Sheryl: Why I let Gazza go forever
Heartbroken Sheryl reveals truth behind split
DESOLATE Sheryl Gascoigne has finally revealed the true agony of turning her back for good on tortured ex-husband Gazza as he fights for his life.
She sobbed: "I don't think anyone wants to have the death of Paul on their hands, on their conscience. I think I can help him - but he's proved me wrong again."
Glamorous Sheryl, 43, decided to cut loose from the fallen England football legend forever after giving him a last chance and taking him back into her family home just months ago.
In a tragic replay of the long abusive relationship that climaxed in their bitter 1998 divorce, 41-year-old alcoholic Paul let down his ex and their three kids again-storming out because she refused to have sex with him.
Shocked Sheryl told him: "I haven't seen you for five years and you just think you can jump straight into my bed. It's not going to happen."
Nevertheless, in an explosive Channel 4 documentary to be screened tomorrow at 10pm she tearfully admits she STILL loves Gazza despite all they've been through.
Paul this week branded the programme, Surviving Gazza, "a disgrace" for putting his 12-year-old son Regan on camera, accusing makers of "poisoning" the boy's mind.
But last night a close friend of Sheryl inisisted: "Paul is very aware Regan WANTED to do the filming and they were even filmed TOGETHER.
Delusional
"This whole film was about Paul-he intially started it off and then backed out."
In the controversial show Sheryl tells how former Spurs and Rangers star Gazza:
GREW so delusional he thinks he's mates with THE QUEEN and is being BUGGED.
BRANDED Sheryl an "ignorant woman" and told her son he was going to get "blad- dered" in the final falling out.
CAST himself out of her life for good by rejecting her final offer of help.
Last summer Gazza-who was sectioned under the Mental Health Act for his own safety-looked like he might finally turn his life around after Sheryl agreed to take him back.
Until now she has never spoken about that reunion. In tears, Sheryl admits feeling she had no choice but to try again with the one-time England hero who was capped 57 times.
"The life he could have without drink is much better than the life he has when he's drunk all the time," she says sadly. "He rung me up saying, 'Help me! Help me! Help me!' How can I put the phone down on that?
"I do still care about him, he was the love of my life. He's the father of my son Regan. And he's been a father figure to his stepchildren Mason and Bianca. And I DO love him, I don't want anything bad to happen to him."
There seemed so much hope when the pair were pictured hand-in-hand in June during one of Sheryl's daily visits to the rehab clinic at the Priory in south-west London. She even took 12-year-old Regan along.
She was so convinced that Paul was prepared to change she granted his pleas to move back into the mansion in the village of Felden, near Hemel Hempstead, Herts, where she lives with Regan, 22-year-old Bianca and Mason, 19.
There was even speculation the couple might remarry. But things quickly disintegrated.
The first major sign of trouble came when Paul demanded to sleep with Sheryl just days after moving in. And he used the bedroom ban as his excuse for leaving with no warning.
In a phone conversation Sheryl told him: "You don't want to stay in the spare room? It's such a shame. It's such a shame that you can't see beyond that and have respect for me."
Bugged
Sheryl also describes how she quickly became shocked by Paul's odd paranoid behaviour.
"He was convinced he was being bugged," she recalls, adding that he believed certain words acted as triggers for the dark forces keeping tabs on him.
When one of Sheryl's friends used the word 'bagel' in conversation he exploded: "Why'd you say that? Why'd you say that?" He was convinced the word 'bagel' was a trigger sign.
Sheryl adds: "Paul thinks he's best of buddies with the Queen- and the Queen's cousin. He's definitely delusional."
The home video shot for the documentary shows how the family fears for gaunt Gazza's health when he doesn't eat for two days.
When they ask why, he points to his belly and replies: "Because I feel fat. That's fat. I feel fat."
The others ask Paul what he would normally do and he replies: "Sit here and get p***ed."
In a touching lucid moment Gazza takes the video camera around the house filming the family in bed while saying: "It's great to be back home with Sheryl and the kids. Let's hope everything works out. And just try and live a normal life."
But Sheryl says Gazza's behaviour got worse. "When he came home from the clinic he was all right," she recalls.
"But then one day he went, 'Oi, you f***ing ignorant woman!' "I went, 'Who do you think you're talking to like that? I will NOT be spoken to like that!'
"Then he was saying to Mason, 'Don't bother ringing me because I'm going to be f***ing bladdered by the time I get to London.' I said, 'It's all blackmail. He knows he's got you.' "
After just 12 days Gazza fled and was spotted with his infamous drinking pal Jimmy "Five Bellies" Gardner in London. It was clear he was back on booze.
Then he hit the road across Europe with heavy metal rock band Iron Maiden on a string of benders. By September he was headline news again, drunk and out of it at a hotel in the Portuguese resort of Vale do Lobo.
It was there that Sheryl and the children flew to give him his last warning-and where they finally showed him the red card.
By October, still in Portugal and drinking heavily, Gazza fell for a Sheryl lookalike, 44-year-old photographer Sally Mulholland, and moved in with her. But Sheryl is convinced nothing can now save him.
She breaks down on seeing the video of their lavish 1996 wedding and admits she married Paul in a vain attempt to halt the physical abuse that plagued their relationship.
"He said it would be the one thing that made him stop," she says. "I wanted to believe him, that it wouldn't happen again. I just needed to stop the violence."
When told that some people would say Gazza is STILL abusing her, Sheryl agrees: "Yeah, he is in a way. But if it's not my responsibility to help him whose is it? I still have to live with myself. I still have to sleep at night."
Is there a chance Gazza will ever sort himself out? "I doubt it," she admits reluctantly.
"I don't know what it would take because he's had all the health scares, he's had the mess, he's had the family back that he supposedly so wanted.
