SINCE I started cheating with women I meet through my wedding-marquee business, I've lost any desire to have sex with my wife.

When my father-in-law persuaded me to take over running the firm last year I thought the work would be dull.

How wrong can you be! It involves visiting clients' houses to give them estimates, and it's usually the bride's mum I deal with.

Despite their age, some of them are really hot. A lot of them welcome a bit of flirting, and it's certainly good for business.

It's usually just light- hearted banter, but one particular woman was sending out unmistakeable signals that she wanted sex.

I reckoned she must have been in her early 40s but she had a great body. She was wearing figure-hugging jeans, and I couldn't take my eyes off her.

After we'd talked business, she insisted I stay for a drink. She sat down beside me and started running her hand up and down my thigh until I was completely aroused.

I didn't need telling twice when she suggested we went somewhere more comfortable. We spent the next couple of hours in her bed having the most brilliant sex. She then signed the hire contract, and I didn't see her again until the day we put up the marquee for her daughter's wedding. She behaved as though nothing had happened. It was a perfect example of no- strings sex.

I've had sex with four more clients who've come on to me since then. It's only sex and no threat to my marriage, so I don't feel guilty.

But just lately I have gone off sex big time with my wife. I still get turned on by other women, and sometimes I take things further with no problems-but when it comes to my wife I can't rise to the occasion.

My wife is gorgeous, and much younger than the women I've cheated with. We used to have the most fantastic sex life.

She's been understanding but I'm worried that she might guess what I've been up to. Why is this happening to me?

JANE SAYS: YOU are kidding yourself when you say you don't feel guilty for cheating on your wife. You do-and that guilt is affecting your sexual responses when you're with her.

You're trying to make light of what you're doing but you know how hurt your wife would be if she found out. You just won't admit it.

Stop cheating, do all you can to strengthen your marriage-and there's every chance your sex drive will return.

Brush with ma-in-law

WHEN my husband and I arrived back from holiday I was shocked to find our house had been cleaned from top to bottom.

Unbeknown to me, my mother-in-law had borrowed the key from our neighbour and come round and been through it.

She made out that she was doing me a great favour, but I was affronted by her cheek. She obviously thinks I am some sort of slut, although I am no more dirty than the next person.

Ever since I got together with her son, she's always thought I wasn't good enough for him. But my husband says he doesn't know why I am making such a fuss and wonders why I don't just let her get on with it.

How can I make him understand I don't want her interfering in our marriage?

JANE SAYS: HER behaviour is out of order but it depends on her motive. She might genuinely have thought she was helping. Tell her you appreciate the thought but you'd rather she left the cleaning to you-and make sure she doesn't have access to a key in future. Try to make a friend of her, and don't give your husband grief about her shortcomings-or his loyalties will be torn.

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