'I’d had three abortions by the time I was 18’
As increasing numbers of teens are having multiple terminations, experts now fear they’re using abortion as contraception
The silence of the stark hospital room was broken by the ticking of a clock hanging on the wall opposite her bed - and the violent sobs that shook Mandy Brown. She'd just had a termination - her third in as many years. But this was the first time she'd cried, because she blamed herself.
"I was consumed by feelings of anger and sadness," she says. "Before, I could tell myself that I'd been young and stupid, but at 18 I should have known better. I felt an overwhelming grief for the baby whose life I had just terminated."
Mandy, now 19, is just one of the tens of thousands of teenagers in the UK who have abortions to end unwanted pregnancies each year. Despite increased sex education within schools, the number of teen pregnancies continues to rise and, more worryingly, at least 100 teenagers a month are having an abortion for the second time.
Last year there were 195,296 NHS abortions in England and Wales - 41,593 were performed on girls aged 15-19. And a new survey of teenagers across the UK for Fabulous showed that 38 per cent of those who had abortions had not used any contraception.
Kitty Hagenbach, psychotherapist at the Viveka clinic, which specialises in women and children's health, says: "While we would never want to go back to the days of backstreet abortions, today's quick-fix culture means that many young girls see abortion as just another form of contraception. It's easy to get the morning-after or abortion pill, which also increases their relaxed attitude towards sex."
Meanwhile, peer pressure and the rise of under-age drinking only adds to the problem.
Fabulous GP Dr Hilary Jones says the increase in teen terminations is worrying. "There's clearly huge pressure for young and immature people to have sex before they're physically or psychologically ready," he says. "The tragedy is that these traumatic procedures are avoidable, and have far-reaching consequences - from guilt, to regret, to fertility problems later in life."
Finance assistant and part-time model Mandy, from Yorkshire, admits that when she first became pregnant - aged 15 - she hadn't used contraception. Like many teens, she thought she wouldn't get pregnant.
But she did. And on her 16th birthday she underwent her first abortion at an NHS clinic.
"It sounds selfish, but I wasn't prepared to let anything get in the way of the modelling career I'd always dreamed of. I wouldn't have been able to look after a baby financially or emotionally," she admits.
Mandy kept her pregnancy secret - she was embarrassed and worried about being branded a 'slag'. When she told her then boyfriend, he shrugged off any responsibility, saying the pregnancy was "her problem" and dumped her. In desperation, Mandy called an aunt, who accompanied her to ¿a clinic for a termination. "I kept holding my tummy and saying: 'I'm sorry.' I never thought I would find myself in that situation," she says.
The procedure was routine, but she bled heavily afterwards and was kept in hospital overnight. Her mother thought she was at a friend's for a sleepover.
"The next day, I was discharged but I couldn't bring myself to go straight home - I didn't want to face Mum. I went to the local park and sat on the swings thinking: 'You idiot, what have you done?'" she says.
A year later, Mandy underwent another termination. Although she was on the Pill, she often forgot to take it. She missed two periods and a test confirmed she was pregnant. She told her boyfriend, Dean McDonald, 19, and they agreed she should have a termination.
"Until then, he hadn't known about my first abortion, but I ended up breaking down and telling him," Mandy says quietly. "He shouted at me for being so irresponsible and walked out the room, although he came back to apologise and gave me a cuddle.
"I'd just got a modelling contract worth £10,000. I wasn't going to lose it by telling them I was pregnant. I pushed the fact that I had another child growing inside me to the back of my mind."
Two weeks later, she was back at the clinic having her second abortion. This time she was on her own - Dean was on holiday with his friends and no one else knew.
A couple of hours after the procedure, Mandy was allowed home. Dean texted her to see if she was OK. She recovered quickly and was back modelling within 24 hours.
After the trauma of the termination, you'd think Mandy would be ultra-cautious with contraception. But just a year later, she fell pregnant again - aged 18. Although she'd been taking the Pill regularly, she'd been on antibiotics for a chest infection, which had reduced the Pill's effectiveness. Weeks later the familiar feelings of pregnancy washed over her - nausea, dizziness and bloating. She did a home test, then rang her GP and booked in for another termination.
