The F plan diet

I'm adding a comment because I know what it's like to be overweight and ashamed of it. But you know what? I work two jobs everyday, besides all the stuff I do at home, I am on my feet pretty much all day and I can do a lot more, and lift a lot more then any "skinny" girl I know. Does that make me better then them? Nope, but because I am willing to work hard and keep going, I don't feel bad about my weight anymore. I used to, but now I am at the point where if people are only going to like me because of my outward apperince, then they can take a flying **** to the moon. People need to realize that if they are with someone who is only with them for looks, then why bother? I don't want to have to look at the scale in the morning and hope I didn't gain a pound because then my bf will leave me if I do. I want to be able to live my life the way I want, and not worry what others think. Back in the medievil days, royality where overweight, and the peasents and poor where skinny because they where staving! And no I am not saying people should try to be overweight, but who cares what people think?? I've been in three relationships, and all three guys where skinny, and I mean skinny. But they liked me for me, and when the last two and I broke up, it was not about my weight! The guy I am with now is skinny as well, and he doesn't make an issue of it, he likes me for me. So girls, get a guy who likes you for your own beautiful self, not some shallow jerk who just wants to screw a board!

By Lindsay.. Posted March 18 2009 at 1:39 AM.

9st and size 8!! be realistic here. she has done well to lose the weight, but tell the truth about your size. clearly a 12 and theres nothing wrong with that. so why deny it to yourself???

By rhianna.. Posted March 8 2009 at 12:11 AM.

i like big women u look so hot

By crash.. Posted March 7 2009 at 3:08 AM.

I thought she was pretty hot before ... I would have rather had her then.

By Calvin.. Posted March 6 2009 at 3:11 PM.

Perhaps if I lost weight I could lose my V plates too!

By Fergal Hunter.. Posted March 5 2009 at 1:30 PM.

Wow you look amazing honey. Congratz on losing the weight. You can do all your sexercize in bed now babe.....xxx

By Dick Throbbin.. Posted March 5 2009 at 1:27 PM.

Juande update your thread!

By DaveMCFC.. Posted March 5 2009 at 1:10 PM.

I think she looks beautiful in both pics although the 2nd one looks less greasy. She looks like a gorgeous girl I met in Amsterdam whilst watching Ajax in '95. If she had come to San Diego when she was younger I would've happily treated her to dinner and maybe even an autumnal walk.

Good on you girl.

P.S. San Diego doesn't mean Saint Diego.

Ken x

By Ken Barlow.. Posted March 5 2009 at 1:06 PM.

Well that brought back some memories , I would certainly hit it , but I can't help feel this story has been done before.

By Bill Murray.. Posted March 5 2009 at 12:48 PM.

Good luck to her I say, I know many friends who like bigger girls, my friend Chip loves them!

Good on you gal! Awooga!

By Mr P Bear.. Posted March 5 2009 at 12:00 PM.

Errrrrrrrrr...there's just NO WAY she's 9st

By Carina.. Posted March 5 2009 at 6:16 AM.

I must say that I have been small and larger. I was a size 8 when I graduated high school in 1985 and I was considered to be very curvy for my 5'2" frame. I have been as large as a size 18 I still had a defined waist & still getting plenty of attention from men. I felt unhealthy so I lost 45 pounds with regular exercise and 4 healthy meals a day! Since that time I got married had a baby and now I'm a size 14. Yes I have curves to die for. Men & women flirt with me on a regular basis. I'm 38D-28-44! But it's all about your attitude and how you feel about yourself. I'm an extrovert and people are attracted to me, because I'm always happy with me no matter what size I am. I still plan to loose some weight, not because I want to get laid I am happily married to a man that loves every curve I have. I will do it because it's better for my health and I have a very active 3 year old daughter who loves to play all day!! It all amounts to if you can't love yourself how do you expect others to love you! Men love women with curves, trust me I know!!

By Elizabeth.. Posted March 4 2009 at 4:13 AM.

"When you're morbidly obese you're not just aesthetically unappealing to a lot of potential suitors, you're emotionally unappealing. You're not the ideal of attraction or health. Being that obese says a lot more than just being fat. It suggests that you're unhealthy, have poor self-control, and possibly don't care about your health or appearance. It says that we'll probably spend way too many nights at home on a couch eating ready-made meals and snacks. It says that, should I fall in love with you, I'm going to spend my days worrying about you dying young. It says, should we get married, that you're likely going to be a negative influence on the health and emotions of our children. The incompatibilities go way deeper than physical attraction for many people."

