Jeff takes his boys to Australia

I am quite shocked at the negative comments against Jade's wishes, and poor Jeff implimenting it, These kids and the entire family have been through a lot duiring the last few weeks of Jade's deterioration, they have been griefing from the moment she was fading away from them, preparing your family to grace a memorable life of yours whiles you are dying must be the toughest decision for any family to go through, it is no comfort to observe the kids' presence at their mum's funeral to acclaim the love and respect they would have had for her, and since there are certainly adult decisions to consider on this occasion, and having the wonderful memories be instulled in the boy of their mother is admirable by all involved, it's impossible to make any judgements in this case. Let this relistic human being rest in perfect peace!!!

By Fel.. Posted April 4 2009 at 2:48 PM.

I took my then 17mth old son to his dad's funeral, at the time it was the right thing to do, my son wasn't at an age where he knew his dad was in the coffin etc. But if my son was the age of Jade's children then no I wouldn't of allowed him to attend. They are at a very tender age and I completly agree they should remember they're mum as she was and not in a box, with god knows how many people crying around them.

RIP Jade

By Sarah.. Posted April 2 2009 at 5:01 PM.

i think that Jeff taking the children away while all this is happening is the best thing he can do for the childre.i have 3 children and i would hate for my kids to hear and see my funeral.

By kirsty.. Posted April 2 2009 at 7:34 AM.

I really think that Jeff has taken a wrong decision by taking the children to Australia afterwards that would be the last respect for thier mum.
And how will Jeff himself feels holidaying in Australia whiles the mother of two children is being buried behind him.

By Percy Preston.. Posted March 31 2009 at 8:20 PM.

I find it amazing that people have such strong opinions about this. No one knows what is best for their children at a time like this. It is upto the parent to decide. Personally, I wouldn't want my children at my funeral at the age they are now (younger than Jade's), but not everyone will feel the same way as me.

I feel for thouse children because they have lost their mother and I wouldn't wish what Jade had to go through on anyone it was absolutely tragic. I think that the British public have very short memories though two years ago everyone was slating Jade for the Shilpa incident and no one wished to be associated with her at all. Now everyone loves her again and this page is full of comments about how well loved she was. All of this will be forgotton about in 2 years time aswell. Do what you think is best for your children Jeff no one else can tell you what to do.

By Donna.. Posted March 30 2009 at 5:35 PM.

Hope those boys can be left alone, and have some time to themselves without the media circus.
A wise decision

By seena.. Posted March 30 2009 at 11:49 AM.

AND HER WISH WILL BE FULFILLED.
IT WAS JADE'S WISH THAT THE BOYS DO NOT ATTEND THE FUNERAL AND JEFF IS DOING THE RIGHT THING TO TAKE THEM AWAY .JEFF HAS TO BE WITH THE BOYS AND I AM SURE IT WOULDNT BE EASY FOR HIM TRYING TO CHEER THE BOYS WHILE THE FUNERAL IS GOING ON, BUT HE'S THE MAN TO KEEP HIS PROMISE TO JADE TO KEEP THE BOYS AWAY ON THE DAY .THE BOYS HAVE GOOD MEMORIES OF THIER MUM ,IT 'S THE SPECIAL DAYS BEST TO BE REMEMBERED BY ESPECIALLY BY CHILDREN.GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

By From Malta With Love.. Posted March 30 2009 at 11:05 AM.

I'm another mum and having my children visit my grave when no mass of people are there and quietly being able to say goodbye is much better than the huge circus that will go on this week, these are little people. They aren't missing saying " goodbye" to mum, they are just going to say it a little later in a quiet place. I just hope the media let them do this. So long as these children have love around them and they do seem to they will have a very happy life, and being boys their dad will be able to give them so much. And granny is there for them too.

By Jo .. Posted March 30 2009 at 8:55 AM.

i think jeff has made the right decision, my mam and her sister lost their mam over 65 yrs ago and they were same ages as those little boys and to this day my mam and her sister only have memories of the funeral and not much else because the funeral was a high profile thing in their lives, i cannot image what jade and jeffs boys would remember with a more bigger media event, although people think that photos etc they are shown sticks in their minds, if a bigger event such as the funeral in jades case that will i would think stick more than photos, my grandad did same as jeff and my mam and sister are in their 70s now and respect him for doing it, i think jeff is such a caring dad, those boys have to make a new life without a mother and jeff is trying to do that from day one because it is not a circus arena, it is lives we are talking about, jade did all she could to give them a different life to her own, jackiey and jack are not exactly good role models, their past history tells us that, and jade worked so hard to change her life for the better when she got the opportunity and she did it so well too, she respected her mother, what does jack do for a living? a model? where? i have never seen him in anything to be honest, it just seems to me these people used jade for her wealth and are now hitting off the back of it all for future celebrity status not working for what they are supposed to be doing for a living, good luck jeff, and god bless you jade xxxxxx

By amy.. Posted March 30 2009 at 8:38 AM.

I understand the reason for taking the boys away because the press would be pointing there cameras at the boys all of the time and that would be adding to there pain.
I'm sure Jade would have left what she wanted for your lovely boys.
I think Jeff could get the boys to draw a small picture for Jade on the 4th April and put it onto a balloon so it would go into the sky.

By margie.. Posted March 30 2009 at 2:00 AM.