"He's been given everything. . . and he's still doing it."
Moment we said it was all over
SHERYL and her three children finally walked out on Gazza after an abusive four-letter confrontation in his Portuguese hotel room.
The family flew to the Algarve in September with controversial American 'intervention therapist' Tracey Towner to give Paul one more chance to turn his life around.
Earlier, in an intense session with Towner filmed by Channel 4, long-suffering Sheryl had decided it was at last time to GIVE UP on her ex.
The therapist asked: "If you have your ultimate fantasy what is it you want?"
Sheryl answered: "To shut the door. No one said to me before it's OK if you don't help him."
She then told the kids-Regan, 12, Mason, 19, and Bianca, 22: "I've decided that's it with Dad now. I'm not helping him any more. He's got to do it himself."
Nevertheless she agreed to go with them-and the TV documentary crew-to the resort of Vale do Lobo for one final showdown with Gazza.
Tears
And the film shows how, when the meeting goes pear-shaped, they all march out and Sheryl tells the cameras: "We've done it now.
"Mason can't even speak. Regan and Bianca just did it through tears. It was really hard and Paul was really confrontational, especially to Mason.
"He went, 'Just f*** off the lot of ya!' Then I said, 'Right, let's go everyone!' But I didn't want to go down the lift, I just knew we had to keep walking away.
"Then all the time he was going, 'Sheryl!' And Tracey went, 'Keep walking! Keep going!'
"But Paul was so nasty. It was no shock that he was. He's in a mess. He really looks terrible. . . wild, skinny, really gaunt. It's horrible.
"Can you believe it though? We've actually done it, we've actually done it."
Sadly Sheryl adds: "I hate the fact that for Mason now, the last time he's got to see his dad the man was confrontational to him. That's horrible.
"We've done everything and now it's down to him. You can't be dragged down with it any more.
"That's how he's had us until now, always worried he's going to do something, always worried he's going to kill himself."
Mason: Day he stopped talking to me I fell apart
DESPITE all that's happened Gazza's devastated stepson Mason refuses to say a bad word about the disgraced soccer legend.
The 19-year-old still longs for a proper relationship with Paul-the man he knew as Dad from the age of one-and recalls with desolation how Gazza completely cut HIM off for FOUR YEARS.
It came during the breakdown of Gazza's marriage to Sheryl when Mason and sister Bianca spoke out about the abuse inflicted on their mum.
"That four years haunted me," says Mason. "From the day he stopped talking to me I completely fell apart.
"I don't go to sleep until four or five o'clock thinking that's normally the time he calls. I'm a heavy sleeper and I think if I sleep I'll miss his phone call."
Mason says he has been so scared of his stepdad dying that it prevented him from getting a job.
"I think the next time I see him he's going to be in a box," adds Mason.
"Months go past where you're still sitting thinking the same things and you haven't got on with your life."
But then the lad leaps to Gazza's defence and says: "It's my choice to sit and worry about it. He'd probably say, 'You don't have to, get on with your life.'
"But it's not easy when your dad is heading down death row."
Contact
Mason now fears Gazza will now blank him for ever after challenging him to clean up his act.
"I pray he keeps in contact," says the loyal stepson, who has now found a job as an estate agent.
"My whole ambition is not to cancel him out of my life. And I've just had to do that. But the whole point of my life is to do the best for him-and maybe this IS the best for him.
"I know for a fact now I've done all I can do. It's my turn now to sort myself out.
"He's going to call one day. If he does I'll answer. But I'm not going to sit here waiting.
"I'm moving on, not moving on forgetting about him, but moving on with my own life."
He's off to VIP rehab
TORMENTED Paul Gascoigne has signed up for an intensive four-weeks of do-or-die rehab in a last-ditch effort to beat his drink and drug addictions and dodge an early grave.
From January 12 experts at the specialist Sporting Chance Clinic-in the grounds of Champneys Forest Mere health farm in Liphook, Hampshire-will put a detoxed Gazza through gruelling 14-hour days of therapy, yoga, physical training and swimming.
The clinic is the brainchild of ex-Arsenal and England hero Tony Adams, who has vowed to help Gazza conquer his demons just as he beat his own infamous booze habit.
Sporting Chance chief executive Peter Kay said last night: "Paul knows his life is in great danger. He was at rock bottom when he called me and asked for help.
"He doesn't want to carry on living this way and is sick and tired of it. I've waited six years for that phone call. But it's going to be very tough for him."
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This article has 115 comments
I was a big fan of Paul Gascoigne back in the 90"s.I feel so sorry for him.He was such a big star in a short amount of time and before he knew it ,it all went downhill.He must feel so unhappy that his fame time is over.People drink and take drugs to feel better,not because they are mean or nasty.I am sure he has a good hard and I hope he will find a women who can make him happy.A women that will help him to turn his life around.
By Iris Hagemann,Seattle,USA. Posted July 9 2009 at 6:11 AM.
sheryl was part of the problem with gazza
bianca just uses his surname to make a career 4 hershelf what a family iam glad he is out of it
By anon. Posted April 19 2009 at 9:18 PM.
What a fantastic family sheryl has, all so very mature and caring . Can't believe all the awful people that think she is doing this for money. You can tell she is a very caring person and wants what is best for Paul and her lovely kids. I think Mason has been very brave as he obviously feels really bad about more or less giving up on his dad.
Maybe Paul will realise just how much he is loved when he watches the documetary and hopefully will manage to sort himself out.
By lin. Posted January 7 2009 at 12:59 PM.
What a fantastic family sheryl has, all so very mature and caring . Can't believe all the awful people that think she is doing this for money. You can tell she is a very caring person and wants what is best for Paul and her lovely kids. I think Mason has been very brave as he obviously feels really bad about more or less giving up on his dad.