NO. YOU say that about someone fat, their weight does not say that about them. I happen to know quite a few thin people who do all the above you've listed and quite a few fat people who would love to instead spend their nights going for a hike or walk or bike ride with a small packed along picnic, myself included. YOU say that that's the sort of person I am, my weight does not. And according to my doctors my fat body is well equipped to stick around for a good long while.

Your refusal to allow any attraction for someone who's body isn't socially acceptable isn't "not shallow" or even just a "clash of lifestyles", it is your refusal to simply believe something other than what society has engraved in your brain.

By Laurael.. Posted March 4 2009 at 1:40 AM.

Charlotte, first and foremost, YOU are a very attractive woman - big or small. YOU have to believe that. But more importantly, was it worth losing weight for a screw? Why couldn't you soley have done the weight loss for your own concern? I'm fat - wey overweight for my age and height; but I'm slowly but surely losing the weigh for ME! And no, I don't have a woman, but that's okay! When it happens, she'll have to accept me for ME, or she'll bounce!

By Michael.. Posted March 4 2009 at 12:52 AM.

I AM ALSO A LARGE WOMAN I HAVE NO PROBLEM MEETING THE GENTLEMEN TO DATE THE PROBLEM IS IN THE MIND OF THE MEN IF THEY CAN'T LIKE YOU FOR WHO AND WHAT YOU ARE YOU PROBALLY DIDN'T NEED THEM ANY WAYS THERE ARE NICE MEN OUT THERE.......

By jeannie.. Posted March 4 2009 at 12:04 AM.

Well I must say as a big girl myself that ok, so you lost weight good on you. But, people come on how many "skinny, healthy people" drop dead each day to a heart attack or some other reason. Being a big girl, I am healthly, with no medical issues.

If you look back into history there are many cultures that like the bigger woman or men. Also, its not a "fat fetish" if you think that then you have issues. Back, in the 50's and 60's the size to be was a 12 not a size 2. If you look sickly then most likely you are sick and have medical issues going on and need to seek help.

Let me tell you I get plenty of action and am very happy with the weight I am.

We all live our lives differently and have different wants and dislikes in life. We all find our own paths. May you all find what you are looking for and find the healthy way to get to it.

J.P.

By Janelle.. Posted March 3 2009 at 10:55 PM.

Charlotte, you are beautiful. Even your complection radiats health! I am 5'4" and weigh 125 pounds. My heart always goes out to people who have and uncontrolled weight issue. I am so glad to see that you were determined enought to get yourself to a healthy weight. To me, you look to be the perfect size. Just maintain what you have going now, and you won't lack for men looking your way. You are a beautiful woman. Blessings to you from Tucson Arizona, USA

By Kimmi.. Posted March 3 2009 at 8:10 PM.

I have just 2 things to say.
#1 - No matter what your size, other people are not going to like you, or be attracted to you, until you like yourself.
#2 - It really is not necessary to advertise how many "notches" you have on your bed post. Even though they say that it doesn't bother them, no one wants to honestly know your number of sexual conquests.

By KLT.. Posted March 3 2009 at 7:57 PM.

She's rather pretty, for an English woman.

By Kitty.. Posted March 3 2009 at 7:14 PM.

I'm attracted to women who are fit and at least somewhat slender. Does that make me shallow? I wouldn't date or sleep with a woman based on looks alone, of course our personalities have to be compatible... but for me there has to be that spark caused by physical attraction. To those accusing anyone of caring about appearance of being shallow, I invite you to date an unshowered, missing toothed, dressed like a train hobo street bum and see how long before appearance matters. Ridiculous, sour grapes.

By Wisco.. Posted March 3 2009 at 5:19 PM.

It's said that this world can't accept a person for the internal beauty than the surface of what they see. My son who died in 2007 was a big guy and to this day I would say he was the most handsome, gentle, loving individual with five dimples and aheart of gold. It was his overall personality and his sweet spirit that people loved. We allow society to state what we are to look like and who one allow themselves to develop into. If one carries self with pride and neat in appearance then the individual would either accept who you are or they are not the one for you. Sometimes we choose and don't allow God to select who is for us. The young lady looks good but was the weight lost for the right reasons, she will have to look at herself every day in the mirror and see who society has created. Then it could be the right person out there but now you have put your person life on the internet.

