Ace's dad has F.A.

Joker still owes me twenty knicker, from eight years ago.

By Charles Hobbs.. Posted November 13 2009 at 2:57 PM.

Defoe should take care of his dad regardless of what has happened. Can Jermain say he is happy to see his Dad selling big issue? Don't rely on this western crap, you are an african son! No matter what your dad has done 4give and 4get. Don't let people or your mum stop you from being blessed. Bless your roots and you will be blessed.

By Bola.. Posted September 3 2009 at 12:46 PM.

Jimmy took the easy way out and now wants the easy way in. If jermain had not been sucessful would you have come looking for him ?
Your son did not reach this far because of you
Keep on walking Jimmy just like you did 20 odd years ago. Your son is better off without you.

By Vercile.. Posted May 25 2009 at 11:18 PM.

it just goes to show that what happens when you leave your kids at a tender age i am a black woman who never had a dad so many black men let there kids down why should jermaine take responsibility for his dad he is a grown man resposible for his own life just another absent dad who happens to have a son who had done well for himself jermaine has made his own way in life despite the absence of his dad if i was in jermaines position i would not achknowledge my dads exsistance there is no need for that being a dad is not about solely being a sperm donor

By jade.. Posted January 17 2009 at 9:28 PM.

People in life have much to say about other people's state of affairs - Jimmy has been through some traumatising times in his life and as a friend know this - things happen to us and when the going gets tough sometimes you have no one to talk too and help you - yes what he needs is love from his nearest and dearest and not all this scrutinising. Take care of yourslef Jimmy, ifyou need someone to talk to you know where to come.

By s jackson.. Posted January 14 2009 at 1:39 PM.

man u have only one dad and he`s got only one life,u are giving away thosounds of pounds to those girls who don`t deserve it more than your dad,please go and look after him please before is too late.

By al.. Posted January 13 2009 at 6:48 PM.

He has time for that brainless pieces of skirt but not his own family???????

By ell.. Posted January 13 2009 at 3:41 PM.

We do not know what the circumstances are. God, heaven only knows why and the hearts of those involved. We, I you, have no right to judge. Take care of your own back garden, because I'll tell you this...there is NOT ONE OF US WITHOUT FLAW!!!!
Everything in this life happens for a reason, whilst we are all entitled to an opinion, let it be just that not an idol judgement casted by ignorance. Be Blessed.

By princess.. Posted January 13 2009 at 3:34 PM.

its never to late in life , no matter what happens to the two of them to broke up its non of your business.i think this is the only chance of you to get to know your father before its to late.love or hate him he your dad and you dont know what you got till its gone.

By louis.. Posted January 11 2009 at 9:27 PM.

all i will say is "weather wronged or not he is your father, let the lord judge him and not us. jermaine you can help, two wrongs never make a right. do the right thing son coz god gave you that talent for a reason"

By rtruth.. Posted January 11 2009 at 8:26 PM.

honour your father and mother defoe,the bible says,regardless of what they do.

By tanaka sali.. Posted January 11 2009 at 7:40 PM.

Mem,

am Black and you cannot just generalise that it's down to culture. In the African culture, we have a saying that your parents look after you for your teeth to grow, so you also have to look after than for their teeth to fall off. Ask Western Union about the millions of pounds that is sent each year from people of African origin to their relatuves in Africa. Just ask Western Union. If you are not awareof something, research it or ask, don't diss people by generalising. This is an isolated case and you don't even know if the dad wants help. As the article said, he sold a watch given to him for crack.

By theo.. Posted January 11 2009 at 7:07 PM.

Jermain Defoe let me tell you this i dont care if my parents wern,t perfect when i was a child i would never see any of my family living like this ever!! no excuse sort it out!And all you filthy people who comment on why he left him as a child remember you have no right to judge a man who you dont know!Personally ive had my ups and downs within my family but i would never see any of them begging! i swear on my life!!

By brian.. Posted January 11 2009 at 7:05 PM.

Well, the bible says honor your father and mother no matter what they troubles...I feel as a wealthy footballer he should try to get his Dad to rehabilitation....there are always to sides to a story he left the mum when Jermaine was a toddler but sometimes women can be a pain...its not always the dad's fault...I myself was denied the chance to grow up with my father because my mother thought it best to send us to leave with my grandmother in the caribbean....I got to know my dad at 18 yrs old.Back to the point, i feel he can try to help his dad, if the dad does not want to improve well, he can at least say he tried.......