Although my heart goes out to Jack, Jeff and Jades two beautiful boys i feel that attending the funeral will give them closure on this very sad and tragic situation. I live in Australia and i can assure you, Jade is on the news everywhere over here and so they won't be completely away from it all. However, I do understand how they are wanting to protect Bobby and Freddie from it all. i was kept away from a funeral when i was young and it stayed with me for years...It made my scared..closure is a good thing. xxx RIP Jade xxx

By Jilly Lovell.. Posted March 30 2009 at 12:00 AM.

awww bless there little hearts xxx jeff you do whats best for those little ones xx all the best for the future xxxxxxxxx

By Nicola.. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:54 PM.

Good on you Jeff, putting the boys first. Let them remember their mum smiling and happy and not in a box surrounded by sad mourners. Hope you all have a great holiday and lots of best wishes for your future. I'm a Hospice nurse and see the pain and suffering patients and family experience every day. I know the boys will come through this with love and support from those who care. Bless you all and take care x

By Sue.. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:44 PM.

My thoughts entirely. Funerals are not for children especially when it's mummy. Those boy's want to remember the good times they had with her.
Jeff couldn't have handled this situation any better with so much dignity. We all forget he too loved Jade.

By KATE.. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:21 PM.

When children are born unfortunately they don't come with a manual, all children are different. When my father in-law passed away my daughter was only 18 months old, he adored her and she adored him, I did take her to the funeral, she is now 14 years old and said she was glad I let her go as she got to say her last good bye and said one of her friends wasn't aloud to attend her grandads funeral when she was 5 and can't forgive her parents for not allowing her to go. I personally think the boys should attend as well as Jeff because if it hadn't been for Jade, Jeff wouldn't have two gorgeous boys, celebrate her life and leave for your holiday after the funeral but there is no right or wrong on what ever Jeff and the boys do decide to do, the only thing that really upsets me is the ill talk about Jeff, Jack and Jackie, that’s for another story…..

By Helen.. Posted March 29 2009 at 10:37 PM.

U WILL BE FINE JEFF WITH BOBBIE N FREDDIE YOU WILL JUST HAVE TO SURVIVE BIT I WOULD LET JACK BE WITH THE BOYS FOR A BIT OR MAYBE LET JACK ON HOIDAY WITH YOU. I DONT MIND WHAT YOU DO AS LONG AS YOU KEEP YOURSELF BOBBIE AND FREDIE SAFE

By LAURA.. Posted March 29 2009 at 10:36 PM.

Don't you know how to spell hysteria!-Bambi!
Also, boys should read boys'!
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By jeanjeannie.. Posted March 29 2009 at 9:56 PM.

r i p jade

By millie.. Posted March 29 2009 at 9:14 PM.

I think this is a very difficult time for Jeff, i'm sure he would have loved to be at the funeral to pay his repects but he is also thinking whats best for the boys, jade did not want her boys to remember her ill and the suffering pain she went through or tears at the funeral, she was a very bubbly person and thats how she wants her boys to remember her, so i feel Jeff is doing what jade wanted, I wish Jeff and the boys every happiness and stay strong together and not forgetting her husband Jack, be strong jack, it's going be a sad day but all our thoughts are with you and jade, Jade is looking over you and the boys.
R.I.P JADE xxxxxx

By Debbs.. Posted March 29 2009 at 9:10 PM.

There is a lot of sadness at the moment,and im sure that Jeff and the boys are painfully aware that next weekend is going to be very difficult.Jade was a caring mum and very aware that hers boys did not see her so very ill,she put together a memory box for them and im sure that they do not need to see their mum burried to know that shes gone!Small children need to be secure and well loved to get through some thing as sad as this.Therefore I do feel the boys should go away. i will be very sad next saturday as will a lot of people,only when they are older they will see how much their mum was loved by us,the boys will feel very proud!!!!

By janette.. Posted March 29 2009 at 9:03 PM.

Well done Jeff, in my opinion a very wise decision and in also respecting Jade's wishes. It might have been different if it were to be a simple, family ceremony but the reality is that it's not going to be.

To all those who criticise Jeff for his decision, it's actually none of your business. He is their father and is putting them first, exactly as he should do now that he has FULL custody. He is the one who is going to provide their stability and keeping the boys out of the media circus is an excellent start.

Let's face it, Jack Tweedy is not an exemplary role model and the likelihood is that he's not going to be around them very much in the near future due to his forthcoming sentencing. He can hardly continue to use Jade and her sons as his reason for personal freedom and needs to pay his dues.

My very best wishes to Jeff and the boys in this difficult chapter of their lives. God Bless.

By Nanna.. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:29 PM.

I think Jeff is doing what Jade wanted for the kids and he is looking out for the best interests of them both.All them people who have made comments to say their should go "SHUTUP" Jeff you do what best for your boys.Good luck for the future and all have a great hoilday.

By claire Jackson.. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:35 PM.

Well done Jeff, what a lovely self respectful man.
Your two boys are a credit to the both of you, enjoy the holiday the best you all can, your two boys have no Mum in the world anymore but will always remember her, and they have their memories but one of the main memories they do not need is the funeral and the media frenzy so take your boys and although you may be breaking inside, do this for your boys.

By H T.. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:51 PM.

Jeff is doing what Jade would have wanted and also what a loving Dad would do for his kids.

He is putting their welfare first at a very delicate and sensitive time for those 2 boys.