"The nurse at the clinic, who'd been so reassuring the first time, looked at me with disbelief," reveals Mandy. "She explained that having three abortions in three years was dangerous and could affect my future fertility. She tried to persuade me to have a contraceptive implant, but I refused because I'd heard they can make you put on weight. As a model, that's the last thing I want."
Yet again, she had a termination. This time, Dean was with her. "It took me weeks to stop crying," she says. "But I knew I'd resent being tied down. If I had a baby, I wouldn't have time to model and earn money. I left school at 16 and am not qualified to do any other job. People may think I'm selfish, but I think it's selfish to bring a baby into this world unless you have the time to be the best possible mother."
Dr Hilary says: "The fact teens have multiple abortions means parents, sex educators and health-care professionals are letting them down. But if, as a teen, you aren't prepared to talk about sex and contraception, you're not ready to have sex."
Now Mandy takes the Pill daily, but worries she may struggle to have the family she wants one day.
"Part of me does feel ashamed, but I know I made the right decision," she says. "I hope one day I'll be in a position to be the good mum I wouldn't have been as a teenager."
'My abortion left me so traumatised'
Nia Valentine, 21, from, London, is a business and law student at Kingston University. She's had two abortions and has used the morning-after pill 10 times.
"I started having sex at 16, but never gave much thought to contraception. We weren't told a lot at school, and some of my friends had been through abortions and didn't seem too affected by it, so I saw it as an option if I did get pregnant. Which is why, at the age of 17, I had a termination.
I met my boyfriend Jimmy* at school. He always wanted unprotected sex because he said it was nicer for him. On his 17th birthday, I caved in and agreed. I told myself I'd just take the morning-after pill. I'd already used it twice when condoms split - it was just like taking a sweet as far as I was concerned. But it was the weekend, and the clinic was shut. It was another two days before I was able to take it, but I never thought it might not work. My periods were always irregular, so when I missed one I didn't worry. By the time I suspected anything and booked a doctor's appointment, I was nine weeks pregnant. Stupidly I was delighted, but Jimmy was furious. I realised I was too young, so three weeks later, I had a termination.
Afterwards, Jimmy took me home and tucked me into bed. I cried for a week. I wasn't in any physical pain, I just hurt inside. Eventually I told my mum, who was brilliant. She told me I had to be more careful, and took me to the family-planning clinic to pick up some leaflets about birth control, but I didn't want to go on the Pill as I thought I'd forget to take it.
Jimmy and I split when I was 19 - our relationship never recovered from the abortion. A month later I met Sam*, who was four years older than me. I wanted to make him happy, and when he insisted on unprotected sex, I stupidly agreed. Sam told me he would pull out before he ejaculated, and I knew I could take the morning-after pill if anything went wrong. Of course Sam didn't keep his promise, and I ended up taking the morning-after pill seven times in a year. I went to different clinics so no one would ask me any questions. But in November 2007 I became pregnant. I knew straight away I wanted an abortion as I didn't see a long-term future with Sam. This time, I decided on the abortion pill as I was only seven weeks gone, and I'd hated being under anaesthetic. The night before I was due to take the second of the two pills, Sam and I had a massive row because he didn't want me to go through with it, and we split up, so I had to turn to my mum again. She was furious, but came to the hospital with me to get the pill.
A couple of hours after taking it, I began to bleed heavily and was in excruciating pain. Half an hour later, I was on the toilet weeping and doubled over with pain as my baby was aborted. Emotionally, I felt heavy with guilt, while the bleeding carried on for four weeks.
It's a year and a half since my second abortion and I still can't get the horrific memories out of my head. I haven't had sex since - I don't want to. I bitterly regret how careless I was. Abortion is not something that should be taken lightly, and I've had to learn that the hard way."
