Bianca and Mason, when she first met Gazza. She said the attraction was instant, igniting flames of passion so hot "my pants were on fire". And she tells how, in the early days of their relationship, she chose Gazza over another man who offered a more stable future because Paul offered "mind-blowingly brilliant can't-get-enough-of-it" sex.
She recalled how on their first date Paul was so crazy for her he wanted to have sex in her car.
"It was heady and exciting to have someone wanting me that much," said Sheryl. "The passion was huge. I'd come out of a marriage where there hadn't been any for over a year so for me there was a huge sexual chemistry. I've since learned that's common in domestic violence situations.
"But back then Paul was funny and it was a totally different lifestyle. It was excitement. When he was on form there was no better person to be with."
In her book, Sheryl says Gazza even wanted sex with her while he was recovering IN HOSPITAL after cruciate ligament damage in the 1991 FA Cup final. Despite succumbing to Paul's ferocious sexual appetite, Sheryl reveals she continually had to contend with rumours he was sleeping with other women and the indignity of girls selling stories of sex romps with him.
"And I always KNEW they were true because they spoke of his sexual appetite in huge detail," she said.
Gazza is now as notorious for his descent into alcohol and drug addiction as he was famous for his devastating prowess on the football field.
And Sheryl tells how she faced the heartbreaking decision of booting out son Mason, 20, earlier this year after catching him taking cocaine.
Now her biggest fear is that he might go the same way as his wayward stepdad. "Mason loves Paul with all of his heart," she said. "It was the hardest thing to do when I kicked him out of the house."
Asked if she feels Paul's behaviour was responsible for her boy's drug-taking, she said: "I can THINK that inside but I can't SAY that to him. It's not acceptable. It's like an excuse - as if I'm saying, 'It's okay, you can take drugs and I'll forgive you. You can get drunk and fall over and I'll forgive you, because of what you've been through.'
"But that's not good parenting. It scares the life out of me. I say to him, 'You've seen what it does.' His answer is that it's normal, it's commonplace, everyone does it. But it's so alien to me."
Sheryl said she never saw Paul taking drugs and was shocked to hear he was using cocaine while trying to resurrect his career with Middlesbrough in 1998.
She said: "My first reaction was, 'Paul doesn't take drugs.' The children had been there. And then I heard his habit was getting really bad. Since then he's admitted it.
"But I worried about him taking drugs when he was with the children, and I worried about him drinking when he was with the children."
Her fears were fuelled further in 2001 when Mason, then 12, went to stay with Gazza at a hotel in Liverpool - while he was with Everton. She said: "Mason rang me up crying, saying, 'Dad's going mad! Dad's going mad! He's really drunk, he wants to drive!'
"I asked him to put Paul on. He came on the line and said, 'He wants to go home. I'm f***ing driving him home now!' I said, 'DON'T get in the car! You can't drive! I'll come and get him.' I then rang the hotel and said, 'Whatever happens do not let Paul get in the car. He's too drunk to drive, he can hardly speak. He's saying he's going to drive my son in the car. I'm telling you now do NOT let him in the car!'
"The receptionist said, 'No, I won't, I won't.'
"The next call I get is Mason in the car. He's screaming, crying, 'Dad's going to kill us! He's driving over the middle of the road! He's everywhere!' And I can hear Paul screaming.
"I'm in Hertfordshire, my son is in Liverpool, screaming. I called the police and I said to them, 'I don't care what you do to him, he's in this car.'
"I gave them the registration number and added, 'He's driving with my son in the car and he's paralytic drunk.'
"The next call I got was from the police after what seemed like an eternity. The officer said, 'Mrs Gascoigne? Mr Gascoigne is fine.' I said, 'Where's my son?' He said, 'He's here. Mr Gascoigne's fine, we've put him to bed.' I said, 'You're not breathalysing him? You're not going to caution him?' He said, 'No, he looks fine. We've put him to bed.'
"I then phoned Paul's long-time friend Jimmy 'Fivebellies' Gardner who offered to bring Mason home."
Sheryl added: "I was gobsmacked. The police actually SAW Paul driving the car drunk, with Mason alongside. Paul Gascoigne is above the law. I think he believes that. The more people let him get away with it the more he'll continue. No one says 'No' to him.
"People turning a blind eye for all these years has led him to where he is now. It's no one's fault. No one is to blame except Paul. But this doesn't help him." Sheryl - whose marriage to Paul ended in 1998 - has finally washed her hands of him after a televised bid to get him help in Portugal failed last September.
She'd earlier managed to get him sectioned but was desperate for continued treatment to get him off the booze.
She tried to get his family together to form a united front in an effort to save him. But now she feels that chance has gone. "I really do believe we could have done it," said Sheryl.
"He couldn't have run to the others saying, 'She's doing this, she's saying this.' And he couldn't come to me saying, 'They want this from me.'
"I wanted an intervention. Paul refused it but I don't think it was his choice any more. When we got him sectioned I thought that was our last chance. I wanted one chance for us to get it right. But I had to make a conscious decision to walk away."