By Patricia.. Posted March 3 2009 at 5:00 PM.

Way to go! I wish you a happy and healthy life. Coming from experience, don't forget that it's easy to slip into old habits. Remember where you've come from and it's about changing all your habits and how you handle stress. Very inspirational though! Be proud!

By Amy.. Posted March 3 2009 at 5:07 PM.

well, u should be proud of yourself for losing the weight; however, it should have been done to become healthy, not to lose your virginity. I am a full-figured young woman and i feel in no way that size matters. If a man is attracted to your body, then he is. Why would you want to lose your precious virginity to a man who cares nothing about you? You should have waited until a point in your life where you were comfortable with yourself and found a man who wanted to share the experience with you...

By ebony.. Posted March 3 2009 at 4:52 PM.

it,s a shame that so many women think that their so fat,,,or unsexual,,,that nobody wants them,,,,. trying to be showroom models.---they get caught up in the media aspects of what women should be. it,s all b-s..you shuold be compfortable with what you have to offer.---like the great personality ,,,, ,,,,the love of life itself. i lost a woman that felt bad about herself,due to an operation,,,,she was a big woman when i married her. and my love for her has never changed .i miss her so so much. i miss her smile,,,,,,,,,,,,her love of life,her love of others.---if she only have had that much love for herself,she,d still be with me to be my partner in this life. i miss her so damn much. she has taught me so much about loving others-----if only she had that much love for herself.----i miss her----even after 7 years. i will love who she was ----forever.

By russell kelly.. Posted March 3 2009 at 4:26 PM.

it is true, then your fat, or just above that size 8, it's so true, guys will not really look @ u. i have bounce from 6 to 12 size several times, and in all cases this is true, when i'm 6 i get many dates, guys r always looking @ u, now when i'm 12, this really doesn't happen at ALL. this is so sad that in our society size is a big deal.

By happy.. Posted March 3 2009 at 3:53 PM.

She looks good and much healthier now. Many times it takes a wake-up call for us to know it's time to lose the weight. Mine was when I hit 182, vowing never to go over 180. I lost 46 lbs in 10 months and kept it off for almost 6 years now.

If guys not being attracted to her was her wake-up call, then that's fine. She wanted to be loved and have a guy be attracted to her, so she did what she did. I know that nobody ever looked at me twice when I was big, and it is frustrating.
She did it for whatever reason was important to her and gained better health in the progress.

Lulu, Maria is obviously from another country (you can tell by the broken English), but she explained herself very well, so to say that she needs spelling lessons is a really low thing to say.

By Elke.. Posted March 3 2009 at 3:06 PM.

I have battled weight. I have also been thin and turned heads. I loved thin better because it made me feel more in control, less depressed, my clothes fit right.....
Being fat is a horrible battle, I hate every second of it. I found my way from 5th grade to successful living. I am emotionally successful as well. But God help me I still hate every second of being fat.
But the thing I hate the most is this. My children inheireted my emotional habits and coping skills. Unfortunately they learned in my early years when I was still reeling from a less than nuturing childhood.
Don't be a slapper just to be loved. Weight truly has nothing to do with any love except your love for yourself.
Good luck.

By Mary.. Posted March 3 2009 at 2:52 PM.

How insecure can a person be? "If I'm thin people will love me. I don't want anyone to make fun on my sexual inexperience."
There are plenty of beautiful heavy women who have as much sex as they want.
Beauty is how you feel about yourself and how you carry yourself.
She might be smaller now, but she's just as screwed up as she was, before she lost the weight.

By Robyn.. Posted March 3 2009 at 1:42 PM.

Ok I addmitt that fat is not very becoming at this age on anybody, sorry to say. Men and women do not attract at that size.
But in general. MEN ARE VERY SHALLOW, EMPTY CREATURE'S and that will not change. There brains are in the pant's and we all know it.

By werser.. Posted March 3 2009 at 1:41 PM.

Two things: Wait until you are married and until you have a brain to have sex. Sex in and of itself is not the key to happiness, there are many examples of the promiscuous being so miserable they kill themselves.