Maybe Paul will realise just how much he is loved when he watches the documetary and hopefully will manage to sort himself out.
By lin. Posted January 7 2009 at 12:50 PM.
why do people think sheryl was cashing in on paul? **** sake bianca is akeing plenty of cash
By harris. Posted January 7 2009 at 12:44 AM.
sheryls must be running short of cash why else does she keep reminding her children of the bad times,probabely to much time on her hands.
mason gets a job as a estate agent,not a good time for that! but hes either working for his real dad kyle or following in his foot steps,get on with it !
By d goulden. Posted January 6 2009 at 12:23 PM.
I have mixed feelings, I feel sorry for Sheryl for the years of abuse, I believe he rang her for help last summer and thats why she took him in, not to suddenly cash in again after years without him but what has never come to light is why the childrens natural father was out of the picture, I mean Mason was only one when they split. Were things so bad that they couldnt bare to have anything to do with him, Im very confused about this aspect of the situation., but I think Gazza should be left alone now and what will be will be.
By rina. Posted January 6 2009 at 10:46 AM.
could you please leave this man alone,he has already to much problem for himself.
he can`t stop drink, some one he want help him and he refused,so i think is much better that some one he must understand that, Paul if he want he must do on is own ,thank`s to this clinic he will get better i`am sure.
sb
By stefano. Posted January 6 2009 at 7:26 AM.
i watched this programme tonight and it broke my heart
i was not crying for gazza i cries for his family he needs help
but wont accept it. i have a 51 year old sister the same and paul
my sisters family have gone through the same and me i had to end up looking after my nephew at the age of ten he was in such a mess
he had to walk away from his mum. we all tried to help but she knew
best and now its going on 11 years from i have spoken to my sister
i dont have a sister anymore thats how i feel. it used to hurt but now
i can live without her in my life. i was very weak trying to sort her out but that weakness has become stronger and i feel if you want to
drink then carry on its your life in your hands. good luck to gazza's family they have done the right thing take care my thoughts are with you even though i dont know you.
By karen. Posted January 5 2009 at 11:43 PM.
sheryl is a great mum and we see lovely children from this documentary that she has raised, Gazza did **** really he abused her and the children but they all have have been their for him in times of trouble, gazza is a nutcase who has abused the love of family
By ruth. Posted January 5 2009 at 11:57 PM.
he may be an alcohololic but hearing the stories out there of him hitting his wife and kids (especially mason) he doesnt deserve the help of sherly or the kids, they no doubt have been emotinally ****** up by his treatment towards them, any man that abuses his wife /kids should be hung, drawn and quartered.
By steve. Posted January 5 2009 at 10:51 PM.
I agree with Cecil Archers comment on the 4th Jan 09. You can experience change if you want your life back, but maybe not through the avenues you've already tried. Get in touch if you want my help.
Best Wishes
By Raj. Posted January 5 2009 at 1:37 PM.
Had to let him go after you got half of his life savings and income.
By Robin Taylor. Posted January 5 2009 at 9:30 AM.
Family and life or Booze and death. For me and his family it is obviously n easy decision. Let's all hope that this is the case iin Gazza's mind too or else a football legend and a great personality will be forever lost and remembered for his erratic and outrageous behaviour towards himself and his family.
Good luck Paul...my hopes and wishes for recovery are with u.
By Nikos. Posted January 5 2009 at 7:02 AM.
Finally, this is a rather emotional moment for me as I am in tears writing this... I was prognosed as a large talent for my city and possibly my then country too. And what I always said is that I wanted to be like Gazza when all my mates wanted to be Diego or Pele or even Gary Lineker. Nonetheless, I never fulfilled those hopes but Gazza will always be a legend in my heart and soul. But I have moved on with my life and achieved alot and shamingly when I come to think of who I will mention to my children as my idol, that wil probably not be Gazza anymore...He has one last chance to change his life round and be the real Gazza. The funny, lovng and oker Gazza that his family used to know and love.
My hopes are with Gazza and that he will one day sit on te Match of the Day panel and teach them all how football is really played. But until then, I am afraid my heart and feelings lie with his wife and children Regan, Mason and Bianca.Be strong and keep your lives on track. It is impossible to forget or erase your father or stepfather but u must not be dragged down by his attitude... at the end of the day the choice is plain and simple...
By Nikos. Posted January 5 2009 at 7:01 AM.
Despite my British nationality, I was born and raised in Greece. I used to come to the UK every year but I wil never forget the 1996 Euro and Gazza's unique talent and overall sporting capabilities. He was and always b a true football hero in my eyes and in the eyes of many loyal England fantics like myself. Nonetheles, there comes a turning point in life for sportsmen that tends to overthrow them. Gazza is not an exception to that. However, that does not excuse the fact that he is killing himself little by little every day that goes by.Moreover, as it clearly seems that he doesnt care about his own life anymore, he should at least care about his family. Spotsmen duing ad past their career are mant to be rol odels but Gazza cannot claim that "label" in any sense. He has not only destroyed his own life to an unreversible extent but also cause tremendous psychological and unbearable problems to his children...
By Nikos. Posted January 5 2009 at 7:00 AM.
I raise my glass to all of you.
Be strong and it will all turn out OK.
Best wishes,
Ben
By Ben Sutton. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:32 PM.
iv seen this man when hes been out having a good time in newcastle! what he thinks he is is beyond me. we know what he was but he still thinks hes a god! well hes not. hes a drunk and a very sad man. dont know which mirror he looks in but what he sees is not what we see! we see a sad wasted man who is fast running out of welcomes.
By lilly. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:06 PM.