By culture66.. Posted January 11 2009 at 6:49 PM.

Jermaine does right, his old man is a loser he walked out on him and his mother,he owes him nothing.

By B.. Posted January 11 2009 at 5:41 PM.

Dave its down to culture mate. Im Turkish Cypriot & in my culture we look after our parents, our old people. We dont stick them in an old peoples home & we certainly dont let them struggle especially when one person in the family is 'well to do' So dont tell me i dont know what im on about dave. Up The Arsenal!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By Mem.. Posted January 11 2009 at 1:54 PM.

Unless people experience alcholism/drug addiction in their family, they will never fully understand how it destroys not only the alcholic, but the family. First hand I have witnessed how it has cost my family countless amounts of money bailing out my family member. the emotional strain it has caused & believe me, being loaded with money does not solve the problem, In alot of cases it only fuels the problem. Only the person with the addiction can make that step, the only thing you can do is be there for them when the decide they want that step, but there are never any guaranties, so at times you have to look at the big picture & take measures to proctect the family as a whole & step back.

So not get into the usual thinking that only because Jermaine defo is a highly paid footballer that he's immune to the suffering caused by his father's addiction. It's very easy look at a situation on printed paper & come to conclusions we know nothing about. Alcholism/drug addiction is real people & it can destroy a family like a bad cancer no matter how rich or powerful you may be!

By phat_c.. Posted January 11 2009 at 1:32 PM.

Perhaps Jermaine is going to the ends of the earth to support his father, but giving him money isn't going to help an addict, and it is important that he doesn't enable the addiction by rescuing his dad. Addiction is complex and difficult for the addict and their family, the demons are the father's, and cannot be banished by the son.

By HelenSparkles.. Posted January 11 2009 at 1:23 PM.

It is not Jermaines responsiblity to sort out his father's addictions. It is down to his father to want to address these and improve his life. It is hard when you see someone you care about destroying there life with drugs and alcohol and it hurts. Sometimes you have to remove yourself from the situation as there is nothing you can do to help. You need to protect yourself from the disruptive behaviours that go with the addictions it can really bring you down it is nasty and ugly. When his father is taking drugs is he thinking about his son /family? Unless you have experienced what drugs and alcohol do to families then you will have a greater understanding of the impact that this has. I am sure that Jermaine like myself is having to take measures to protect himself by removing himself from this exposure as it is not nice. Believe me I have been there. By Jermaine not supporting his father financially is good as he is not enabling his fathers addiction. There is nothing Jermaine can do (look at Amy and all her money where has it taken her). It is down to the individual to want to change. There is nothing he can do so stop his father's addiction so stop blaming him for not helping. Remember Jermain has lost his father to addictions. Jermaine I wish you all the best in your career keep healthy and continue to be a role model for all those out there that have had similiar life experiences as you. Stay strong peace and love.

By michelle.. Posted January 11 2009 at 12:32 PM.

I have to say i am amazed at some of the comments on, why should Defoe help his dad, who walked out on him and his mum and didnt given them a second thought.

My dad has been walking in and out of my life and i am now 26, he has 8 kids and only really wants to no them when they hit 18 and have a good job so they can buy him a drink.

It would seem that Defoe did try and do what was right by his dad but he gave up on himself.

By Louise.. Posted January 11 2009 at 10:57 AM.

its not for us to say we dont what happened, my dad left when my mom was 6 months pregnant he saw me a couple of times when i was little, mom struggled with me on her own now i am successful and he is a druggy he keeps telling people he has a daughter who is a doctor that doesnt help him i owe him nothing and neither does jermaine owe his dad anything

By andrea.. Posted January 11 2009 at 10:06 AM.

My husband walked out on me and my three young children, he couldnt be bothered to let any of us know where he was. He turned up 4 months later demanding the house be sold so he can get his 50% share. It took me a while to sort myself out but I have a lovely house and three very confident and happy children. The kids have little contact with their father now (his own choice) I cant see how they will build bridges later.

I dont know what the situation was with Jermain and his dad but you cant expect your kids to support you if couldnt show them the same when they needed you.

By Dani.. Posted January 11 2009 at 9:58 AM.