By Tom H.. Posted March 3 2009 at 2:45 PM.

Well, my opinion may not be as popular as some, but, I see things a little differently. I'm an american and I have always preferred a girl with a "little extra" weight. A full-figured woman is so wonderful in bed and is simply a joy to hold on to. So, I guess that places me in the minority. Just a thought.

By Russell.. Posted March 3 2009 at 12:11 PM.

I can relate. In high school my weight crept up to approximately 280 pounds, largely due to my chronic depression. I had to lose 100 pounds (on a crash diet, totally unnaturally) to even get my best male friend to look at me (I always had a crush on him, but he always dated skinny girls). Once I was thinner (I looked pretty damn good at 180, despite still being technically overweight-I am 5'5") he couldn't keep his hands off of me. My self-esteem shot up, but it wasn't a healthy boost, because when I went away to college and my weight crept back up again, I would throw myself at any guy who looked at me twice to prove to myself that I was still attractive. The ultimate truth is that I was depressed and therefore unhappy, the extra weight was just a side effect.

By Beeb.. Posted March 3 2009 at 1:28 PM.

Do you hear yourselves? Do you not see the major impact your thoughts have just by speaking them? Fat? What the hell is fat? What is anything physical? Nothing at all, misconceptions of who someone is by thier appearance is totally off the wall and incorrect thinking. Our minds have processed this BS for so many years of negative "words" spoken and rehearsed , it is insane! Wake up people. Give your soul a break. I guess we're too far gone in this world though to know the truth and live it. (for most)
Bless your soul, and I do hope you find the truth before you punish yourselves any further. Love!

By C.. Posted March 3 2009 at 1:16 PM.

The guy she was first with was definitely shallow. He made his decision (based on his own words) on the issue of her size. If he'd spent half the night with her, getting to know her, how much time was he spending staring at her body rather than looking at her personality?
The sad thing is you haters of fat people (and yeah, I AM one) only say the things you do about how you're not shallow for the sake of justifying what you prefer and who you're doing. Did it ever stop to occur to you that some people that are overweight are actually working to correct their weight? And what about the ones who can't due to low metabolism or were raised by parents who taught them by example early on to overeat? You haters forget that we're people too. And just because you're too afraid to have a real relationship with someone with substance beneath the shell, don't try to justify it with some sort of rediculous concept as "self-image" and "self-advertising". That's just a narrow view from a narrow mind.

By Evilbadjuju.. Posted March 3 2009 at 1:05 PM.

MEN are shallow?!

The amount of hypocrisy in some of these comments is astounding...

By Chris.. Posted March 3 2009 at 6:27 AM.

When you're morbidly obese you're not just aesthetically unappealing to a lot of potential suitors, you're emotionally unappealing. You're not the ideal of attraction or health. Being that obese says a lot more than just being fat. It suggests that you're unhealthy, have poor self-control, and possibly don't care about your health or appearance. It says that we'll probably spend way too many nights at home on a couch eating ready-made meals and snacks. It says that, should I fall in love with you, I'm going to spend my days worrying about you dying young. It says, should we get married, that you're likely going to be a negative influence on the health and emotions of our children. The incompatibilities go way deeper than physical attraction for many people.

The way you present yourself is an advertisement of your character and what you offer. Make no mistake - some men want things only an obese partner could offer, but would you really want to be entertaining what amounts to a fat fetish?

And to the women who think this is an exclusively male phenomenon. First of all, there is nothing shallow about (politely!) avoiding sexual intimacy with someone who you have no sexual attraction to. Secondly, to believe that only men evaluate others on their appearance is beyond naive - it is willful ignorance.

By Weyland.. Posted March 3 2009 at 6:23 AM.

im a dude but i know men they can be shallow but she looks pretty she looks like she has a good personality and she could be a great person if u just talk to her and get to know her like lily said i agree

By michael.. Posted March 3 2009 at 2:29 AM.