PAUL GASCOIGNE NEEDS TO DECIDE WHAT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO HIM - HIS FAMILY OR THE BOTTLE. HE HAS HAD PLENTY OF OPPORTUNITIES IN REHAB, SADLY HE HAS MADE THE WRONG CHOICE
CHOOSE FAMILY & REHAB - YOU LIVE
CHOOSE THE BOTTLE - YOU DIE
YES ITS HARD, BUT BEING PART OF AN ALCOHOLICS LIFE IS NO PICNIC
By HB. Posted January 4 2009 at 8:54 PM.
Pathetic, i have never responded to garbage like this and very rarely even viewed comments but enough is enough.
Has anyone ever heard the saying about never judging a man until you have walked a mile in their shoes? The same people who cheered after that fantastic goal against Scotland and all the genius and joy the footballer and man has given us?
Good luck to you Paul and all my thoughts are with you mate, get well and let's hear that laugh again and get you back into a football role where you belong, do you hear the FA?
By Chris. Posted January 4 2009 at 8:26 PM.
Well, if Mr. Gasgoine wasn't drinking and had his wits about him, he'd realize that he was being taken to the cleaners. Unfortunately alcoholics don't have much grasp on reality and are easily preyed upon. Doesn't he have any friends looking out for his interests? Says a lot about the calibre of man doesn't it?
By Susan McKevitt. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:59 PM.
as i grew up i always remembered gazza for the player and joker he was. one party too many and he's been washed up on the shore once more. no one is beyond repair, so don't give up the fight just yet mate
By Antony Seddon. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:38 PM.
gazza, you will be remembered as one of the greatest players, but like George Best liked the drink too much.
By hamish mickle. Posted January 4 2009 at 7:03 PM.
Sheryl you have to look after yourself and your kids. You will never live a "normal" life with this illness. My dad had it for 43 years until he passed away. I lived with that from the age of 15 onwards. How my mom put up with it i will never know. Its hard to remember its an illness and you begin to think they do it deliberately. Unconditional love can be very hard at times. Wish you all the best.xx
By anon. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:53 PM.
Been there Paul and look back in amazment at where I have come from.The booze and the abuse were turned into grace and forgiveness for me and yet I see so many who are never saved.
Blessings, H.
By Huw . Posted January 4 2009 at 6:17 PM.
theres alot of unlucky people in this world who get diagnosed with unwanted deadly illnesses, and a selfish talented exsportsman wastes the life and gifts hes been given. You fool gazza , get help you only just deserve and take the help before its to late. ive seen you play the sport i love and thought you were god. . good luck
By PAUL CHAPMAN. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:06 PM.
I think its a sad case of to much to young ,and a lack of guidance from all who benefited from Gascoine .From his early footballing days right through to his present state.Its really a shame but from the outside the only one that has trully suffered are his ex wife a children.I just hope that football clubs now deal with footballers in a way which has obviously bi-passed Gascoine
By gareth. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:05 PM.
The likes of Gazza and George Best are beyond help. You cannot help anyone who wont help themselves. Even with a new Liver George Best ruined his second chance on life.
Sheryl and the rest of the family need to understand no matter what they do it will never be enough. Go on with your lives, do not let him distroy everyones along with his own.
By britgirl1972. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:00 PM.
I think its a sad case of to much to young ,and a lack of guidance from all who benefited from Gascoine .From his early footballing days right through to his present state.Its really a shame but from the outside the only one that has trully suffered are his ex wife a children.I just hope that football clubs now deal with footballers in a way which has obviously bi-passed Gascoine
By gareth. Posted January 4 2009 at 5:59 PM.
Gazza was a genius of a footballer and had the world at his feet,They say a footballers life is short lived but the way of getting over it is not to go out nd get hammered nd spend thousands on cocaine nd hotels.You dont see other footballers doing it like another great footballer Mr Shearer nd Mr Lineker.The way forward is for Gazza to listen to those who love him like his family nd kids nd not those who want his money like the jobless Jimmy Gardner.Gazza listen to your Kids nd your family failing to do this then you are beyond help.Its you that is doing this to yourself nd nobody else so sort ya self out.
By DEL. Posted January 4 2009 at 4:57 PM.
people like gazza the idiot should be left alone to fall deeper into the gutter its his kids i feel for having to watch their dad being a waste of space let him go jacqui
By jacqui. Posted January 4 2009 at 3:43 PM.
Love you Gazza. God bless you mate.
By brian. Posted January 4 2009 at 3:53 PM.
paul need too see my sister in law in hospital and see with his own eyes what the drink done to her,she been 21 years in bed ,because of the bed soars she had a worm eatting her flesh,she been operated but she is her last days,all because her drink
By connie debrincat. Posted January 4 2009 at 4:05 PM.
I feel sorry for his real son nobody is protecting him for all this drama, at all and it must be screwing with his head. I'd lay money on it that it a decade's time he will be a drunk and junkie too, all because 'neither' off his parents put him 1st.
Sins off the parents and all that....
wake up Sheryl an alcholic ex will be the least off your worries then...
My ex is an alcholic, i dont bad mouth him to my child, i protect her as best i can from the bad stuff, i dont add to it
By Jo. Posted January 4 2009 at 3:28 PM.
I think she has done her best, and needs to concentrate on her own happiness, and a decent quality of life for her children.
Gazza will end up like George Best, he will not help himself, and can't even do it for his kids, leave him well alone Cheryl, your children need you, and love you, you did the right thing.
By Moira Bernadette Symons. Posted January 4 2009 at 3:07 PM.
I'm feeling rather confused.Could someone please explaint to me why people seem to bend over backwards to make excuses for self centree idiots like Gazza and Stan Collimore,yet treat decent,hard working men ,like David Beckham ,for example with contempt.If Gazza had just a fraction of Becks determination and work ethic,he could have been one of the greatest football players of all time.He had his chance,but he blew it.He got himself into this mess,and he is the only one who can get himself out of it.Ever heard of "tough love?"Because this is what Gazza need right now!