Although Sheryl cut all ties a year ago, she revealed Paul has still tried to get in touch with her twice since then - both times blind drunk. Sheryl, mum to Gazza's 13-year-old son Regan, said: "He's rung me on two occasions. He called about a quarter to midnight the night before he was photographed falling off a train in May. He was paralytic and he could hardly talk but said, 'I want to speak to the kids.'
"There was no point. He wouldn't even have remembered the conversation. I hung up. The phone kept ringing and ringing. I pulled all the phones out and lay on the bed.
"I wondered why I still felt responsible after I'd decided to walk away.
"And I thought, 'What if he kills himself tonight and I've put the phone down on him?' That's the hold he had on us. In the morning I checked the messages and it was him saying, 'I've had a blip.' Some blip.
"Then in August he rang again. It was about 6pm. It was the usual drawl, 'Oh Sheryl.' This was after the family had sold a story saying I was totally to blame. He rang to say, 'I need to talk to you, I can't talk to anyone else.' He said, 'My mum's got to go to the doctors. They think she's got cancer. What am I going to do?' That was the last I heard from him."
Despite the hold he had over her, Sheryl now says it's easier to dismiss his pleas for help - for the sake of her children. But she admits there is one call she's expecting - from the cops.
Sheryl said: "I've been waiting for the call from the police to say he's been found dead. He won't do it himself, though. It will be accidental. He's on borrowed time."
Sadly she says the legacy she carries from years of torment at Gazza's hands still prevents her from finding a new man.
"I'm not sure if I'll ever let anyone in again," said Sheryl. "It's the mental abuse that gets in the way more than the physical."
Stronger: My Life Surviving Gazza by Sheryl Gascoigne, published by Michael Joseph at £18.99. Sheryl was not paid for this interview.
Is Sheryl right to talk now?
YES says Tracey Cox
IT'S never right for a husband to force himself on his wife - in any circumstances. This whole subject is a dirty little secret that no one really talks about. So the more we air issues like this the better.
People will ask why is Sheryl raising this now? The bottom line is that traumatic events may be repressed while the brain tries to come to terms with them.
It's not unusual that people can only confront and speak about trauma many years after it happened. You try to cover these things up and most people do that by pretending it's not happening.
It's only when you maybe have therapy, get confident and secure, that you can talk about it - and it all comes flooding out. It can be cathartic to do this for a project like a book.
Even with a high sex drive, ten times a day is pretty unusual. But you have to remember aggression is also linked to the sex hormone testosterone. And sex abuse within marriage DOES happen.
You'd be amazed the number of women, and men, who believe it's okay. The old-fashioned view is if you marry someone you must provide them with sex. But clearly this can't be against your will.
My heart goes out to Sheryl. It's brave of her to talk about this in public. Hopefully this book will make other women more confident about coming forward.
NO says Carole Malone
WHY has Sheryl Gascoigne waited till now to reveal that Gazza regularly forced himself sexually on her up to ten times per day?
Well, from where I'm sitting it's pretty obvious. She's got a book to promote - a book that wouldn't sell if there wasn't some shocking new revelation in it about her ex.
Because the fact is no one wants to read a book about Sheryl Gascoigne's life. They've only ever been interested in Gazza.
And even now, 11 years after divorce, she's still talking about him, still writing about him, still making money out of him. I'd have had more respect for Sheryl had she chosen to reveal this hideous abuse while it was happening.
This sounds like multiple rape to me. But if it was, she had a duty to go to the police - not write a book and make money out of it.
And if Gazza WAS such a monster why was Sheryl still having sex with him five years after their marriage ended? Why until last year was she still saying she wanted to give their relationship another chance? Wild horses couldn't drag most women back to the hell she describes.
While I feel enormous sympathy for any woman who's sexually abused I can't help wondering if this book is just a cynical attempt to make a few quid out of a man who might be dead any time.
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I would like the News of the World to approach sheryl and seriously ask her IF SHE IS GOING TO DONATE the money from her book to Refuge. I have been a victim and am now a survivor and although I make a minimum wage I have never forgotton the help this organisation gave to me. I donate
£1 a week. What is she donating?
By Sarah.. Posted October 15 2009 at 1:06 AM.
Reply to kay nelson. Posted October 11 2009 at 5:26 PM. What planet have you been living on for the last 11 years? That woman has SOLD every detail off their very short time together. Gazza has opened up his life and short comings in his books never once focusing on her ,YET she has been persistant in her attacks. I can remember when Gazza was in Italy he and sheryle split and she lived in a house in hertforshire... good going for a woman who was pennyless and homeless before she met him, anyway this would have been a perfect opportunity to get rid of him, and anyone would IF he was what she suggests he was. Get real, are you really suggesting she has never made any money from her association with paul gascoigne? Then explain how a woman who has never had a job for years could possibly afford a big house, luxury cars, exotic holidays and private schooling for her kids?
By MickyK.. Posted October 15 2009 at 12:59 AM.
11 years come on,we would all be mad to be leave its not all for the money,and for the rest of the famaly, leave the man alone,she will be sorry one day.
By linder ley.. Posted October 14 2009 at 10:57 AM.