Jade wanted the boys to remember her as she was bright bubbly and vivacious not being mourned and seeing her coffin.

I have every faith in Jeff and think he will do a great job.

By Conkers.. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:50 PM.

I dont understand why Jeff is not attending Jade's funeral..he has had them 2 beautiful children with her, and yet he is not going? I personally find that pretty nasty, but then again it's Jeff's choice.
Too the boys, I agree with them not going and I wish them all the best...
R.I.P Jade xxx

By Rosie.. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:20 PM.

The spelling in some of these comments are so poor, its like they have SEN. Their and there are not to difficult to understand. As for Jeff (not Geff) taking the kids away, its a good idea because I imagine the circus will be well and truly in town....horrible false outpouring of grief, and displays of hyteria. The boys cried their eyes out at the wedding too. Jeff seems to be a good dad, and as a successful TV presenter, Jade did not really have to worry too much about the boys economic future did she.

By Donna.. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:01 PM.

l lost my son last year aged 28 my grandaughter went to her dads funeral but she was 10 and was able to make her own mind up when children are younger like jades i dont think they really understand where there mummy has gone and i think jeff as made a wise decission, why but the children through that when they dont even know what a funreal is. let them remember jade as they do in there own mind

By cath.. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:14 PM.

Im sorry but I do really think Jeff should pay his respects at Jades funeral and even the children should go going to Australia is really not going to help much for they will return only to be remembered of what as happened children have different minds and yes I can see Jeffs point but I do see a feud with the boys in later years when Jeff as to explain why they didnt attend and before I get comments Ive been through it and believe me the children will want answers and as to Jack he is devoted to them 2 boys I bet they would be with Jack if they were given chance for he as been in there lives longer and forget about what he as done its how he treated Jade and the boys I really think Jack is a good step-father and no matter what he as done in the past it should not come into the childrens upbringing so Im sorry Im not happy with Jeff not going to the funeral and in a few years just watch who those boys need and ill tell you Jack my opinion god bless you Jade you were Bermondseys princess you will be so missed xxx

By victoria Ingham .. Posted March 29 2009 at 7:23 PM.

My opinion is that Jeff is doing the right thing they are children, not old enough to fully understand what a funeral & thats its their mum inside that coffin is, Jade would rather have them enjoying themselves a million miles away rather than being at her funeral, while they see Jack, Jackey & everyone else breaking their hearts, it will be too much for them. I was 8 when my beloved Granfer died and I didnt understand the funeral at all, I remember my mum taking me shopping for a bright coloured floral dress as she didnt want me to wear black & be sad, but i recall laughing in the church running around at the wake as i didnt understand the full concept of what the day was, yes i cried when I saw my Dad, Mum & Nan cry but i know my Granfer wouldnt have wanted that as I was his happy angel and thats whats Jades boys are to her x x x x

By kelly liddiatt.. Posted March 29 2009 at 7:21 PM.

I really feel sorry for the children....they are so young to lose their Mother. Its comforting to know they have a very supportive Father.

By Ravi007.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:23 PM.

This is the right decision. Jade most certainly would not have wanted her boys last memories of her in a box and hundreds of people around. Have a good time.

By Lynne Brosnan.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:22 PM.

It is the best thing Jeff could do is to take the boys away from the funeral. I agree with the majority, it is the best action. Avoid the boys being affected by the funeral at all costs. Try and enjoy the time away. I always remember my grandfather in his coffin from when I was a child. The image has stayed with me. I can't imagine how severe it would be for the boys to realise their mum is in that coffin. It would destroy their little minds. Best thing all round,- enjoy the break. God Bless you's.

By lisa barb.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:13 PM.

let them be ...... & god bless them

By craig.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:38 PM.

Weather to allow a child to attend a loved ones funeral is a deeply personal decision to make.

I lost my beloved Nan last year & my 4 yr old also adored her Grandma so my husband & I decided that she should be at her funeral. She got to say Goodbye & wasn't upset,afraid or distressed at any point in the whole day. Jeff's doing what He thinks is best for his & Jades boys & for that he cannot be criticised.

By Hayley, Kent.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:50 PM.

U LOT ARE IDIOTS, ASK THE BOYS IF THEY WANT TO GO TO THERE MOTHERS FUNNERAL??I TAKE IT THESE PEOPLE DONT HAVE CHILDREN OF THERE OWEN, AND AS FOR SAYING, JEFF IS ONLY KEEPING THE BOYS FOR THE 4 MILLION, YOU R NUTS, HE IS THERE FATHER FOR GODS SAKE, HE MIGHT HAVE BEEN THERE ONLY EVERY OTHER WEEK, BUT THAT WAS BETWEEN HIM AND JADE, AND NO JACK IS NOT A GOOD ROLE MODAL, HE IS IN AND OUT OF JAIL , HE WAS WITH JADE THEN HE WASENT DO YOU NOT THINK THE BOYS WOULD NOT HAVE SEEN HER UPSET EVERTIME HE WALKED OUT ??? TAKE IT FROM ME HE WILL BE BACK IN JAIL TIME AND TIME AGAIN, LIKE I HAVE BEEN SAYING FOR WEEKS NOW JADE JEFF WILL LOOK AFTER YOUR BOYS VERY WELL , AND IM SORRY FOR JADES MOTHERS LOSS, BUT I DONT THINK SHE IS A GOOD ROLE MODEL, FOR THE BOYS, R. I. P. JADE GOOD LUCK TO JEFF AND THE BOYS X X X

By LILLIAN.. Posted March 29 2009 at 7:03 PM.

you do wots best for u and your boys .They are so precious xxxx

By karon.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:03 PM.

i think he is doing what jade wanted we dont know what they spoke about the boys good on you jeff have a great time in oz with the boys you will see jades star shining no matter were yous go god bless R.I.P JADE

By sandra dublin.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:03 PM.

i think he is doing what jade wanted we dont know what they spoke about the boys good on you jeff have a great time in oz with the boys you will see jades star shining no matter were yous go god bless R.I.P JADE

By sandra dublin.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:02 PM.

