‘I had a one-night stand, now I’m infertile’

Research shows the lifestyle you lead when you’re young could leave you with fertility problems

Chamydia and infertility problems
Chamydia and infertility problems
Lizzie with Oliver

The test results were conclusive. It was the news that Lizzie Steele had been dreading - she was infertile. And she was just 18 years old.

Tests to find out the cause of her extreme stomach pains revealed Lizzie had less than a one per cent chance of ever conceiving. Her specialist said this could be traced back to a bout of chlamydia which had resulted in pelvic inflammatory disease.

"I was horrified," says Lizzie, a psychology student. "I was being told my chances of motherhood were practically nonexistent - and I was still in my teens."

But far from being a rare occurrence, increasing numbers of young women are suffering infertility problems. Although the average age of women seeking fertility treatment is 36, research shows that in some cases this is being caused by the lifestyle led in their teens and 20s.

Lizzie could have been paying the price for having a one-night stand on holiday two years before. "I'd had sex with a guy I met in Ibiza, but the condom split," she says. "When I got back to Britain, five days later, I got checked out at the sexual health clinic straight away. I was told I had chlamydia and given a course of antibiotics."

She later contracted chlamydia a second time, from another relationship. Again she was treated with antibiotics, and like one in every 10 women who contracts pelvic inflammatory disease, Lizzie has been left with fertility problems. The STD had spread and caused irreversible damage to her reproductive system. As a result it's highly likely she'll need fertility treatment to achieve her dream of motherhood.

Cases of the disease have been increasing rapidly - there were 123,000 incidents last year, largely affecting under-25s.

"I had no idea that my fertility could be affected," she says. "I imagined that, because of my age, I'd get pregnant easily."

When Lizzie, now 19, from Somerset, met her husband-to-be Oliver, 29, through friends two years ago, they knew they wanted a family together. Within six months, Oliver, a mechanical engineer, had already proposed.

Soon afterwards, Lizzie started to get excruciating stomach cramps. Her GP referred her to hospital for tests.

There she had a laparoscopy - the surgeon inserted a narrow camera tube through a tiny incision near her belly button. This showed scar tissue on both her Fallopian tubes caused by pelvic inflammatory disease, triggered by chlamydia.

Fertility specialist Dr Geeta Nargund, head of reproductive medicine at St George's Hospital in London, says: "There is new evidence that shows there is a decline in fertility not only in women in their 30s, but also in women in their late 20s.

"This is largely down to lifestyle factors, such as smoking, being either underweight or overweight, and, of course, unprotected sex which can lead to chlamydia."

Recent figures show that more women than ever before are having fertility treatment in the UK. "There is no doubt that these lifestyle factors can have a negative impact on fertility," confirms gynaecologist and fertility expert Michael Dooley.

In May last year, Lizzie had surgery to remove some of the scar tissue, in the hope this would help improve her chances of conceiving. After her operation, she busied herself with wedding plans - the couple got married in August 2008 and hoped for a honeymoon baby. But that didn't happen.

"I was so upset," Lizzie says. "Although I knew I'd have difficulty getting pregnant, I still hoped it would happen."

When she hadn't conceived, Lizzie went back to see her consultant. In January she had more tests which showed she'd stopped ovulating. Her specialist prescribed the drug Clomid, to help stimulate her ovaries. But further tests showed it hadn't worked. Devastated she'd been left infertile, Lizzie told her husband to leave her. But Oliver refused and vowed to stand by her.

And not only was Lizzie infertile, but she was too young to qualify for IVF on the NHS. National guidelines state fertility treatment should be available to women aged 23-39, although not all health authorities even provide this. Their only chance is to fund a course of treatment privately. But with one round of IVF costing upwards of £3,000, they can't currently afford it.

"Oliver and I have already looked into adoption, but that can take years. All we can do is start saving for IVF," she says.

"To any young women reading this, please, please look after your sexual health, because you just don't know what could happen in the long-term if you don't."

STRUGGLING TO CONCEIVE?

The birth of the world's first test-tube baby, Louise Brown, at Oldham General Hospital on July 25, 1978 gave hope to infertile couples everywhere. Since then, huge amounts of money have been spent on research to help those who would otherwise be childless. Millions of babies have been born because of IVF, and new breakthroughs are still being made.