In reply to shazza. Posted October 13 2009 at 11:17 AM. The BIG problem we all have with sheryls story is it is full of mistruths. Gazza by his own admission 11YEARS AGO admitted that there had been violence in the relationship, he had done everything to make amends. This woman also for the last 11 years has slautered him at every opportunity, she has never held back on her attacks. Everyone needs to open their eyes... she needs money and the only way she can get it is by reaching the darkest pits of her soul in a one last ditch effort to deceive the public and get them to buy into her story literally. Book sales will allow her to live a good few more years in luxury without having to put in a decent days work. Wow she has done well for a woman who many years ago didnt have a penny to her name or a place to live. And by the way we all know Gazza is trying to put his life together, what damage will these acusations do. I think its sad that real victims of absuse are being tricked by her, she is using the umberella of domestic violence to make money. Wake up people
By Maria.. Posted October 14 2009 at 8:52 AM.
perhaps many that have commented have been through the same thing as cheryl but the celebs of this country or the wannabee celebs need to stop running to the papers about everything.
By jo.. Posted October 13 2009 at 12:01 PM.
How judgemental you all are! Domestic violence is prevalent in this country. 1 in 4 women suffer violence at the hands of controlling manipulative men. I could write a book myself on the subject. I have no doubt in my mind that these stories are true having suffered at the hands of a similar abuser. Leave the poor woman alone and let her do what she feels is right for her. Life is too short to judge others.
By shazza.. Posted October 13 2009 at 11:17 AM.
it is appalling what happened to cheryl no man should hit a woman, no woman should stand for it, but come on she is not trying to help anyone but herself, she knows she is in the position to milk the public for their money she is skint and the opportunity is there for her, it is very bad what has happened to her but it happens to lots of woman they cant run out and make a million because of it, show a bit of dignity deal with it instead of trying to make money from it.
By TRACI.. Posted October 13 2009 at 10:30 AM.
All I want to say is I personally would not talk openly about abusive relationship,s Why? My children and they are the ones who suffer from it.Ive lots of friends who have gone through domestic violence and prefer to not talk and I am the same Everyone as a right to an opinion and mines that what happened In my life as nothing to do with the public. Maybe a few should take a step back and realise the damage it causes end of and Cheryl why now? Gazza is ill please show some respect if not you could have done your talking sooner rather than now.
Victoria
By Victoria Ingham.. Posted October 11 2009 at 11:03 PM.
they most likely were having much more sex before they married come on everyman and women loves to give it their best thats why they married...duhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
By larrycoldsweat.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:58 PM.
Kay Nelson
I do not doubt she had a hard time with this man...what I hate is the lack of dignity when people spill their personal lives out there for all to see....which is so common these day.
By dee.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:55 PM.
a romance gone wrong did she speak to the priest when she said i do or was she thinking i dont but the lifestyle is what i do too when it was good why is she moaning now she was living the high life
hoildays anytime no bills clothe cars houses jesus christ....................
By larrycoldsweat.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:51 PM.
"How dare you all call this LADY a gold didgger. For the last decade Sheryl has brought her children and Gazza`s child up on her own and never once made any money out of it until now.
By kay nelson. Posted October 11 2009 at 5:26 PM."
What planet have you been living on Kay? Sheryl's career since meeting Gazza has been making money from him. If it's that bad she and her family should revert to her maiden name. I've run out of sympathy for Gazza as he's had and wasted many chances but I'm sick of seeing her making money out of him as well.
By Christine.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:29 PM.
oh yeah gazz and sherl aint nobodys bussiness but their own peace
By larrycolsweat.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:52 PM.
But Phil......GAZZA is NOT a good cause (like EARTHQUAKE RELIEF, ABUSED CHILDREN and WIVES, etc), just another self pitying ALCOHOLIC (who used to be a good footballer) who appears to wants to kill himself by continuing to drink alcohol (despite the expensive advice, care and support). Therefore GAZZA would only use the money to buy booze and 'drinking colleagues' which would be a complete waste when compared with saving lives.
By Carole Howard.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:13 PM.
Give him a break! Why reveal all this rubbish now? As almost everyone else says.....GOLD DIGGER. If she's remotely a good woman she'll give the money from this rubbish book to Gazza, after all he's funded her lifestyle for too many years!
By Phil.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:56 PM.
Suffered domestic violence myself, could not wait to rid myself of him and his name, this money grabbing woman makes me sick!!! Always cashing in on his name etc as has her daughter...
Don't suppose she is going to give all proffits from this sad book towards womens shelter??? NOOOOOO
She won't be satisfied until she has hounded him to death - literally... he might be worth more dead than alive eh Sheryl?????????????????
By lin.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:49 PM.
I doubt she has ever done a day's work in her privileged life. She has lived off his money . I don't believe a word of it.
By Nev.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:43 PM.
Pathetic. At the end of the day, no-one wants to read about Sheryl, because she is one of lifes non-achievers. Gazza isn't perfect. But at least he can look back at his life and be sure he has been famous for being the best football player England has ever had. What has Sheryl ever achieved? What had she achieved before she met Gazza? Absolutely NOTHING! Footballers wifes are renouned for being thick, stupid, dumb blondes who are money-grabbers. Sadly, Sheryl is all of these.
By Liam.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:33 PM.
...can't condone violence at all, but Sheryl knew what he was capable of before they wed, and he has paid for her children as well as his own child...In fact Paul was a real soft touch for anyone with a sob story......Sheryl is a true gold digger.... specially now as her looks seem to be fading.