If I could I would have also spared my son travelling in a funeral car watching his dad go first in his coffin. My son was 13yrs old and wanted to attend his father's funeral, he made a moving speech and was my man that day. He is now 18yrs old and his dad would have been proud. Loosing a parent whatever age is hard. Jeff will be a good father and his son's will grow in his love for them.

By Tracy.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:57 PM.

I think that Jade was a loving mother to her two sons, Who delayed telling her two sons till the very end because she did not want to hurt them, so i don't think she would want to be looking down on them distressed at her funeral, Yes she will be the brightest star in the sky looking down on them in Australia as she said. And she will always be there by their sides through their lives, there is a heaven i experienced it. I think Jeff is being a brilliant father and i also think they should leave Jack alone Jade loved him and so did her two little boys. Its pretty upsetting to hear stupid remarks on the selling of this story, you know what that is a loving mother making sure that her children are financially secure. From humble beginnings Jade you succeeded, Stardom you are one of the brightest stars, Rest in Peace Susie x

By Susie.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:56 PM.

It's never going to be easy to make the decisions that Jeff will now have to make. There will always be someone who disagrees with him because Jade was so well loved. Her sons were her prority and she only wanted the best for them, like any mother would.
Bobby and Freddie have been through so much and at such a young age. Although they will want to know where their mother is when they return, I'm sure Jeff has their best interests at heart.
The pain they would suffer by attending her funeral would be traumatic for all. It's not what Jade wanted, so why put them through it.
They and her beloved husband and mother will have said goodbye in their own way and will want to remember the good times they shared. not the pain and sorrow of a funeral.
I have followed Jades career from the start and I really admire what she achieved. She was a high spirited person who knew right from wrong. She apologised for the mistaked she made, but always come out smiling.
I laughed and cried with her. That is the impact this simple Essex girl had on so many people. Her fight with cervical cancer showed the world what a strong character Jade was. She will always be remembered for that and her legacy will live on to save many, many women with this awful disease.
When Jeff takes those boys to Australia, I'm sure that somewhere, somehow, Jade will be with them, in mind and in spirit. Our Loss, is now Heavens Gain.

By Cindy Callender.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:20 PM.

I think jeff is doing the best thing for his and jade's boys i wouldnt be able to bare watching those two boys trying to understand why their mum is in a box leave them remember her for the way she was. the media would have been all over them for the juciest pics i know jade lived her short life in the pubic eye but its now time for those two boys to start to rebuild their lives with their dad out of the spotlight.. rip jade xxxxx

By tracy simons.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:16 PM.

Sinead, your comments re Jeff are spiteful. He has been a fantastic Father, ALWAYS in their lives.

Jack is a terrible role model, always in and out of their lives like a yo-yo.

By A WOOD.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:15 PM.

Totally the right decision Jeff. I have nothing but admiration for the way you have handled yourself throughout this awful time. It's felt at times as though you have been written out of the 'story' being sold to the media. You have kept quiet & maintained respect for the boys mother which will be so important to them as they grow up.

As for Jack there appears to be a re-writing of history. Jade & Jack split up in 2007 due to his immaturity (as per Jade) following the loss of the baby she was expecting by him. His crimes were commited in the months they were apart. They only got back together then she was diagnosed with cancer (mid 2008). Not long after this he went down only coming out in Jan 2009. All this about Jack being a father to these boys on a long term basis is manufactured for reasons we can all speculate on. But doesn't really matter the only father these boys have had since birth is Jeff who now has full-time custody. He has a massive job bringing up these boys particularly over the next few months as they come to terms with their loss & all he can do is his best. I'm sure he will.

By Lynne P.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:14 PM.

Jeff is a fantastic dad, he has kept himself low key but always supportive to his sons. He has certainly made a wise choice. The eldest boy was in tears when he had holy water put on him at the Christening. Imagine how he would be during the service? The funeral and the publicity will be overwelming and traumatic. We were never allowed to attend funerals as a child, but we were aware they had died and never forgot the person we had lost. Jeff has made a dignified and right decision. God bless you and your little boys. I hope they grow up with Jades smile and your common sense.
Love Shirl. Skegness xxxx

By Shirl.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:14 PM.

Good for you Jeff you are doing what their mother asked you to do. Ignore any dissenters, you are doing your job as their daddy. Their wellbeing is your priority and who can blame you for that.

By Jackie from Norwich.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:11 PM.

has anyone asked the boys whether they would like to go to the funeral? i am sure if they were prepared for it they would be able to cope, and have the holiday straight after. jade was the most important person to them in the world and vice versa, they should at least have the option. children deal better with the truth than lies, however well meaning. i attended a relatives funeral as a child and it helped to give "closure" as they say. australia will still be there the day after the funeral.