"Sal, she didnt do it for a bloke, she did it for herself to get what she wanted, and lo and behold, it worked!
Anybody male or female who thinks that they should be attractive when they are fat is delusional, its not natural to be obese and it distorts the body making it look horrible, luckily for fat people some members of the opposite sex DO like that, but its a fetish, not natural beauty"

You wouldn't know natural beauty if it hit you with a two by four. Jessica Simpson was NOT naturally thin before. She admitted to having rigorous six hour workouts six days a week (that's about... 8 times the recommended amount of physical activity, mind you) and had to stick to a basically south beach diet method of living PERMANENTLY to stay at the weight she was. And you're telling me she got slammed right and left by the media because she was NATURALLY Daisy Dukes slim?

Lastly, Charlotte looks better in her after picture, yes, because I'm betting a professional photographer took it. Also, because it's not at a weird angle, she's wearing more flattering clothing, and has more make-up on. She's obviously a pretty girl in the "before" picture as well, but since we're so used to seeing celebrities photoshopped into flawless thinness (yes, photoshopped, even Jessica Alba doesn't look like Jessica Alba), we go for the "SHINY PERTY PICTURE!" instead. Sad, because Charlotte actually does have quite a bit of natural beauty, chubby or not.

By Laurael.. Posted March 3 2009 at 12:48 AM.

"There's a very natural reason to why slim is attractive; it's healthier! Healthy is attractive because it is a desirable trait to have in someone (indicating self-respect, vitality, strength, discipline, good genes, all good things).

It's sad that a morbidly obese person should think that that state of living should still be attractive to someone, instead of caring enough about themselves to become a healthy weight."

Perfectly stated.

By sharilyn.. Posted March 2 2009 at 9:54 PM.

Good for her

By G.. Posted March 2 2009 at 9:02 PM.

I would have felt much better about her decision to lose weight had she done it safely (i.e. without crash diets that made her weak) and for health reasons as opposed to for perceived societal pressures. But then, the article claims she gained the greater portion of the weight in part due to social anxieties. Sounds like she's got self-esteem issues: Looks to others to set the example instead of to herself for what she thinks is best. Too many people associate excess fat as a personality trait rather than a health condition! Isn't it more proper to say, "I have fat" than "I AM fat"?

By Jessica.. Posted March 2 2009 at 5:09 PM.

Well done, i'm doing the samething ATM as woman cant see whats inside just like men, so it aint just men.

By eric.. Posted March 2 2009 at 3:39 PM.

what a load of crap that it's only men who are this 'shallow"! As a guy who was once big I can assure you that there are no shortage of women who wont even look at a large male. In an ideal world personality would be the key, but the FACTS tell a different story and most - men AND women - make that initial, so very important, judgement on looks. A good personality then rounds out the judgement. She was unhappy at an unhealthy weight and decided to make a positive change - I applaud her for seeing it through. As to her morals? Why should she miss out on a natural, healthy (with adequate precautions!) and legal outlet?

By andreus.. Posted March 2 2009 at 12:37 PM.

It's not a matter of being shallow. I don't consider myself shallow, but if I don't find a girl phsyically attractive, I'm not going to date her.

There has to be a phsyical attraction as well as an emotional one in order to have a healthy relationship. I just would not have that attraction to a 22st woman, I'd probably be a little repulsed by her. It's not healthy to be that large.

By Ben.. Posted March 2 2009 at 2:08 PM.

I know how you muss feel, Charlotte.

By Debilitronio.. Posted March 2 2009 at 11:30 AM.

It is actually her social ecological environment that is to blame, in every environment throughout the world there is a pocketful of people who believe that having a ‘man’ is a major achievement. I know because I lived in that world and did get engaged relatively young in order to keep up with the flow, when that relationship ended it took a long time for me to meet the right one. I left the area and went to university with the hope of ‘meeting the man’ more important than the degree, however, that changed once outside the old environment, I’m 27 now taking my PHD, travelling the world, I’v had a few relationships but love being as free as a bird and have no intentions on settling in to boring SUBURBIA with a husband, baby and the Volvo. Maybe she will open her eyes one day, I really hope so

By Marianne.. Posted March 2 2009 at 8:16 AM.

Congratulations Charlotte! Now you too can engage in the meaningless, self-gratifying sexual pleasure that skinny people can enjoy. No longer do you need a personality, and now you can use that lust that you held for validation in men, which will slowly lead to a shallow existence. Best of luck!