Paul is a misguided soul whom everyone wishes well, sadly I fear losing Bobby Robson was the last straw for him.
By Christine.. Posted October 11 2009 at 6:56 PM.
If she hates him that much why is she still using his surname?
BORING.
SHUT UP SHERYL!
By Donna.. Posted October 11 2009 at 6:21 PM.
I Can not condone violence from a man to his wife, no 2 ways about it, it is wrong and unacceptable! i have no doubt it happened on occasions but i think now, with the book etc Sheryl is milking it a bit, come on Sheryl, the way you describe Paul is like he was some unbearable monster, rapist, alcoholic, wife beater.... the list goes on! If, Sheryl he was so bad, why do you still bear his name? if that was me (if i was female) and all this was true i wouldn't want any connection to this guy, my name would be changed in the blink of an eye! But no, you didn't did you Sheryl! Why? Because your maiden name brings in no money! And answer me this, how does Paul get Paralytic drunk and have sex 10 times each day?? If i get that drunk it's 2 days before i can raise a smile let alone anything else!! A few untruths i think Sheryl, you've made your money out of Paul love so do us all a favour and give it a rest now hey.. Eddie Fitz, Leamington Spa
By Eddie.. Posted October 11 2009 at 5:58 PM.
How dare you all call this LADY a gold didgger. For the last decade Sheryl has brought her children and Gazza`s child up on her own and never once made any money out of it until now. She has repeatedly tried to help him and has had nothing in return but abuse. She has kept quiet until the children are grown and kept a low profile for their sake. Good on you Sheryl, you deserve to tell your side of the story now. Paul has had many many chances to right his life with the help of family, friends and others but has chosen to ignore the help and his family . She is now a middle aged woman who DESERVES attention for herself and if she chooses to write a book and make some money from it I say GO GIRL! it is your turn now. Good luck Sheryl.
By kay nelson.. Posted October 11 2009 at 5:26 PM.
I felt like weeping when i read this, talk about kicking someone when he's down. this woman got half his assets in the divorce and is still sponging him. Gazza has a long history of problems; childhood trauma(at 10 he watched a friend run over by a car), obsessive compulsive disorder(ocd). come on! sheryl is an insult to people who have suffered domestic abuse
By jack.. Posted October 11 2009 at 5:22 PM.
On what hand he was a raging alcoholic and on the other he was up for sex 10 times a day?
Something doesn't add up here.
By Brian.. Posted October 11 2009 at 5:04 PM.
How can you feel sorry for Sheryl you haven't got a bloody clue as to what this woman is really like. She would sell her own mother to get what she wants.
She was willing to leave her kids in this country so she could go to Lazio.
Start getting a life Sheryl your so very boring
By Paula.. Posted October 11 2009 at 4:41 PM.
yeah yeah yeah if gazza was thi and that and the worst hubbie ever then why th hell do you and your s----t of a daughter still use his surname if he were the scum of the earth you woud want as much distance as ever that is what i done when i sent the old man packing i find it hard to feel anything for her when she is still trying exposing personal things about there marriage for publicity and money go away you were a no one before you met gazza and you will be no one once you have omitted his surname it will be a case of sheryl who
By jade.. Posted October 11 2009 at 4:35 PM.
''Judas'' Lets hope she gets her 30 peices of silver.
Im not saying its right what Paul did,by no means,but she shouldnt be
''washing her dirty linen in public''
When Paul & Sheryls Son gets a bit older,and understands things from a more adult point of view,well I wonder what he will think of her trashing Gazza in print, just for the money ? because it serves no purpose at all
By Phil.. Posted October 11 2009 at 4:33 PM.
A pathetic bitter woman destroying a legend for her own financial return, pitiful.
Remember the quote from Thumper “If you can't say something nice... don't say nothing at all.”
By hamish mickle.. Posted October 11 2009 at 3:30 PM.
John. Gazza's carreer finished years ago.
As for Sheryl why if things were that bad did she marry him?
As for kicking him when he's down yeah true but with respect he was finished a looooooooooooong time ago she ade sure of that when she chewed him up and spat him out taking all his money with her.
By Lorna.. Posted October 11 2009 at 3:29 PM.
I agree with Caroline, the woman and her daughter should get a job, they do a diservice to domestic violence victims
By mark.. Posted October 11 2009 at 3:28 PM.
She should of give gazza sex 10 times a day, its her duty being his wife.
By stud.. Posted October 11 2009 at 3:11 PM.
if her life is so bad then y dont she just get on with it .if he is gon na get better he aint gonna do it with bade mouthing him ,she is nothin without that name and why did she choose to keepit
By barbara.. Posted October 11 2009 at 3:07 PM.
Could this be the end of Gazza? Talk about kicking someone when down.
By John.. Posted October 11 2009 at 2:48 PM.
Yes, still sponging off her ex. If he was so bad why marry him and then stick with him even after an early divorce.? Obvious answer - money - in spades - at the time and now, years and years after. Get a real job Sheryl, get your daughter to give up the Gazza surname and leave this guy alone. You degrade women.
By roz.. Posted October 11 2009 at 2:47 PM.