By michelle mckay.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:11 PM.

@Bambi - also going way off the point, what about 'should of', 'could of', etc?
And I do wish Jeff and his boys all the very best - no-one else is in any position to judge Jade or Jeff at all. They shared a great love of their children and only want what's best for them. Their intentions are good, the children are much loved - that's all that matters.

By MalMonroe.. Posted March 29 2009 at 4:57 PM.

People must remember that Jade didn't want her sons to suffer. Jeff is doing what every caring father would do fulfiling their mother's wish. Jeff is their father regardless of what people say; he has the right to protect his sons. Money cannot buy unconditional love, which the boys are clearly getting from Jeff. I'm glad they will be away from the media attention for three weeks. I feel sorry for Jackiey though, she seems to be lost without Jade and i hope she's being looked after. May Jades Soul Rest In Peace.

By Delphine.. Posted March 29 2009 at 4:54 PM.

Thank goodness. Jade wanted it that way - she struggled so hard to accumulate funds for her boys once she knew she was dying as well and no-one could ever criticise her for doing the best she could for her children. I doubt it will be anything like a 'normal' private funeral and they will be in the best place. A lovely way to show both parents' united great love for these two very young boys.

By malmonroe.. Posted March 29 2009 at 4:53 PM.

i met jeff a few years ago and i dont think the kids could have had a better father than him he is a gentleman so best wishes to jeff

By Dean Wilson.. Posted March 29 2009 at 4:25 PM.

Upon first reading this story, late last night, I felt very moved by Jeff's decision to take his sons on a bonding holiday, to Australia. I agree, it's best if the children do not attend their mother's funeral. However, having given it further thought, I feel Jeff wants the boys, out of the country, when Jade's husband, Jack Tweed, is sentenced later on in April. Jack adores those boys, and has been like a father to them. Bobby and Freddie feel the same about Jack. The question I would like to ask, is: Was Jack used as a scapegoat in all this? Did Jade decide to marry Jack to avoid inheritance tax? I fear that Bobby and Freddie will suffer a double loss upon their return from Oz; their mummy will have been buried, and their best friend, Jack, will be in prison. I hope this is not the case. Jack helped Jade to look after those two children, whilst Jeff only had them every other weekend. Jade mentioned in her autobiography, that Jeff once offered her £11 maintainance. Jeff does not mind playing the devoted dad now, when the children have a £4m inheritance.

God rest your soul, Jade, and God bless your two little boys. xxx

By Sinead.. Posted March 29 2009 at 4:21 PM.

Let the children pay their last respect to their mother. They saw her suffering so they will be brave enough to see her dead. When they grow old they would want to know how their mother's life ended. Yes they will be heartbroken but time will heal. It's unfortunate to lose a mother at such an age but it's part of life to other people.

By lee Dzine.. Posted March 29 2009 at 4:18 PM.

Good for you Jeff, All you need to do is to take care of your little boys now. He may be missing her funeral but he's with them little boys who quite frankly right now really need their Dad about. I doubt it would be like a holiday for him so people saying he's taking the easy option is just ridiculous and cruel.

They've gone through losing their mum and its going to be splashed all over the papers all over TV and everything.

Would you really let that play on your little child mind?

My mum wouldn't let me go to a funeral at their ages and too right. It's not a place for a child to be.

They will grow up remembering their mum as being happy and smiley, Not as being in a coffin. Kid's minds play nasty games, That image would haunt them.

Good on you Jeff, Take them away and have a fantastic time. Sounds like the best option to me.

I very very much doubt as the above poster said that she would of wanted them at her funeral.

By Holly.. Posted March 29 2009 at 4:15 PM.

I think these boys have a wonderful Dad and his careful thought for their wellbeing bodes very well for their future.
Jade is not in the box everyone will cry over but the brighest star in the night sky in OZ where she will look down at her darling sons and thank God she gave them such a wonderful father.WELL DONE JEFF hope you all have a wonderful time

By josey martine.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:55 PM.

well done Jeff,, my heart goes out to the boys,, take care,, best wishes always,, Ev xx

By ev.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:50 PM.

Not all that many years ago even women didn't attend funerals, it was a men only occasion, in Scotland anyhow.
The idea of young children attending would have been unthinkable.
Jade's children will accept that she has gone and her explanation of where to, so their father is doing the right thing taking them away from the tears and hype surrounding the Funeral. They will have their own Happy thoughts.

By ALEXIS FLYLE.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:46 PM.

Good on you Jeff. God Bless You Jade. x

By sue.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:42 PM.

Well done jeff you have done the right thing

By brian.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:38 PM.

Well done to you Geff on a wise decision, the three of you can go off and bond, quality time then you can come back and say your own good byes in your own way when things have quietened down. Go off and do as you please, have fun, you are their Dad and you know whats right for them boys, they are your flesh and blood, nobody elses. God bless you all x

By catherine.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:37 PM.

Well done jeff you have done the right thing

By brian.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:34 PM.

Not long ago Jade and Jack were on about emigrating to Australia...and now Jefff takes the boys to Australia... Is Jade dead or has this all been a ruse. And the press has been told not to take any pix of the boys for the next 2 weeks ???
By Tom. Posted March 29 2009 at 10:39 AM.
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What a ridiculous statement to make,it never ceases to amaze me at some of the c..p people come up with!