By Dylan.. Posted March 2 2009 at 3:46 AM.

it's simple really..people do what they have to do to survive in this crazy and cruel world..some have it all,beauty and brains and some have nothing at all..but charlotte's story only goes to prove that love is conditional provided that you lose weight if you want to find a guy to shag with,in charlotte's case,she being a woman..im skinny and thin but im not attractive so i've resigned to stay single all my life..if charlotte wanted to lose her virginity so badly,she might as well have paid someone to have sex with her...

By skinnybee.. Posted March 2 2009 at 3:43 AM.

men are shallow,yes,but it's subjective case by case really..im slim,slender,skinny but im not attractive..because of that i rarely get a date or have men hit on me or ask me out..this is a sad world but i think charlotte's got it wrong..she's proved that it's not men who are shallow but her..her thinking is all wrong..so you lost weight to lose your virginity??you might as well have paid someone to have sex with you when you were still huge-imho

By superslim.. Posted March 2 2009 at 3:38 AM.

What I find hysterical is all the guys who are quick to judge a woman's looks, when 90 percent of them have a roll of flab around the gut and aren't exactly Brad Pitt.

By rjh.. Posted March 2 2009 at 2:46 AM.

It's not just men that are shallow. I'm a 6'4" guy. A few years ago I weighed 20st, but lost about 5st after intense diet and exercise. The reaction of the women around me was drastic. Gals I'd known for years who never payed any attention to me all of a sudden started asking me out. It was eye opening to say the least.

I'm not at all bitter about it. I'm a guy, after all. :) I understand. But all of the talk about men being shallow and whatnot is silly. Everyone is shallow. I'm not saying it's right, but that's just the way it is.

By Greg Barton.. Posted March 2 2009 at 2:39 AM.

There's a very natural reason to why slim is attractive; it's healthier! Healthy is attractive because it is a desirable trait to have in someone (indicating self-respect, vitality, strength, discipline, good genes, all good things).

It's sad that a morbidly obese person should think that that state of living should still be attractive to someone, instead of caring enough about themselves to become a healthy weight.

By Ridiculous.. Posted March 2 2009 at 2:01 AM.

“But it’s true—and sad—that I am more attractive to men as I am now.”

It's not just men that find fat unattractive.

I wonder just how many morbidly obese men she has dated.

She's probably just as shallow as the men she complains about.

By Dave L... Posted March 2 2009 at 1:59 AM.

It's not shallow to judge people on their appearances.
Appearances are usually good indicators of personality and overall health, which people use to make initial judgments on people. It's common for overweight people to be judged as being lazy, greedy and stupid.

By Ray.. Posted March 2 2009 at 1:21 AM.

Good for this fatass for losing weight, but did she have to go extreme and hop into a one-night stand? I mean, take it easy girl - don't get all used and slutty right off the bat.

By Jeff.. Posted March 2 2009 at 1:10 AM.

Charlotte's stunning now - perfect balance of curves - hope she resists the urge to lost more weight!

By Si.. Posted March 2 2009 at 1:04 AM.

She got laid because natural selection worked the way it is supposed to. By losing weight and making herself more attractive to the opposite sex, she has increased her chances of her genes remaining in the gene pool instead of being selected out. I'd hit it.

By neil.. Posted March 2 2009 at 12:24 AM.

I'd have taken her home before she lost the weight...

just saying, you know??

/look me up Charlotte, if you're ever in san diego!

By Eric in san diego.. Posted March 1 2009 at 11:52 PM.

Nice job of losing the weight! Be sure to do things for yourself like that, no one else will do them for you. I'm glad you learned something valuable while you were young and had the perseverance to follow through with your diet. Now, use that inner strength you have found inside yourself to do whatever you dream!

By Chas.. Posted March 1 2009 at 11:26 PM.

She could lose some more weight and get better looking still.

Bravo for you, girl.

By John.. Posted March 1 2009 at 11:11 PM.

She did the right thing. The majority of fat women are fat because they are lazy and stupid. There are NO reasons to be fat, not in this day and age, period.

By Zanpher.. Posted March 1 2009 at 9:30 PM.

I would like everyone who thinks it's sad or that she should not have had to change to tell me how many morbidly obese people that you have slept with??

By Anonymous.. Posted March 1 2009 at 9:30 PM.

well good luck to her and well done ,from what ive just been reading sounds like half the people on here are the shallow ones !!!as for john im a big girl and all four of my children are skinny lads and slim young ladies so not all fat parents have fat kids!!!