By Rita Cocking. Posted January 4 2009 at 2:46 PM.
wishing paul all the very best for 2009..x
By sharon c. Posted January 4 2009 at 2:43 PM.
Why don't all of you who have slated Sheryl get a life, read the facts and stop whinging how great a man Gazza is or WAS. He's a "has been " a loser a wife beater and a alcoholic, says it all. Its up to him now if he wants to quit the booze and clean his act up. sheryl has stood by a man she cares for, For some ignorant people here commenting on her they obviously don't understand the meaning of love.
By mandy. Posted January 4 2009 at 2:30 PM.
I think Sheryl shoud give him another chance for the sake of her son and her other children. Sometimes it's hard, but we must learn to forgive. Children need their father or else it will affect them in future.
Gazza is a very sick man and he needs God in his life. God can make a way when man cannot make a way. Keep praying for him and believe God to deliver him and then you will see God's miracle on his life.
The world is so dark and if you get sucked into this world, it would destroy you no matter what, but when you have God in your life, you would be protected by this horrible world. There would be boundaries in your life.
By Yinka. Posted January 4 2009 at 2:09 PM.
I think Gazza's story is so sad. He has an addicition to drink/drugs and only he can sort himself out. I really hope he does. What Gazza doesn't need is Sheryl & the kids selling their stories. If they want to help him surely they should keep their business private. It makes me doubt how much they really love him?
By Kelly. Posted January 4 2009 at 2:09 PM.
The posters on here that are slagging the family, in what they see as support for Paul do not have any conception of what he has become. You only have to read his ramblings in other papers to see the usual alcholic "It's not my fault, it's everyone else" excuses. Over the past years the media has bent over backwards to help this cripple, with television exposure, the foray into coaching springs to mind. On each occasion it has ended in disaster. His so called friend Five bellies is only interested in where his next drink is coming from and says this is giving support. It's sad but the sooner this tormented man drinks himself to death the better for all concerned. The only problem with that is the media will take on someone else and harry them to death, why do they have to "report" every detail of these people struggle; "in the public interest" I don't think so
By Kevin S. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:00 AM.
the boy was paid a fortune for being superhuman why cann't he sort himself out? look at the parents not his wife. you are a product of your upbringing. as for the kids using his name a lot of children use the name of their stepfather donn't judge people.
By paul. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:54 AM.
I think Sheryl's done more than her fair share for Gazza. She should have binned him long ago. The poor woman has put up with his domestic violence and alcholism for years. If this was your average Joe, people would be horrified that a woman would put up with such behaviour and advise to get rid.....quick.
By sarah c. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:13 AM.
the sad thing is its pauls own fault i to have made many many mistakes in life and have had many chances to get my life on track but have a problem fighting the demons of life you cant knock cheryl good luck paul
By michael. Posted January 4 2009 at 12:58 PM.
Just to agree with some of the comments on here , this vile leech and her grasping daughter are trying to cash in Gascoinge name one last time.
Paul is not perfect by any means , but its interesting to note that as soon as his cash dried up they were out the door (keeping his name of course , because these 2 no-talent nobodies needed a link to the celeb world they crave)
my wish is for Paul to get help from his real friends , and these 2 bloodsuckers to fade back into obscurity where they belong
By Gerry. Posted January 4 2009 at 1:53 PM.
I have now been dry for 43 weeks. If Gazza wants to stop then it is up to HIM and HIM alone, I should know. You are never really cured but the support of family and friends is important. However, if HE isn't prepared to make that first step to help HIMSELF, without excuses, then I'm afraid he hasn't long left.
By Mark. Posted January 4 2009 at 1:52 PM.
As for Gazza. If you take things one day at a time, maybe you can realise that the world (sober) is a fantastic place to be. Give yourself goals, get fit, study, trek across the Andes for charity so that you get back some selfrespect, and in turn people will start to respect you again. Work hard to turn your life around and don't wallow in self-pity. You once had the strength of mind to train hard to be the best, you can easily beat the alcohol for EVER.
By Sarah. Posted January 4 2009 at 1:29 PM.
These people are money grabbing gold diggers. When Sheryl first met Paul she was still married and before she had even got divorced she had made sure she had people calling her by her single name. Funny after all that Gazza has supposed to have done to her and her kids they all still choose to keep his surname. Ask yourselves why? His 'step' daughter even introduced herself as Paul Gascoignes daughter to get on a celeb tv programme. How come she is not bothered about them seeing their 'real' dad? Money, money, money, that's all it is. If I wanted to help him I would make sure there were no cameras or media around to watch me do it. I am sure they must have run out of money and need some more to live the lavish lifestyles they crave. Wonder how much they got for doing this programme and this article. Gazza get with your 'real' family who actually do care about you and get the help you need before it's too late. Stay away from hangers on and gold diggers.
By Yvonne. Posted January 4 2009 at 1:28 PM.
Way to go Shezza! An explosive expose of an obviously mentally ill man will surely put him on the path to recovery...@@...
By Mella. Posted January 4 2009 at 1:19 PM.
its so sad for paul , he was one of the best footballers good luck gazza god bless from an everton fan
By scouse 1878. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:35 AM.
sheryl just leave him to rot he nowt but a woman beater alot people 4get wat u went frew with them 3 kids waist space and attension seaker that want every body 2 say poor gazza alot worse owt there than him
By john. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:45 AM.
To all the critics on here - you've obviously never lived with or married an abusive alcoholic. Whatever we say or do will never change them, it has to come from themselves. whatever Sheryl's reasons for the documentary(and remember that The Drunk initiated it) she has to turn her back on him. Why should she be dragged down to the gutter with him? At the end of the day it's HIS choice, HIS responsibility and no one else's. To Damo - no woman wants an abusive drunk slobbering over her in bed and The Drunk was just using this as another means of control and manipulation, not love or desire so grow up!