Emeka,while I agree with a lot of what you say I would argue with your discrition of Victoria Beckham as a "wag",she was an established star with her own independent income well before she met David.
By Rita Cocking.. Posted October 11 2009 at 2:33 PM.
Cheryl, dont let anyone stop you from advising women like me and u, it needs to be discussed, @Carole, if u r in a good relationship, enjoy it love until it hits u big time, those who r saying shes making money, who does nt want money we need in our daily lives,shes not stealing from anyone, i she?
By pat.. Posted October 11 2009 at 1:28 PM.
Heather Mills the second
Simply cashing on Gazza's misery !!
Dont buy this book
By Junior.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:31 PM.
This woman is so hungry for media attention it's unreal!
By Casey.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:32 PM.
I've been in a very similar situation to Sheryl, having left an extremely abusive 3 year relationship relationship 5 years ago at the age of 24. He had addictions to alcohol, cocaine, sex - and hitting me. I therefore feel I'm pretty well qualified to respond to Carole Malone's comments. First "I'd have more respect for Sheryl had she chosen to reveal this hideous abuse while it was happening". Unfortunately Carole, when you are a victim of domestic abuse, your abuser also uses psychological abuse and will brainwash you into believing that you deserved it, that you were somehow to blame for it happening. It can take many years of talking through what happened to figure out and actually believe that is not the case so it's completely understandable that Sheryl is only finding the confidence to speak out about this now. Secondly "If Gazza was such a monster why was Sheryl still having sex with him five years after their marriage ended?". Well Carole this also goes back to the point I made above. When someone has had such control over every aspect of your life, it can take a long time to build up the confidence to finally say no. I said no several times throughout my relationship, left him numerous times but he still had that hold over me after years of knocking my confidence, so inevitably I always went back. It took him injuring me so badly (he punched my face so hard he caused severe nerve damage and I lost all feeling in one side of my face for 6 months) for me to finally get the courage to leave and have him prosecuted. Even then it took a lot of support from my family and friends for me to have the strength not to go back to him and to carry on with a traumatic court case. I applaud Sheryl for keeping the domestic abuse issue in the news. There are far too many women who are suffering in silence and stories like this help them realise that what they are going through IS domestic abuse and is NEVER acceptable. I also have massive respect for Refuge - without their support 5 years ago my life could be very very different right now.
By Dolly Rocket.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:13 PM.
What an absolute disgrace that this book is coming out at such a fragile time for gazza.
Everyone knows that he is no angel but to be under the constant scrutiny he has been at times of real need for him because of his demons, i think is unfair and to a slight degree incitement for him to self destruct more.
The story of 'he will be dead in a year' followed by this is in my opinion is very irresponsible and I wish gazza a more peaceful future and advise him not to immerse himself in his demons because of it.good luck gazza
By Michael Weir.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:19 PM.
I was victim of domestic violence twice. First was when was a kid and my father beat me many times till nearly killed me and I was taken into care. Then when was 17 I lived with a guy who did the same.
I could never talk about it and still can't now even though I'm 29. I changed my whole name when left care. I disowned every member of my blood family the day I went into care. After left my ex I changed my surname and moved away to different part of UK.
If what Sheryl says is true, then good on her for telling her story. If it helps just one person break free - that's a life saved.
I'm sceptical for her reasons why she selling it now. Maybe she has dealt with it and feels ready emotionally to talk about it. Though I've dealt with what happened to me - I'll never really emotionally get over it as will always have an affect on my life. I know if I sold my story - I'd give every penny made to domestic violence. Even though I'd find the money helpful myself.
I feel sorry for Gazza as he will end up dead soon. But he's had every chance to get the help. Many of us don't even get one chance to get proper help. No matter what problems he has though - violence is despicable. As is sexual pressure. Amazes me how people justify actions and so on when the offender is a celebrity. Shouldn't matter who you are.
By Gillian.. Posted October 11 2009 at 11:25 AM.
please paul change your life i am like you .i stopped drinking and abuse from cocain already 4 months now i feel that im a diffrent man now please paul do it . put GOD in your life GOD BLESS YOU
By john wilson.. Posted October 11 2009 at 11:06 AM.
She's took the guy for everything he had so why can't she leave him alone now instead of trying to make more from stories like this
By John.. Posted October 11 2009 at 11:02 AM.
At least she's writing/written the book now while he's still alive and able to defend himself if he wants to. Unlike a lot who produce these types of books after the subject is dead and unable to. It's more credible she's chosen to do it now.
By Bev.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:52 AM.
Exactly how is this book helping victims of domestic abuse? I was a victim myself and had no choice but to stay put with my children until i had found somewhere for us to go. Every week a womens charity tried to find us a safe unit to stay but didnt have any available. If Sheryl wants to help these women - and their children - so much, she should give up some of the rooms in her big house and give these women a place where they can stay, feel safe and escape the violence.
By p.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:26 AM.
why is she bringing out these accusations now? she is just a more haggered looking jordan! will do or say anything for money obviously! she makes me sick.
By sandy.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:27 AM.