To correct you, is a childs responsibility to look after their parents, both finicialy and otherwise as able to do. Clearly on this occasion is not the case, no matter what may have happened. If you do not do it as a child who earns that much money, then who will do it for you????. The man will still remain and always wil be Jems' Dad, so a message for Jermaine is to sort out his dad, while he is in pole position to do that

By Tony Cole.. Posted January 11 2009 at 9:25 AM.

In response to Bill you posted your comments regarding this article, you are not the only one to lose a job, I have been made redundant 3 times and I am sure that I am not the only one, it is no more my fault or Jermain Defoe and his fathers fault that you did not get a flat. People fall on hard times all the time it isn't always about colour.

By Angela .. Posted January 11 2009 at 8:36 AM.

Lucky man, he has a flat and can afford to go to the bookies.
I lost my job after working from 16 to 50, lost my home to ex-wife. Told I could not get flat.
Now I live abroad in the former USSR, were my J450 month pension stops me starving.
But then I am ex Army and white English I should expect to look after myself.

By Bill.. Posted January 11 2009 at 7:19 AM.

Its thier business a private affair leave them
to it
Good luck to them both
Only they know all the reasons.

By wayne.. Posted January 11 2009 at 7:23 AM.

I am being serious when I say this. There is a Hollywood movie in this story. The father that abandoned his family and son as a toddler. Then the son becomes a star footballer. The struggles of their relationship as the father is a addicted to booze and drugs. But there is a chapter that is not written yet. It is Jermain fight to save his dad's life from his addictions.

Jermain can help his dad not by buying his Gucci watches, by getting a team of people to help with his dad's recovery. Do you remember the first Rocky film?
This would be a great film from a true story. Jermain just needs to write the final chapter. I hope his dad can help himself and get back on track, at 45 years of age he has lots of living to do.

By Shane.. Posted January 11 2009 at 6:24 AM.

Jermaine doesn't owe his dad a thing.It's not a child's responsibility to support their parent finacially.He bought his dad a gucci watch for fathers day,which his dad sold to get money for drugs.Maybe he tried to help his dad in the past,now it's his dads turn to help himself.I use to send my mom money every month.She'd spend it on lottery tickets,then complain she had no food to eat.

By gofigure.. Posted January 11 2009 at 4:41 AM.

Whilst i have no idea of the truth behind this story i think that Jermain should go to the ends of the earth to support his dads recovery. Yes, people may argue that his dad is undeserving and played little or no part in his rise to riches and fame. Well i say 'so what'. We don't give to recieve neither do we know what the situation was for his dad at the time and it certainly doesn't justify Jermain leaving him on the sidewalk now? This is not the way to behave and i don't need to know Jermain to know that it isn't the way he's been brought up. I can also tell you this Jermain, you'll earn more respect and get more satisfaction from dealing with what is your particular challenge in life than you ever will playing for and scoring goals for Tottenham. And thats no disrespect to Tottenham. Trust me on that one son. So my message to you Jermain and all you other young and in my opinion misguided ballers out there, who seem to spend more time and money on silly little girls and leave out your family - remember where you're coming from becuse where your coming from will never forget you! And that also goes out to the other Jermain (you know who you are) too, who seems also to want to leave out his dad. However, in his case its even worse because he's got absolutely no excuse. His dad was heavily involved in his life and instrumental in his football career!! Come on guys step up to your leadership position and show some responsibility!!!

By Dave.. Posted January 11 2009 at 3:00 AM.

You two haven't got a clue what you're talking about.

By X.. Posted January 11 2009 at 2:40 AM.

Will im with you on this. Something aint right. What sort of person would allow his parent to struggle like that while he lives the sort of life we cant even dream about. Its not jealousy, good luck to him & all that but like Will said it says alot about what sort of person he his.

By Mem.. Posted January 11 2009 at 1:34 AM.

listen no matter what i say ,or you do ..but in my h8umble oppinion and he knows this will become public knowlege..defoe is well out of order.. but trust he noes wot hes doing, and he aint worth nothing as a footballer,and without your dads sperm lacking in attack mode,i will say no more or they wont print.but ask yourself this.... me if i had me last £2 and me famliy needed it,in the words of roy orbison you got it,if this worm cant give a smll percentage to his family,whoever they might be....well u decide...but please u lot is defoe worth it.........no

By will.. Posted January 11 2009 at 1:05 AM.