Gazza is no hero, he is a drunken thug.
By madonna. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:45 AM.
The people posting here are in two groups, those who have experience of someone's alcoholism, and those who haven't. Basically those who really 'get it' and those who don't. If you've never had 'the alcoholic experience' chances are you'll just be focussing on whether Sheryl is trying to 'just make money' and on her surname. If you do understand what this story is really about, you'll see that Paul's family are just as much victims of the disease as he is.
Alcoholics themselves are not bad people, but their disease, alcoholism, can never be under-estimated - it is highly destructive on those closest to the sufferer and has a massively painful effect on their loved ones. Sheryl, Bianca, Mason & Regan only deserve our support and good wishes. I hope that people who don't understand how alcoholism leaves a trail of utter carnage in families will at least have the good grace to not add to their suffering. This has nothing to do with money!
By Alkie's Ex. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:44 AM.
Hello to all wounderful News of the world readers best paper in the world.
Studini thinks he should not be hounded like that of the hound dog.
He is a wounderful honest man and great fotballer player like the Deno Zoff.
So he has earned his loot so let him spender on what he wants too.
Wish him well from Studini and have a nice day all you loverly news of the world readers.
By studini. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:44 AM.
Why does she still use his surname?
Don't any of them have a job?
By Sarah. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:58 AM.
As an Alcoholic, I can tell you that you have to live your life....'ONE DAY AT A TIME'!! Don't take that 'First Drink' & there will never be a second one!!!
To a real Alcoholic....One drink is too many & a hundred is NOT enough!! We use slogans like.....'EASY DOES IT'....'LIVE & LET LIVE'....'FIRST THINGS FIRST' & of course....'ONE DAY AT A TIME'!
Most alcoholics & problem drinkers want to quit eventually, because of all the aggravation alcohol abuse causes in your life!! All the 'Crap' wears you down in the long run!
I have lost a lot of things in life due to excessive alcohol abuse, including relationships, good jobs, Auto accidents etc....& I have even been to jail!! That was the 'EYE OPENER' for me!! Especially being in jail in the States!
If Paul Gascoigne wants to really stop drinking, then he can!! It's all in his hands! I don't think he is a "Basket Case"....He just needs to prioritize his life and then have the 'COURAGE' to follow through with it!!
You would be surprised at what you can do.....If you 'REALLY WANT TO'!!
By MAKE MY DAY. Posted January 4 2009 at 11:53 AM.
Vile Woman!
By WB. Posted January 4 2009 at 12:09 PM.
Couldn't agree more with the majority of the above comments. I seem to remember when Sheryl's first marriage broke up she reverted to her maiden name. Strange she didn't do it this time!
By Ann . Posted January 4 2009 at 12:12 PM.
I am disgusted that these awful people are able to make money from an ill man! That vile Bianca even has the brass neck to call herself Gascoigne when he was only in their lives 5 minutes. She would not be a 'celebrity' at all with her average looks without his name! Its discusting.
I hope no-one watches this programme thats what these people need to realise we all love Paul but don't care who they are! Dreadful scroungers!!!!!
By Cathy. Posted January 4 2009 at 12:10 PM.
Disgusting, ignore their comments cheryl, they have not a clue what it is like to live with an alcoholic, about sold him out, what rubbish, she was doing it to show people like you, what he is really like, nd why she had to leave him, probably... Well i loved gazza, but he is a stupid pig and does not deserve the help if anyone, oh its so hard to get of the booze, no its not, i drank and gave it up, its a choice, not an addiction, it is at the end of the day weakness of mind, he is a very weak person that cares only for himself and no-one else, the selfish pig, thats why he was crying at the world cup, because the selfishness is inside whether on the booze or not.. YOUR A DISGRACE GAZZA AND THIS POOR WOMEN AND HER LOVELY CHILDREN HAVE BEEN THROUGH HELL COS OF YOU.. NOW GET YOUR HEAD TOGETHER OR DIE OF A WEAK IN THE HEAD DISEASE THAT YOU HAVE GIVEN YOURSELF, YES YOU KNOW IT, ALCOHOLISM IS NOT THAT HARD TO QUIT IS IT.. YOU JUST WANT THE ATTENTION.. GROW UP AND BE A MAN...
By sandra jones. Posted January 4 2009 at 12:10 PM.
He needs help he doesn't need to be around losers like her and with baggage of children which she was happy take his name when the he was on top his game. He needs to be away from her the goldigger. I am a recovering alcoholic so I do understand what he is going through.Good luck to him .
By andy. Posted January 4 2009 at 12:32 PM.
It does say if you read it,that it was Paul who intially started the film off and then back out,sheryl did'nt start it.
By janet. Posted January 4 2009 at 12:31 PM.
Gazza as a footballer provided the nation with some memorable football moments but as an individual in society, he has struggled to deal with the life he has to live away from football and the constant limelight. We can only wish that he can find the willpower to fight these demons and remain healthy. Sheryl was only with him because of fame and wealth,
By chuds1976. Posted January 4 2009 at 12:30 PM.
rather than getting stuck into sheryl and the kids remember all gazzas so called mates jimmy five bellies danny baker chris evans etc............
if only he'd gone to man utd not spurs this wouldnt be an issue.
leave sheryl alone until you have been in her situation its hard to understand
By simon buckley. Posted January 4 2009 at 12:19 PM.
all this woman and her daughter have every done is try to make money at paul's expense, if he hadn't met her his life would be so much different today
By mandylatham. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:12 AM.
thequicker he goes the better
By geordie moore. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:10 AM.