By wh.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:24 PM.

WELL DONE JEFF GET THEM AS FAR AWAY FROM THIS CRAZY CIRCUS AS POSSIBLE, AND LISA, THE BOY'S HAVE ONE FATHER JEFF, JACK IS JUST JACK NOTHING ELSE, AND WHO WANTS A JAIL BIRD AS A DAD, STAY AWAY JEFF, IT WILL BE BETTER FOR THE KIDS

By NORMA.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:07 PM.

Going off track a bit, I know - but I am horrified by the number of people who do not know the difference between "their" and "there" and cannot put them in the proper context!

"Their" should be used when talking about someone or something belonging to them e.g. Their Mother, their house etc. "There" when talking about e.g. a place - I put it there, there once was, don't go there etc. etc.

My guess is that it is only us "oldies" left who know the proper use of words like this?

By Bambi.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:59 PM.

Jade had expressed her wishes before she died and she, for obvious reasons didnt want them to remember her in a coffin. To everyone who doesnt agree... I went to my own fathers funeral aged 12 and it was heartbreaking even though I understood what it was all about and was older than Jades two boys. I do not know how people would actually expect two 4 and 5 year old children to attend the funeral in the glare of the media and the public. Bobbie and Freddie need to grieve the loss of their mother in private not on the front pages of our papers.

I strongly feel that Jeff IS doing the right thing. I think those two boys will be fine with Jeff he does seem to be a good father and stays out of the spotlight in the Jade Goody Circus! Plus I am sure Jeff needs time away with his boys to build those bonds with his children; remember he has not had the boys full time until Jade was sick. All of their lives have changed for ever. I wish Bobbie, Freddie and Jeff well or their trip to Oz and all the best for their future.

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By Sian.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:59 PM.

I beleive that Jack is actually doing what he feels best for his children at presant!!!
Also, what he beleives their beloved mother Jade [MAY SHE REST IN PEACE] would have wanted!!

GOD BLESS JACK..KIDS..

By shereen.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:03 PM.

If my relatives hadn't let me go to my father's funeral when I was a young child, I would find it very hard to forgive them. Jeff doesn't understand that it's needed, it's a final goodbye, it's not pleasant of course but it's only one day and it is their only chance to say that last goodbye, even to a box going in the ground. I cannot stress how important it is. Take them to Australia afterwards, but don't take away this one opportunity for them.

By James.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:54 PM.

Hey there mother will never be replaced but i wish i knew i had a kind father to look after my boys .Go look after your babys and be a family, No one has a book to tell you how to bring up children, But there little hearts must remeber there mother as a star like she asked them too. Jade would not want her babys to suffer hence why she worked up to he death for her babys thats all that ever mattered.
No one would wish for Bobby and Freddy to suffer hats off to u as a family those boys have always got the love of there mother with them she is is there hearts that the memory they need. God bless u all

By mary.. Posted March 29 2009 at 1:55 PM.

well done to jeff i think he's a fantastic father and those 2 little boys really need someone strong at this tragic time his boys will always come first to him and he's doing the right thing not letting them go to there beloved mummys funeral she didn't want them to see her in a wooden box and everyone crying it would be to much for them little boys,i just hope jackiey is still allowed to play a active part in there lives because even if she struggled as a mom to jade in her early years she has been fantastic with those little boys and it would be heartbreaking for them not to see her anymore there welfare in first and formost the most inportant thing i really hope the media let jeff and the boys have this break they so deserve and start to make new happy memorys god bless.x.x

By sal.. Posted March 29 2009 at 1:45 PM.

Dear Jeff , You are doing the right thing with jades lovely boys, and great dad they are far to young .yes I prayed for Jade as christian many would. I came from family 6 exper: all. I watched T.V of Jade beautiful wedding, an feel the point of her coming out hospital could been cut. And I know she did a lot. Cancer young girls
But its difficult to do when wont go into hospice?. And all attend at home loved ones. 6 of us coming and going To end usually given 6 8 months. I know. and t.l.c. . And turbulent lives Jade loved boys so Princess Diana. The grief comes from experiences to love others. Hope I not put anything wrong. Jade was strong loved girl but got it all done,
So many young and old have Cancer. Later in life I had wonderful priest.
I know believe true Russell Brand states, further stress breakdown interferes healing cancer, starts again. Re big brother. Show and people.
hubby took me to sea sea of flowers on wonderful Princess Diana. Got most .. .
I have got Ok Mags. And watched beautiful wedding. Jades. Sometimes I laughed sometimes I cried, memories.. How kind Al Fayed , give wedding dress Jade looked adream. she is on her way to heaven now to paradise. As Bible says.
Have a great time In Austrailia. I have made toys espec Kangaroos I could make you one in future maybe. .May Jade be at Peace, angels watch over her. And family God Bless+ xx

By Julie Pensioner.. Posted March 29 2009 at 12:28 PM.

I agree with the boys not going, and the trip sounds like it will be a magical experience for them, just what they need. But I am very surprised that he is not attending the funeral of the mother of his children. When they are older, they may appreciate why they didn't go, but I think they'll struggle to understand why Jeff didn't. All the best to the all for the future.

By jackie w.. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:51 AM.