By sam.. Posted March 1 2009 at 9:53 PM.

I applaud anyone (mail or female) that make positive choices in their lives. It is especially difficult when you are depressed and/or unhappy.

For the commentators that exhibited anti-male comments, aren't you as lame as your generalization about how shallow men are?

By Bob.. Posted March 1 2009 at 10:04 PM.

“But it’s true—and sad—that I am more attractive to men as I am now.”

No, it's not sad. It's normal. Lose weight.

By Fatty.. Posted March 1 2009 at 10:40 PM.

God I love you british. I so need to move to the UK. What's a slapper?? ha.

By Kevin Albrecht.. Posted March 1 2009 at 8:47 PM.

The "before" picture is sexier to me.

By Eric.. Posted March 1 2009 at 8:42 PM.

I think she looks absolutely smashing - 100% woman. Come to me babe.

By Paul.. Posted March 1 2009 at 7:35 PM.

I did the exact same thing as her, except I was not as big.... Also did it for the exact reasons she did too

By Angele.. Posted March 1 2009 at 8:04 PM.

Size 8???? No way, more like 12!

By Jayne.. Posted March 1 2009 at 6:30 PM.

the funny thing is when she gets married, make the most of it as she will return back to 22 stone and put on more when she is pregnent

By dilnaz.. Posted March 1 2009 at 6:45 PM.

dont slate the girl. losing weight is hard, but she as to do it for her, well done.

By diane.. Posted March 1 2009 at 5:53 PM.

Well done and I think your fit....ignore the others!!!

By Liam.. Posted March 1 2009 at 4:42 PM.

what a sad world we live in that she felt she needed to change herself to attract a man she should have lost the weight for herself and to be healthier not for anyone else she looks fab mind you weel done !!

By rachel .. Posted March 1 2009 at 4:57 PM.

i think she looks hot, great rack as well

By james.. Posted March 1 2009 at 4:34 PM.

She looks great in that stripey shirt. Sexy!

By Chris.. Posted March 1 2009 at 3:54 PM.

Comments like these are why people get overweight, what have people got to do to get any sort of positive comment, girls slate girls for being to slim to fat and guys do to, what right have you got to pass any sort of judgement on anyone but yourself?

By Kelly.. Posted March 1 2009 at 3:18 PM.

Well done for loosing all that weight. Don't mind all those horrible comments just don't see why it is in the paper, magazine material. but, i hope it will give others that want to loose weight some inspiration.

By pat.. Posted March 1 2009 at 2:49 PM.

She is one ugly girl - thank god there are some people out there who take pity and sleep with her

By mike.. Posted March 1 2009 at 2:27 PM.

So she lost all her weight just to have sex??!! well proves its not just us great men that admit we love sex, about time some women admitted it too! if u want to lose any more weight give me a call i am sure we could have a good work out together lol xx

By adam.. Posted March 1 2009 at 2:10 PM.

She's still a minger...

By JD.. Posted March 1 2009 at 1:44 PM.

Well done on losing the weight, but where are your morals? You lost your virginity to some bloke you didn't know, how romantic!

By Suzy.. Posted March 1 2009 at 12:40 PM.

Her problem was lack of self-esteem, not her weight. She couldn't accept herself the way she was, so why would anyone else? There are many men out there who like big girls, but she didn't have the self-confidence to believe one would ever like her. If she feels happier slimmer, then I'm glad for her. But if she thinks she's going to find a better quality of man now that she's slim, she can forget it. She didn't want her first time to be with someone local in case she got talked about. Well, telling the world & his wife that she's slept with three men in the last six months isn't going to stop that happening, is it?

By A. Bell.. Posted March 1 2009 at 12:03 PM.

This story should inspire loads of people to lose their excess flab. It makes a change from all the negative press you read.
All I can say is well done and keep it up.

By Kevin Gregory.. Posted March 1 2009 at 11:12 AM.

Well done her. She's gorgeous.

Though I love large ladies...

By John.. Posted March 1 2009 at 9:42 AM.

Yes men are interested in looks and the majority of men wouldn't entertain a 22st woman. Fat is not attractive. Athletic is attractive because it is a sign of youth and health.