After what she says she went through, why bother with him? Then again think of the cash she has made even using her son, what a bloody parasite. Gazza may be s s*** but by God he has had a lot of leeches over the years, but she takes the biscuit.
By lyn. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:09 AM.
i met gazza a couple of years ago and he was first class. The whole of england loves you gazza.
Good luck my old son
By b beresford. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:21 AM.
it was his worse day when he met this woman, all she and her daughter have ever done is make money at paul's expense. his life would be so different if he never met her.
By mandylatham. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:14 AM.
When you're desperate to help somoene, you don't sell their secrets to the newspapers. Or betray them to a TV camera crew.
However, if you want to exploit someone....
Cheryl Gascoigne (does anyone know her real name?) is a kiss and tell merchant. She only got back together with him for the sake of the column inches.
By Helena Handcart. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:25 AM.
Why all the vile comments towards Sheryl? It is Gazza who initially wanted to take part in this programme! Also his so called long term friend Jimmy five [fat git] Bellies appears to actively encourage his behaviour. If he was a true friend he would refuse to participate.
By memyself&I. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:38 AM.
I have met gazza a few times and his downfall has been his so called mates who are nothing more than hangers ons.
Friends look after each other not encourage them to do do negative things, gazzas downfall is those who surround him and have been creaming off him for years
By stephen. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:37 AM.
The amazing thing is no matter how far down Gazza has gone he can actually recover from this and lead a worthwhile existence - he can effectively astound people who now think he has no chance. Gazzas story is not unique - in fact it is boringly similar to many alcoholics around the world. What is different is that it is tabloid news. If Gazza gets the spiritual element of recovery he will get "it" and beat the "ism" - in the hands of Big Tony A's set up he has every chance - or should I say a sporting chance - Good Luck and God Bless
By Johnny C. Posted January 4 2009 at 10:39 AM.
This woman is nothing more than a common golddigger! Her and her leech of a daughter have made their name from Gazza. Why else would anyone have been interested in Bianca or Sheryl except for the name Gascoigne! If she loved Gazza as she says she wouldn't have sold him out and done this programme. She doesn't love him, she loves the cash she can make from him. Disgusting.
By Kirsty . Posted January 4 2009 at 9:27 AM.
She said she married him to stop the phsical abuse !
Well I am sorry she must either be stupid or was so greedy for his money she was prepared to marry a violent drunk and put her two kids through that life style.
She's a grown up she should know there is nothing she can do after all of this time he has not improved and he wont unless he decides.
Just because he was once a good footballer so what he's not now just another loser who prefers alcohol to his family.
She should ditch his name and head for the hills as far away from him as possible and stop selling stories.
By sa. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:33 AM.
Sheryl, he is one of lifes losers. Don't get involed you deserve better.
By David. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:32 AM.
I feel Sheryl and her family have put too much pressure on Paul by making this documentary, it is hard enough trying to recover from alcohol, getting off the alcohol is the easy part, staying off it is very, very hard especially when you feel people are watching your every move, it must be hell for Paul with the press on his back. I am in recovery and even in my very small network of family and my partner I sometimes feel I want to hide away and wish I had a remote control for life and put it on hold while I sort my head out. Also they are only after his money which will make him feel even more messed up as they don't seem to want him for him just his dosh and what he can do for them. My message for Paul is a day at a time, keep it simple x x x
By Alison. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:28 AM.
What a bunch of two-faced money grabbers! Gazza needs help and support, not stories sold about him! How is he going to turn his life around when the ex and kids are being see negative about him! If Bianca and Mason really hate him for what he did to their mum, why still use his name?! Must be the money!
I hope Gazza pulls himself together and proves everyone wrong!
By Rosie. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:42 AM.
Best wishes Gazza
By Matt Sparkes. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:57 AM.
Sheryl, I too have been there and bought the tee shirt, you were quite right in walking away, as they transfer their guilt on to you and it makes you and your famly feel as if its your fault.
Its a terrible burden to bear, but I endured it for 10 years til i got divorced and then it got much worse after.
You and your children must not beat yourself up over it like my family did, cos at the end of the day Paul makes his choices and right now the Booze is his boss.
It is very hard to let go, but you have to for your own sanity and that of your children, its very very hard. For every drink they have, they have their own reason for it and its usually your fault!
Concentrate on your family and young Reegan and more importantly your self. Its hard but I eventually got through it, my husband drank from the age of 17 til he died aged 75, he had been on deaths door many a time until the end, even then he defied the DRs as they gave him 24hrs to live and lasted 3 weeks, but was in a vegetative state.
You are not alone so take great comfort from friends and family.
God bles you all
By Susan Thomas. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:56 AM.
Just a scheming leech.. living in a masion.. all about money/materialism.. once the claws are out, he's got no chance, only but for help from God.
By Harry. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:00 AM.
I saw Gazza once, many years ago (1990's) around the back of the Harley Street Clinics in London. Big fella - fit looking fella, but for all the world he looked troubled. I didn't speak with him as he wandered off head down. I believe the 'trick' is not to pick up that first drink of alcohol, one day at a time. If he can manage that, he's creatd a sober reference just for that day to show him he can try and do it again tomorrow when he starts all over again. I hope to read happier stories about him soon, but the bottom line is no one can help him, unless he helps himself. Surrender to win Paul.
By John. Posted January 4 2009 at 8:59 AM.
She dumped him after the money stopped coming in?
Her and her daughter are money grabbing vile creatures....
If you wanted to help why keep telling the media where he is?
By Jennie. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:19 AM.
why the cameras ?if u love sum 1 u would go on ur own and help him.if people give him a chance instead ov slating him he would sort him self out!
By billy morris. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:17 AM.
