DEAR JANE: I'M cheating on my partner after I met my childhood sweetheart again and had deliciously dirty sex with her in the woods.

My partner and I have had a bumpy ride. A few years back I was jailed for burglary and, while I was inside, she cheated on me with my best friend.

She said it was my fault because she was fed up on her own, and wanted a bit of fun. I couldn't argue with that so I forgave her and we decided to try and make a go of it for the sake of the kids.

I've stayed out of trouble but our relationship hasn't been easy. I can't forget what she did. We've drifted apart and if I'm honest, our relationship is dead.

A few months ago I went to a school reunion. It was 20 years since I'd left and I didn't want to go as I was sure everyone else would have done well, and here I am stuck in a dead end job.

But in the end I decided to go-and the first person I saw there was my childhood sweetheart, the first girl I'd ever loved and the one I lost my virginity to.

She came running over to me, flung her arms around my neck and kissed me, and the feelings I'd had for her all those years ago came flooding back.

I had been 16 at the time and she was so special to me. I wanted to marry her but it fell apart when she went to college.

We talked non-stop at the reunion. She told me she'd had two bad marriages and she'd never stopped loving me. She said no other man had satisfied her sexually after we split.

I was so hungry for her I had to have her. We went for a drive and we did it after I parked up in some woods where we used to go when we were courting. The sex didn't last long but it sure felt good.

We've been meeting up regularly ever since. I love her and want her full-time, and I know she wants me.

I no longer love my partner but I do not know if I can leave my kids.

If I leave my partner, she might not let me see the children again but how can I stay with her in a loveless relationship?

JANE SAYS: KIDS cannot thrive in an atmosphere of hostility and unhappiness, so don't stay simply for their sake.

If you are sure your relationship is dead, it's best to part. She cannot legally prevent you from contact with your children.

But be cautious about jumping into a new relationship with your ex.

At the moment you are starry-eyed reliving your teenage relationship but life's experiences will have made her a different person. You'll have to get to know her all over again to be sure you're not hanging on to a nostalgic memory.

Ashamed of my tiddler

DEAR JANE: ALTHOUGH I keep myself in great shape and dress well, I have a problem. My penis is only three-and-a-half inches when fully erect.

A girl I have been friendly with for a while has just split up with her boyfriend and I would like to have a physical relationship with her, but size is holding me back.

She told me a while ago her then boyfriend was a fantastic lover with a nine-inch penis, and before him she'd had a guy with a really small one - at five inches!

Knowing she thinks five inches is tiddly how can I let her see mine? It gets me down so much, as I really fancy having sex with her.

JANE SAYS: YOU are looking at this girl simply in terms of sex and so you risk being judged solely on your performance between the sheets.

But you're being very short-sighted if you think being a good lover is all about the size of your manhood.

Making love is about so much more than having a big penis, it's about being tender and sensual and loving with your hands and mouth as well.

If she truly cared about you she wouldn't mind about your size, she'd accept you as you are. Avoid quick-fix sex, and concentrate instead on building an emotional relationship.

HEN PECKER SHOCK

DEAR JANE: RECENTLY my wife and I went away to hen and stag weekends. The stags went to a strip club where nothing much happened- the women were dancing around topless and you were not allowed to touch them.

When my wife found out she wouldn't speak to me for days. Then I discovered a video on her mobile of a male strip group at the hen party and I was shocked to see my wife fondling a naked stripper and licking cream off him.

She said all the girls did this. She reckons it's different for girls as it's only fun, whereas men look at strippers in a sexual way. She accused me of being a stick in the mud. Am I? I am so confused.

JANE SAYS: IT'S a bit rich, giving you grief for going to a strip club while she was indulging in such risqué behaviour.

I suspect she wouldn't behave that way with any of your friends, so why is it OK to do it to a stripper?

I agree with you. Fun it might be, acceptable behaviour it is not, and you have every right to feel aggrieved.

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