If you're experiencing fertility problems, there are options:

IVF (in vitro fertilisation): The most common method of treatment, where eggs are removed from the ovaries and fertilised outside the body before being re-transplanted in the uterus.

Array CGH (array comparative genomic hybridisation): A fast new type of genetic egg screening for use in IVF, it can identify which of a woman's eggs are healthiest and therefore more likely to create a successful pregnancy.

IUI (intrauterine insemination): Sperm are artificially placed in the uterus with a catheter to ensure more are available to access the egg.

Egg donation: Another woman's egg can be donated and implanted if the woman undergoing treatment has either had primary ovarian failure, repeated unsuccessful IVF treatment or recurrent miscarriages.

Wellbeing of Women is funding research into illnesses which can affect fertility. In the past, the charity has also funded research into IVF, and its aim is to improve reproductive health in women.

PHOTOGRAPHY: SYRIOL JONES HAIR & MAKE-UP: KELLIE MITCHELL

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I never suggested that you made a regular thing of one night stands, I was pointing out that to those young people who DO should look at your story and think twice about putting themselves at risk.

Yes the world would be a better place for them, yes sometimes condoms do split and unfortunately some end up paying the ultimate price. Just like you have.

As I said, 'I'm not saying don't have fun or live your life, just take the time to think about the implications of what could possibly ruin your life for ever.'

My comments were in NO WAY directed to you as an insult or indeed to judge or offend you personally and I sincerely apologise if that is what you thought. My heart does go out you and your husband, and I hope you find peace in your lives with this.

By anon.. Posted September 28 2009 at 5:23 PM.

I think that most of the people that have commented on this piece have been unkindly judgemental. If you wish to read it properly you will find that I did use protection when I had this one night stand, unfortunately the condom split through no fault of my own. I too have NEVER frittered my body away to all and sundry, that was the ONLY one night stand I have ever had and I take great offense at the presumption that I have them all the time; I am now a happily married woman and have been for over a year. My heart breaks every single day because I can't have children because of something I did nearly 5 years ago. I know that I will never feel my child grow inside me and I will never have that moment of sheer joy when I hold my child for the first time and I also know that it is completely my fault but I did not agree to do this piece so that people like you could judge me, I did it to raise awareness for other young women so that they don't make the same mistake that I did.

By Lizzie Steele.. Posted September 28 2009 at 2:44 PM.

No one was saying they are less worth while, I know how hard it is being told you can't have children.

People are merely stating that just because your young, it doesn't mean you have to oblivious to the effects of protecting yourself. Yes there are many reasons why people can't have children, and my heart goes out to this yound woman, but if she has caught this STD once then she should have been more aware of the risks it carried.

One moment of madness has cost her a lifetime of pain. I really do hope she gets the family she so longs for. So please, don't be so quick to judge others for their words.

By anon.. Posted September 27 2009 at 8:48 AM.

And that makes them less worth while then people that cant have babies for other reasons.... not being able to have a child is the most painful thing in the world, who is anyone else to judge on the reasons why!!!

By whocares.. Posted September 27 2009 at 4:47 AM.

Just goes to show a one-night stand a lifetime of sadness.

By Trisha.. Posted September 27 2009 at 12:38 AM.

If young people put as much energy into creating history of their life to tell their possible future children as they do jumping into bed on one night stands and assuming 'a few weeks together safe guards them from catching anything' the world would be a better place for all concerned.

I am only 33, and I have 3 kids, (believe it or not I was told I couldn't have children due to medical problems when I was younger) and I have lived my life to the full, I am still enjoying it and will continue to do so for years to come. But I NEVER frittered away my body to all and sundry, and I ALWAYS made sure I was protected. My childrens father and I were together 7 years before we had unprotected sex and we were both tested on more than one occasion. Not because we didn't trust each other, but because we were aware of the fact that some STD's can lay dormant for years before showing signs.

I'm not saying don't have fun or live your life, just take the time to think about the implications of what could possibly ruin your life for ever.

By anon.. Posted September 26 2009 at 11:28 PM.

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