Jeff seems the most stable influence in the boys lives. I am sure the will now make them an excellent full time dad. Everything will be ok with the boys as long as Jade's mother is kept out of the way. Good Luck to the boys and to Jeff.

By David .. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:58 AM.

I think Jeff has made a very good decision, taking the boys away is the best thing being as it will be such a high profile funeral, it will be on tv, news, papers the lot and every time the boys switch the tv on they will be faced with it, 3 weeks time it will of settled more without too much disruption for the boys, Although Mandy said she finds it strange how Jeff doesnt want to pay his respect himself, I think its more to do with he doesnt just have himself to think about and the kids are priority which is why he is doin what he is doin im sure he is upset he cannot be there on the day but once he comes back I imagine he will pay his respects the same way he would if he could attend the funeral but he has to do whats best for the boys and being as he is there Dad its down to him to be there for his children which he is doin remarkably well! And those of you that refer to Jade's funeral as a ''Circus'' I really dont know why you bother posting the comment which is quite insulting to some who actually care, its quite ironic that if u feel that way about it why are you bothering to read the article in the first place!!!

By Carley.. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:57 AM.

I to think geff is doing the right thing taking the boys to Austrailia they have been through enough Jade would want that bless you all x.

By maggie.. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:43 AM.

Fair play to Jeff for taking the boys to Austrailia, a funeral is so hard for an adult to take, let alone a funeral of your mom and the ages of 4 and 5, i think Jade would appreciate what jeff is doing, being a caring and doting dad and putting the boys first before anything else. Well Done Jeff!!!

By Lisa B.. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:31 AM.

........... in the minority here but I think it's the wrong decision and likely to be the cause of future issues.

By Hb.. Posted March 29 2009 at 11:29 AM.

geff is a very caring dad I think this is a a good idea to take the boys out of the public eye my motherin law died of cancer last year we didnt let our two children go to the funneral has we thought they were to young we wanted them to remember there nanny how they last saw her playing with them we also didnt let them see her when she got really ill jade would be proud

By karen martin.. Posted March 29 2009 at 10:52 AM.

Not long ago Jade and Jack were on about emigrating to Australia...and now Jefff takes the boys to Australia... Is Jade dead or has this all been a ruse. And the press has been told not to take any pix of the boys for the next 2 weeks ???

By Tom.. Posted March 29 2009 at 10:39 AM.

I am glad that Jeff is taking the boys away from the media glare and hope they have their own little ceremony like planting a tree or wishing on a star-something the kids will remember with happiness when they think of their mum.I hope that this year Jade will be named 'Celebrity Mum Of The Year' for her amazing efforts to be the best mum ever to her kids,but also Jeff for this decision-he has proved to be the best dad and coped well when his life has changed dramatically in such a short time.As long as the kids know they are loved,they will get through this.God Bless You Jade-you were'nt a princess or a saint-you were so much more than that-a mum who did the best she could to give her kids love and kindness and stability.You did yourself proud darling xxx

By Caroline Lovatt.. Posted March 29 2009 at 10:36 AM.

bravo jeff 4 putting your young sons first ,it must be very hard for you all at this very sad time. i hope jeff and jack work close togever putting any bad feelings aside so the boys dont loose any contact with jades past .R.I.P jade x

By lisa-marie.. Posted March 29 2009 at 10:10 AM.

The guys doing the right thing taking himself and these boys away from the circus like situation at the moment. They are too young to be exposed to what is going to be an extravaganza of a funeral. It would only confuse them as they have been told their mother went to heaven already

I dont think Jeff wishes to be associated with the media hyped funeral, planned for next Saturday. Jades mother even had a camera crew in tow when she visited her daughter at the funeral home. So as we speak another reality show is being filmed. She isnt even buried yet and her widower has done a tell all book deal. Ironically it was probably with Jade's blessing , hence no legacy to him in her will.
She needed a groom for the wedding. Means to an end , the end being the £700,000 OK magazine was willing to pay for a weddding.
This has taken reality TV and voyerism to a new low
Its terribly sad this young woman las lost her life to cancer but to beatify her as some sort of crusader is total media hype. At the end of the day she was a media savvy woman who knew how to cash in, shame her funeral is likely to be as as undignified as her life on camera.

By Flo.. Posted March 29 2009 at 9:44 AM.

Jeff is doing the right thing. He and the boys have already said their goodbyes to Jade before she died. They don't need to attend the funeral to prove how much they loved her. A funeral is simply a ceremony for people to say goodbye to someone. I, personally, believe that funerals are no place for children.

By Lisa.. Posted March 29 2009 at 9:29 AM.

I think it a very good idea . I also think Jeff is great for keeping out of the Jade Goody circus.

By Trisha.. Posted March 29 2009 at 9:24 AM.

my sister died aged 30 years in 1985. she was my childrens second mother. They were always with her.. I decided not to let them go to her funeral. I am still getting stick from them, for that decision today.

By irene.. Posted March 29 2009 at 9:19 AM.

I too think that Jeff is doing the right thing. Funerals are heartbreaking for adults, cannot ever imagine a little one having to go through it. The media will be all over for the coming weeks, best to let the boys and Jeff have some space. Sending them all my love x

By Donna .. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:59 AM.

Well done Jeff for thinking about your boys and not looking for publicity.Jack is not their father and never will be,he was Jades choice for a husband but not a great choice for her kids.The guy is a thug.