If he was so bad Cheryl, move on and stop using him to make money. While i believe she had a tough time in this marriage, I don't believe it is as bad as she said or she wouldnt still be having sex with him 5 years after they divorced cos she was finally free of the monster. Funny how she wanted him back and to rescue him from his demons not long ago, he wasn't interested and found another woman and now here's the revenge book telling the world what a bad husband he was. I think she is pathetic
By Julie.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:32 AM.
I really hope Sheryl donates some of the procedes of the sales of her book to Refuge, that will really put things right as far as I'm concerned. I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years, and my ex husband was exactly the same. The sex drive, the horrendous mood swings , the worry for what will he do next? Thanks to Sheryl another woman has realised 'that was wrong and not my fault'! It's very sad that Paul is a walking time bomb, but he has been supported by many people and refuses to address his illness, so to condemn Sheryl really makes a mockery out of everything - she was part of the problem in as much as she was in love with him - I hope she has now finally moved on, and perhaps at some stage is able to trust someone again, and find the happiness she deserves, as we all do - even Paul if he cared to realise.
By Michelle.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:17 AM.
Totally agree with comments from Dirtybird and Alan. She has lived off Gazza for years. He's been fairly honest and admitted what he was like, and never really dealt with the fame he had. People seem to forget he ws the most gifted footballer of his time (Sir Bobby Robson's words not just mine). And, as others have said , unless you are or live with an alcoholic you don't know.
Move away and get a life woman! Stop living off him and get some pride, maybe get a job yourself.
By Jan.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:24 AM.
If she really wants to help other women out there, she should give the book out for free or give all money from this book to charity, otherwise is money making out of poor Gaza.
By sn0m.. Posted October 11 2009 at 10:05 AM.
This woman is vile, yes she had a bad time with Gazza (and ive no sympathy for him anymore) but for someone who treated her so bad, she still uses his name, still sells stories about him,if he was that bad then youd revert back to your maiden name move on and think thank god im out of that!,
She should really thank Gazza as, with all her story telling he is still supported her financially after all these years.
By Dirtybird.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:54 AM.
Its starting to seem like you just want to cash in to be honest, and whilst I certainly do not condone what he has done, can't you just move on? And if he's such a bad man, why do you allow your daughter to use his name? Oh yeah, to be famous! Don't let what has happen in the past to define you as a person now. Move on!
By Ben.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:59 AM.
I doubt we would be hearing this rubbish if there wasn't money to be made. I mean, come on! Seventy times a week!!!
By Paul.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:46 AM.
he is a drunken cry baby, and deserves all he gets, he can destroy his own life but not others, those who think he is wonderful have no standards, i have no pity for someone who is happy to destroy hiself, with no thought of others.
By T collins.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:41 AM.
strange how it all surfaces now 11 years later if he was so bad why last year did she want him back, if he hadnt married her maybe his life would have turned out a little differant. why would anyone want to buy a book about her if it wasnt for gazza no one would even have heard of her
By adrienne.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:35 AM.
Paul by his own admission is an Alcoholic, a much misunderstood illness, to make money out of a man who when drunk is not responsible for his own actions is awful. My ex wife could have made a fortune, instead when I got sober she became my friend and helped me in my own ongoing recovery. Cheryl take a break ring Al Anon instead of condeming him try to understand
Paul I pray one day you accept your illness only then will you move on
By Jon.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:37 AM.
My father is a raging alcoholic. Unless you've experienced it, you'll never truly understand the emotional response to the situation. I still love my father deeply and would love for him to get better. I just can't be around or communicate with him while he's drinking. The problem our family have had is that we allowed his drinking to go on, unchecked, for far too long. I have the utmost sympathy for Sheryl Gascoigne, and I respect and admire her enormously for coming out and revealing the reality of her scenario with Paul Gascoigne. If by her doing this, just one person sees the warning signs within their own reality then Sheryl will have more than justified herself. Carole Malone, you should be ashamed of yourself for allowing your opinion to be published - if it is indeed your true opinion. You've just baited a whole host of anti-Sheryl feeling for absolutely no reason whatsoever. Even if it was simply a money making exercise on Sheryl's part - which I'm 100% sure it isn't - but even if it was, surely all anyone has to do is not buy her book? Rather than be incited by Carole Malone to leave some of the ridiculously illthought comments that they have already left. Sheryl, if you're reading this, I salute your bravery for coming forward and highlighting a problem that we should all be aware and understanding of.
By Ollie.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:38 AM.
Feel very sad for Paul and she has certainly blown any sympathy I had for her. He has an ILLNESS and needs help, not kicking while he appears to be teetering so near the edge.
By Alan.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:30 AM.
I certainly dont condon what Gazza done to her and he admits the abuse in his book...
But she knew what she was getting into when she married him and why has it taken so long for her to come out and say all this...
She's out for one thing and its money...
By Shaun Baird.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:20 AM.
I've been in an abusive relationship, and I have found Sheryl's interview very helpful. Like Sheryl, too, sex played a large part, but I had no idea it's a common theme in an abusive relationship. I don't really talk about it to anyone, so hearing someone elses experiences makes me realise that what I experienced was actually, not my fault. Those words, she repeats, 'you never show me any love, you never show me any affection' are the same words used by every abusive partner across the country. I have heard the same words a hundred times. Well done Sheryl for speaking out.
