Hot Ms Mop gave me the brush off

DEAR JANE: I'VE been having an affair with our cleaner, but she's just dumped me. I feel so hurt.

I used to be a regular sort of guy who never looked at other women. I was too busy working, for starters. But then I lost my job and seemed to go off the rails.

My wife and I have always been high achievers. Neither of us wanted kids, so we enjoyed a good lifestyle. My job took me all over the world, but since my firm went bust my life's gone pear- shaped.

I became very down when I couldn't find another job, and hated being supported by my wife. At 41, I despaired of ever working again.

I'd never met our cleaner before as I'd always been out at work when she arrived.

I even told my wife we ought to get rid of her now I wasn't earning, but she told me not to be so daft and that I'd soon be back at work.

When the cleaner arrived I was glad I hadn't. She was gorgeous. At first I don't think she liked having me around while she was working, but after a while she and I started having coffee together and became friendly.

She told me she was an actress, and worked for a cleaning agency when she couldn't find acting jobs.

One day I felt really depressed as I'd had yet another letter of rejection, and when she arrived she asked me what was up. I found myself telling her how I felt and she put her arm round me.

Suddenly I kissed her. I don't know why I did, but it felt good. We spent ages kissing, and then we ended up in bed having sex.

She's only 22, and it felt good to make love to someone with such a firm young body. She was so uninhibited sexually she did things to me I'd only ever fantasised about.

After that, we'd make love every time she came to clean the house. It cheered me up no end. I even stopped worrying about finding another job. But last week the agency sent us a different cleaner-she's fat, forty, and not at all friendly.

I asked what had happened to our usual cleaner and was told she'd got a part in the chorus of a long-running musical.

I tried texting her, but there was no reply. I feel hurt that she could just disappear from my life. I know it was only sex, but it made me feel better.

Now I feel even more depressed, and don't know how to move forward.

JANE SAYS: TAKE a reality check and realise it's the best thing that could have happened. Your affair has stopped you focusing on finding a job and if it had carried on, your marriage could have been at risk.

Think about trying a different career. Check out www. redundancyexpert.co.uk

And it's normal to feel depressed after losing your job. Share your anxieties about your situation with your wife.

* You can read more of Jane Butterworth's column in today's printed edition of the News of the World.

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