I'll bet under those clothes she looks like a burst balloon as well but regardless. Well done I say - you only have one body and one life, why would you wan't to spend if carrying around 10st of useless flab.

By Jac.. Posted March 1 2009 at 9:42 AM.

She lost all that weight, and has now slept with 3 guys. So really the guys mean nothing, what was the point of losing all that weight then.
Dont blame the guys people, she hadn't met the right one when she was big, but she hasn't met the right one(or 3) now she has lost the weight.
I'd rather be big and alone then thin and have 'conquests'.
And i agree with the other comment. Doesn't look like a size 8 to me.

By darkest.. Posted March 1 2009 at 9:25 AM.

Well done loosing the weight, it obviously did your confidence a lot of good and that's why you've got the men after you.
When I was a similar size I used to feel no-one would want me, but the moment I stopped worrying about my size and what others might think I suddenly had all sorts of guys (and girls) after me. The added bonus was that the weight started to come off naturally because I wasn't letting other people's narrow-minded views get me down.
I'm still nowhere near what you would call thin, but that didn't stop me snagging a rather sexy toy boy ;)

By Lynn.. Posted March 1 2009 at 9:19 AM.

Being overweight poses real health risks, including increased risk of diabetes. It's all very well for Lily to say that "personality is far more important than looks" and also how "shallow" us men are, but frankly, I do not fancy fat women and most men do not. Congratulations to Charlotte for losing so much weight. Fat parents will usually have fat kids too - what a legacy!

By Peter.. Posted March 1 2009 at 9:07 AM.

I am a big girl and i've never had a problem gettin men...........my FIANCE loves my body and tells me every day.....it's not a fetish.......i'm guessing that you're either huge or mega stick thin......which is also un-natural and vile.....who wants to look like a skeleton???????? Men don't like it.....real men that is......not little chavs and losers who think that looks are all that counts!!!!! Big girls can be attractive as well!!!!!!! Maybe you need to take a look at your lives before you slate us big girls again!!!!

By Lori.. Posted March 1 2009 at 8:26 AM.

Well done for loosing all that weight, but it's shamefull that you had to do it to get noticed, men are so selfish, it's all about looks for most of them. But i have news for those who choose to pick a book buy it's cover!!...Not nice.

By sarah.. Posted March 1 2009 at 8:20 AM.

9st and a size 8? dont get me wrong she looks fab now, but be realistic. im 5'6 9st4 size 10/12

By bella.. Posted March 1 2009 at 7:59 AM.

well done for the weight loss, being overweight is not healthy. She lost weight to feel good about herself, and its worked.

By lisa.. Posted March 1 2009 at 7:52 AM.

Well done for sleeping around.. You must be so proud!

By RL.. Posted March 1 2009 at 7:39 AM.

Well done lily. Its called self pride and if you need another notch on that bed post i will help you carve it...your gorge!!!! x

By dave.. Posted March 1 2009 at 7:37 AM.

I say for whatever reason she did it, well done girl!!! She's a HEALTHY weight now. It took hard work and determination - well done to her!!

By Sharon.. Posted March 1 2009 at 6:26 AM.

Sal, she didnt do it for a bloke, she did it for herself to get what she wanted, and lo and behold, it worked!
Anybody male or female who thinks that they should be attractive when they are fat is delusional, its not natural to be obese and it distorts the body making it look horrible, luckily for fat people some members of the opposite sex DO like that, but its a fetish, not natural beauty

By Greg.. Posted March 1 2009 at 2:12 AM.

Not so straight forward Lily... there's probably an element of Charlotte having alot more confidence too!

I'm the biggest I've ever been (size 14) but I get the most attention I've ever had at the moment because I'm confident and chatty and my personality is on show more.

My confidence boost is for different reasons but it's still the same, feel good about yourself and it makes you more attractive to others!

By Fiona.. Posted March 1 2009 at 1:38 AM.

9 stone at 5"7'. bit underweight i think. why do all that for a bloke??? you are what you are, its inside that counts. i wouldnt and never will.

By sal.. Posted March 1 2009 at 1:29 AM.

Lilly; Evidently her personality can't be that great... otherwise it would have got her laid before! Every bloke knows of a fatty bike thats been around.

By Wayne Simpkins.. Posted March 1 2009 at 1:06 AM.