By CT.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:24 AM.
i thing get a job earn your own money and stop living of the man you hate.
then you will be free but no not the ex mrs gazza
she will milk paul for life.
he is no saint he has done wrong but she is a vile person end of.
By john moore.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:14 AM.
If he was so bad and such a terrible bully why hasn't she changed her surname? Cos if she doesn't have his name then she truly is a NOBODY,that's why.
By eileen.. Posted October 11 2009 at 9:16 AM.
AT the end of the day people Gazza is a disgrace to his family.He has chosen the filthy path he chooses to go down he is killing himself.End of
By brian... Posted October 11 2009 at 9:15 AM.
I feel sorry for Sheryl.... Paul Gascoigne is a waste of space...Good luck with the book Sheryl!
By Claire.. Posted October 11 2009 at 8:52 AM.
This woman needs to get a life and leave him alone. How much more money can you milk out of this?? Yes he has been wrong in the past but he has admitted to that but for god sake get on with your life and leave him alone. If he is tha bad why have they still got his name, why has her kids? They'd be nobodys without him - they all need to get proper jobs and leave him alone.
By Steph.. Posted October 11 2009 at 8:49 AM.
I agree that she should donate her fees to womens refuge as she's chosen now to come out with these accusations, but why is everyone feeling so sorry for Gazza, he is slowly killing himself with the booze, what kind of parental responsibility is he showing, its his son Regan I feel sorry for, having to watch his parents having slanging matches, his father an alcoholic who is going down the same road as George Best, to me its always looked like Gazza thinks of himself ONLY, if he really doted on his son he would have shown him more attention and fought to get himself sorted in rehab. Poor Regan.
By julie.. Posted October 11 2009 at 8:45 AM.
Yes Cheryl is right to talk. She has ever right to explain and defend herself. The information that other women can learn from the story is invaluable also.
Such a strong woman now because she's had to be. Paul should be ashamed of himself, even though I appreciate that he has a deep rooted illness, what he's put this family through is totally unacceptable.
I think that Cheryl's decision to stay away from him is not only the right decision, its the only decision that she could make to keep herself and her family safe.
Stay strong Cheryl and move on with yours and your childrens' lives.
By Joanne.. Posted October 11 2009 at 8:36 AM.
I think some of the comments are really cruel. Who doesn't do books these days....She was abused so you have no right to be ofensive to her......This blind faith in Gazza regardles s of what he's done is ridiculus....he's just another man
By ricky broomfield.. Posted October 11 2009 at 8:19 AM.
what a vile hag and dont even mention that repulsive daughter of hers uuurghhh
By zoopy.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:50 AM.
OMG her and her silly cow of a daughter make me sick .......i feel the same as carole malone ...the 2 of them are just total users ,and they are so knarked now Gazas got a life without them grow up u silly cows
By nadine.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:39 AM.
Kick a man when he is down!! you horrible woman.
Who are you anyway?
By barbara.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:35 AM.
DO NOT BUY HER BOOK.
By daren.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:09 AM.
leave Gazza alone,hes been wrong and held his hands up, any problems he has are not helped by you making things up to make some money,sad sad.
By daren.. Posted October 11 2009 at 7:07 AM.
2 sides to this story, if you read Gazza's own story, he admits to behaving terribly, largely due to drink. But throughout his life, its been clear that this woman has taken him to the cleaners.
By chrissi.. Posted October 11 2009 at 6:56 AM.
You are a old LEACH with no pride.You have bled him for years!What have you done with all his money that you have to show your A**e selling this story?
By meneverywhere.. Posted October 11 2009 at 6:30 AM.
I hope this book is in the fiction section,because i dont believe a word of it.Sheryl is a money grabbing cow who is still trying to milk gazza dry after all these years.Go away and take yor horrible daughter with you.
By Victoria.. Posted October 11 2009 at 6:41 AM.
Dictionary:- Sheryl Gascoigne = Gold-Digger.
In the Sun 10/10/09 Sheryl said ' after making the documentary I was approached to write a book. The money was good'.
In my opinion, if she wants to help other women who have been through similar to what she has been 'through' then she should give all profits from her book to a recognised charity that helps and supports women who are victims of abuse.
Her big country house probably costs a lot to maintain as does the botox and with no apparent job, I guess she needs the money, now that Gazza isn't her cash cow anymore.
By Cat.. Posted October 11 2009 at 6:28 AM.
I say go for it tell your story ignore what these idiots say,it's not as thou you haven't tried to help Gazza!
By Shell.. Posted October 11 2009 at 6:21 AM.
You money grabbing bitch - you're looking old now like - need more money for cosmetic surgery?
Maybe if Paul had married a better woman one who really loved him and didn't just marry him for his name or money he wouldn't be where he is now!
Good Luck Gazza - your well rid of that one!
By Robbo.. Posted October 11 2009 at 5:45 AM.
GO AWAY.
By dee.. Posted October 11 2009 at 5:44 AM.
KERCHING!
Another story sold by this pathetic woman!
Stick her right up there with Heather Mills.
GO AWAY!
By jake.. Posted October 11 2009 at 2:19 AM.
Its all publicity for her so people buy her book MONEY MONEY MONEY thats all its about
By mike.. Posted October 11 2009 at 2:15 AM.