I am woman of 35 who's also an alcholic,walking away from him is the best thing they can do.My family did it with me it was a choice what do i want more? my family or the drink.I picked my family and stopped drinking and started living,if Gazza really want's to kick the booze he can.
By Vc. Posted January 4 2009 at 9:09 AM.
Poor Sheryl looks so weary, worn out and wrinkly now - she looks far older than 44. She looks as though she's had a very hard life. Maybe it's just too much sun, or maybe she smokes and drinks - but she has aged very badly indeed. I am shocked!
I can't quite understand why there's all this sudden publicity about Gazza anyway; he was finished years ago! It does make you wonder if Sheryl and her children (maybe even Gazza himself) are doing it to make some money.
Really, it's only Regan who is Gazza's responsibility; Sheryl's other children have their own father, and they didn't even live that long with Gazza in the first place! The marriage was almost over before it started!
This definitely seems like a publicity stunt to make money. If Sheryl really wanted to help Gazza she'd do it privately - not on national TV!
One way she could cash in is if she were to send a picture of Bianca to a lookalike modelling agency; Bianca is the absolute image of a young Maria Osmond!
By Jill Fieldman. Posted January 4 2009 at 8:51 AM.
People like Gazza don't want to help themshelves & bring other people down with them.
By Trisha. Posted January 4 2009 at 8:49 AM.
she is just after more money and fame if she really loved him she would have refused to do the proggrame it is only going to heap more shameon him they seem like a pack of leaches just hanging onto his name perhaps he should change his
By rita fullick. Posted January 4 2009 at 8:05 AM.
Whilst I am sceptical about the reasons why Sheryl and the older children have taken part in this documentary, I hope that some alcoholics watching the programme may be motivated to contact AA for help afterwards. Also, relatives of alcoholics may may realise that not only is it a waste of time trying to change someone else's behaviour, begging and pleading with a sick person to get help is a sign of sick behaviour as well. Alcoholism is a family disease and the Alanon Family Groups (Alateen for children of alcoholics) exist to support relatives and friends and help them get better so that they can live a happier life. You can only change your own behaviour, not someone else's. Sad though it is, the alcoholic will only begin the path of recovery when they seek help. Some people never get to that point and the family need to get on with their own lives in order to hang on to their own sanity.
By Chocbid. Posted January 4 2009 at 8:09 AM.
It seems clear to me that she didn't want him back in her life so much as she wanted his money.
By James. Posted January 4 2009 at 7:52 AM.
Cherryl get rid of this waste of space once and for all. move in with me. i will show you a proper real good time. hes only a butt wipe anyway.
By dixie chicken. Posted January 4 2009 at 7:15 AM.
I think Sheryl was being prissy about the sex. If he wanted it that badly, what skin was it off her nose to grant him that one request? She did after all invite him back into her life and what is a marriage if it isn't about sex? If they hadn't seen each other for five years, all the more reason to want sex again as soon as they were reunited, as he would naturally have missed the physical intimacy of it in all that time. Instead she seemed to want to dangle him on a string over the issue, and now she has the temerity and indiscretion to go and expose what should have been kept private to the News of the World. Well she only has herself to blame.
By James. Posted January 4 2009 at 7:38 AM.
Let Gazza drink himself to death, only he can help himself, he has to want to do it. Sheryl if she loves him wont be able to walk away, she will relent over and over again, I think its another attempt to bring him to his senses.. wont happen.
Message for Damo, "If i got back with someone and she wouldnt go near me, i would be straight out of the door too. Hardly a good base for a relationship. " do you realise how that sounds! you are worse than Gazza at least his reaction was drink fuelled. You are deffinately a man without an ounce of love, thought or common sense.
By Sally. Posted January 4 2009 at 7:31 AM.
I think it is fairly obvious that Paul will not turn it round. He will probably die very soon from doing something stupid to himself. Its very sad but true.
By tom thumb. Posted January 4 2009 at 7:11 AM.
SHERYL done well but she has to accept now from experience that that she cant be the saviour to save him- he is an ALCHOHOLIC and you cant reason with an alcoholic- he needs to work on himself ALONE but with guidance and support but it needs to be in his own time if he is not ready he will not kick this- he has made many attempts and it's not easy but perserverance will get him through but only if he is strong enough
BIG RESPECT to mason very wise words and i completely agree with your mature and realistic stance on the issue
By fiona. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:52 AM.
Who gives a toss anyway the whole bunch of them are a dead loss and a sad reflection of what the world has become a PROPER job and a good days work would do wonders for them all but then they are Celebs so say no more and remember there are plenty of things in this world more worthy of humanities concern than this sad bunch god help us all if this is what we have come to.
By aggadoo. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:25 AM.
he's a drunken thug.....he had everything and now look at him....I do hope he can turn things around but it's a mountain to climb and a long way to fall.
By malc. Posted January 4 2009 at 6:13 AM.
Paul's pathetic and Sheryl was the leech just waiting for him, smart girl, they don't seem to have anything in common but for their child.
As for the kids that's just sad; remember they have their own father, why they have the surname of Gascoigne it's so obvious.
I can remember when Sheryl walked out on her ex-husband an Estate Agent, taking her young child it's obvious all she thought about was the fame and money being associated with Paul.
Sheryl is a leech and Paul's nothing more than a rough, ignorant, alcoholic !
By Annette . Posted January 4 2009 at 6:10 AM.
Speaking from a male view...Take him back ---help him---love him---care for him...the right woman could do wonders with this man...dont miss out..!!...He is still a young man and the future could be fantastic....Ian...vancouver..
By Ian Rowland. Posted January 4 2009 at 4:50 AM.
He's a drunk. You can't help him. Walk away and stay away.
By InVictoria. Posted January 4 2009 at 4:39 AM.