By gran.. Posted March 29 2009 at 8:44 AM.

My baby brother passed away when I was 4 yrs old. My parents did not let me or my 5 yr old sister attend the funeral. Being so young, I have very few memories left of him. However what I do remember is lovely. Jeff has made a perfect decision..away from the media glare the boys & Jeff will have a brilliant break..build new memories..and become even closer. I just hope ALL the media leave them alone to enjoy a wonderful fun in the sun break. They need it. I wish Jeff & the boys every happiness as they rebuild their future..What an excellant start. x

By Linda.. Posted March 29 2009 at 6:56 AM.

He is doing the best thing taking his boys away from it all. Hope the media leave him alone in Australia to have this time with them. They need to get back to some normality now, away from the public glare at any rate.
Good luck to the three of them, and hope they have a wonderful time.

By Carol.. Posted March 29 2009 at 7:35 AM.

GOOD ON YOU JEFF, BEST THING TO DO....THOSE BABIES ARE FAR TOO YOUNG TO ATTEND A FUNERAL AND I AM SURE THAT YOU WILL HAVE JADES BLESSING...IMAGINE WHAT WONDERFUL MEMORIES YOU WILL BE GIVING THEM, ESPECIALLY AS FAR AWAY AS AUSTRALIA....I CAN IMAGINE THE THREE OF YOU LOOKING INTO THE NIGHTS SKY AND SEEING THE BRIGHTEST STAR ..."LOOK THERES MUMMY, SHE SAID SHE WILL ALWAYS BE WITH YOU TWO"...WELL DONE, I SALUTE YOU AND AS FOR THOSE THAT MAY THINK YOU ARE NOT BOTHERING TO SAY YOUR FAREWELLS TO JADE...WHAT A LOAD OF RUBBISH, I AM SURE THAT YOU MADE MANY PROMISES WITH HER, BEFORE YOU DIED AND KNOWING JADE, SHE TOLD YOU TO DO EXACTLY THIS....PROTECT HER BABIES...
HAPPY HOLIDAYS....XXXXXXXXXXXX

By DEE DAVEY.. Posted March 29 2009 at 7:28 AM.

I really dont want to knock peoples comments on here because everyone has a different opinion. Even as a Mother i back Jeff 100% for looking after his boys and thinking he is doing the right thing under Jade's wishes( by not letting the boys attend the funeral). Jeff himself was once in love with Jade and it must have been enough to conceive 2 children, so i find it strange how he doesnt want to pay his repects himself. Im probs gonna be slated by what im saying but hey there is no right and wrong when it comes to life, people can only see things from their own experiences. R.I.P Jade XxX

By Mandy.. Posted March 29 2009 at 5:09 AM.

I've always liked Jeff - and I think he seems to have been forgotten in all of this. It seems like he & Jade still got along well and he must be grieving too. I wish Jeff and the boys all the best for the future.

By sara.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:32 AM.

I lost my partner and I wish I could have taken my kids away from their loss...........let them remember their mother in their own way.....good for you for putting the boys first

By a nana.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:03 AM.

Good on you Jeff get the 2 boy's away they are still little boy's go away and have fun!!! the poor boy's have been through enough We will always love Jade and miss her millions but go away and let the boy's be boys have fun which they so need to do right now run down the beach kick in the sand laugh be children!!!!! you have done us proud too your whole life had to change and you have been wonderful to your 2 son's thank you!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

By Donna.. Posted March 29 2009 at 3:15 AM.

Got it right Jeff. All my love is with you.

By Tracy O'Connor.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:51 AM.

Jeff sounds like a very sensible person. The media circus at Jade's funeral on Saturday will be out of control so Jeff is doing the absolute right thing. I hope the three of them have a great time. Jade was full of life and seemed very fun loving so I'm sure she'd approve.

By Loraine.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:39 AM.

yip definately think jade has done the right thing not wanting her kids to see all that,lost my dad to cancer and it was awful to watch him fade away and the funeral was heartbreaking so i think the wee ones would be very damaged seeing all of this,they will remember their mum with the legacy she has left behind and they will make her proud,bless u all

By chodzdech.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:17 AM.

Jeff you are obviously a responsible father and you are doing what you know is best for the boys. You are not only thinking of the boys but you are also respecting what you know Jade would have wanted and appreciated for her sons who she adored. Good idea have a wonderful time in Australia and best of luck bringing up yours sons. Brenda Lewis, Dudley.

By brenda lewis.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:09 AM.

Good one jeff thats what the boys need time away from the public eye to try an get over losing there mum.RIP JADE forever in our hearts you fought so bravely right up to the end.

By margaret vincent.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:05 AM.

Jeff you are obviously a responsible father and you are doing what you know is best for the boys. You are not only thinking of the boys but you are also respecting what you know Jade would have wanted and appreciated for her sons who she adored. Good idea have a wonderful time in Australia and best of luck bringing up yours sons. Brenda Lewis, Dudley.

By brenda lewis.. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:05 AM.

i think jeff is holding out great and to think of taking the boys away is the best thing he can do . Jeff also must be feeling the loss of Jade also , he also needs to go away rest and bond with both his children . god bless you jeff , i hope you and your boys have a great holiday . REMEMBER Jade would want to see her boys smile not cry , your going to make such a great dad x

By amanda morris .. Posted March 29 2009 at 2:02 AM.