It is amazing,that after elevan years she is deciding to bring these stories to light.This should have been reported when it happend so that her experiences could help other women in the same situation.I find this wrong because here we have a woman just about to publish her book and she is dishing the dirt so that people will say "oh poor you" lets buy some copies.I am totaly against any man who hurts a woman,for a woman is in this world to be pampered and spoilt,or am i being old fashioned
By Bobby.. Posted October 11 2009 at 1:31 AM.
Still living beyond her means.
Funny how these memories come rushing to the surface as the bank balance rushes to the floor, with striking regularity.
The same with Sheryl's daughter, not Gazza's, still, like her mother, a pair of nobody's continuing to live off the entrails of a once great footballer's career.
The whole world can see your game Sheryl. No doubt, next year's story line will be something about Gazza hovering above the bed or having sex with a martian. You name it, she'll try it.
By Ken.H.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:58 AM.
i take it all her money she extracted from gazza has run out now she bares her soul in a book for money what a joke i feel sorry for gazza ot think all she has ever done is make money off his back...
By mark.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:41 AM.
If she is "doing this to help other women" then why doesnt she prove it and donate her "Exclusive Story Fee" and also the profits from the book to womens refuge charities. But I doubt she will do this, and How come her Daughter changed her name to Gascoigne, he never adopted her so she is just trading on his name to get herself a free loading lifestyle.
By Mikey.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:37 AM.
I hope Sheryl reads some of the comments on this column. For her it's all about money money money. She dumped her husband and hooked with mega-rich Gazza; she keeps running to Newspapers to spill the beans because of money and her daughter abandone her own biological father's name for a so-called wife beater's surname...again because of money.
I there no end to Sheryl's insatiable want for money? Anyone who is gullible enough can go and buy her book.
By Emeka.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:27 AM.
look posh spice was not the first wag this lady was. and i tell you she didnot have to marry him,but she did and woops later quickly divorced himand got a big settlement. i can not stand her and her daughter they are not even his family and making money off him i am a woman and i lnow this is all bull. the man is ill, listen don,t you think this woman is making money off his illness........... i think so.
By karon.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:14 AM.
and Bianca still uses his name for fame, after everything he has put her mam thru, dear oh dear, I know where your loyalties are Bianca!!! Gazza grew up near me and I know he has told a lot of lies in his book to get sympathy. Cheryl you are best off without him, please tell your daughter to change her name as it really looks like she is using his name for fame and its embarrasing and degrading for you.
By anon.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:01 AM.
I have to agree with tena 10:53PM
By Trudy.. Posted October 11 2009 at 12:00 AM.
I guess she needs some money.
By Gordon Hickley.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:58 PM.
This repulsive woman has made more than enough money out of Gazza's name. I wish she would just disappear and leave him alone.
By suzy.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:56 PM.
Looks like she is trying to cash in on the poor guy. Does this woman have no shame? Or a proper job?
By Mark.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:52 PM.
What an attention seeking saddo the whole family live off this guys name if they hate him so much why do they still use his surname to try and earn money?
By Phill.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:52 PM.
In an exclusive interview to launch her explosive new book
sums her up and her fame hungry kids. crawl back in ur hole love.
By andrew.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:46 PM.
Why the reveal now? Is this because there is a book coming out? Still trying to cash in? It's disgusting. She seems pretty willing to spill the beans all for a good lump of cash. If it's all so true why would you want to relive the pain and hurt? going through it again word for word? It would be devastating, that is of course if what she says is true. If Paul is the monster she says she he is then surely she'd want nothing to do with him, she would not want to be associated with him let alone take his surname. She is disgusting. VILE.
By Nicole.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:45 PM.
Unfortunately she was a nobody before she met gazza, and as a person still is, she will only ever be Gazza's ex wife.... I would never condone or approve of what Gazza has done or how he has behaved, but she has already taken her share, and having kept quiet for so many years I am just a sync to think she is desperate for headlines yet again.... she has nothing to say about herself or the fact she has actually never achieved anything .... so lets have a new revelation about her own personal gravy train GAZZA.
Give it a rest and get a life of your own rather than just milking someone else's'
By Alan.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:43 PM.
There will be plenty of people commenting on this who are not very intelligent and therefore unable to see the fine-line distinction between permissive and coersive sex. Sadly, it's that gap of understanding that continues to allow men and women to abuse eachother.
Is this all too clever for you? Well, bottom-line is, She's right, he'll eventually kill himself by accident. A nation might mourn but abused men and women nation-wide will simply shake their heads and say I told you so.
By em.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:42 PM.
Why the reveal now? Is this because there is a book coming out? Still trying to cash in? It's disgusting. She seems pretty willing to spill the beans all for a good lump of cash. If it's all so true why would you want to relive the pain and hurt? going through it again word for word? It would be devastating, that is of course if what she says is true. If Paul is the monster she says she he is then surely she'd want nothing to do with him, she would not want to be associated with him let alone take his surname. She is disgusting. VILE.
By Nicole.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:38 PM.
What a load of rubbish, she nneded Gazza because he was shy and immature and she took advantage, like the years have on her looks. It is an exercise to make money from DROSS. Get a life
By Gazza.. Posted October 10 2009 at 11:34 PM.