For help and advice on sex education, go to Fpa.org.uk
*NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED PHOTOGRAPHY: SYRIOL JONES, JUSTIN GRIFFITHS-WILLIAMS AHIR & MAKE-UP: SHERRIE WARWICK AND SARA BOWDEN MANDY WEARS DRESS, DEBENHAMS; BELT, DOROTHY PERKINS
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im 15 now and had an abortion when i was 14
i do feel really sad for these girls as i know what they are going through saying that i would never make the same mistake twice or even 3 times as i feel i learnt from my mistake the 1st time when i got forced by my ex. i would never do it again because i dont want my chances of being fertile in the future to be decreased.
i think it has saved the nhs a lot of money by preventing teen pregnancies by it also takes alot of guts and braveness.
By Jade .. Posted September 22 2009 at 10:26 AM.
i cant believe the way you all are judging them so harshly i myself had an abortion and it was the hardest decision of my life .
you say thing like you cant have children but its not the child theyre having is yours so if they chose to abort it its none of your buisness and if it was born its not like there going to give you there child anyway if u would even want it!!.
also there are so many children in the care system if everyone who had an abortion gave up there child there would be hundreds of thousands more child in the system. People who cant have children dont always want to adopt so its not helping anyone keeping it and giving it to a failing care system what about all the children already in it just beacuse people want babys , older children are left to go throught the system never having a family..
it really annoys me when people judge people for things they have never experienced!!
By julie.. Posted September 13 2009 at 2:01 PM.
i am so disgusted by these two girls!
3 abortions in 3 years is horrific :O of course they know about contraception and all the explantions are excuses!
im not saying accidents dont happen, i should know, but unlike those girls i choose to keep my baby even though i was 17 wanting to go to uni (and on the pill,) but sadly I had a miscarriage.
if you cant be prepaired to put up with the possible consequences, then dont have sex, all you have to do is keep your legs closed and use your bloody brain!
Its makes me so angry to think that these girls can just have abortions like nothing, for those of us that have gone through miscarriages or problems having children it is madness and sickening.
By nm.. Posted August 25 2009 at 1:03 AM.
Im a 18 year old girl too and know how it is. I hope the girl succeeds in whateva she wishes. It wouldnt of been fair to give birth to child at an unappropriate time as it would mean another in the social services.
By Josie F .. Posted August 7 2009 at 12:12 PM.
There are so many forms of contraception available there is no excuse for accidental pregnancy,its just a case of finding one or two(always wear a condom!)that work for you.there are many young girls that use levonelle on a regular basis and opt for terminations when they do get caught out. its too easy for these girls to have terminations, but its even easier for them to get contraception-so why do they not do this and use it properly.If they dont want to use contraception for whatever stupid reason they should learn to say no!
By tara.. Posted August 6 2009 at 10:03 PM.
The excuse of "I might forget to take the pill" is pathetic! And I can't believe these young women fell into the trap of having unprotected sex because "it feels better" for the man! Condoms serve a purpose- not only to prevent pregnancy but to prevent STDs. Mandy's fertility may not only be affected by her abortions, but she could have picked up an STD which could exacerbate the problem. I truly hope these 2 girls have learned their lessons and in future,not only take the pill but use condoms as well!
By Jo Jones.. Posted August 4 2009 at 7:53 PM.
It makes me angry that there are some girls out there that just have sex and not worry about protecting themselves but then they find out their pregnant and then just have an abortion just an easy way out of it. Im 18 myself and im on the pill i know thats only like 98% effective! Think of some girls who want a baby but cant have one and theres loads of girls just making them and then getting rid of them!!
Theres loads of people around where i live who just have sex and end up having there baby, not having a job or even any money at all, getting money off the goverment!
Thats something i will never do! I want a baby when im settled down and have the money and the job to support my baby!
I just wish other people out there would look after themselves and protect themself and then we wouldnt have this problem of having abortions!!
Sorry had to say my mind!!!
By Tracey.. Posted August 4 2009 at 3:46 PM.
I'm shocked after reading these girls stories - Sex ed is better in schools than it was a few years back so there should be no excuse. As far for believeing that you would make the man happy for having unprotected with him is a joke. if your partner truly respected you he would talk about contraception with you and always wear a condom. These girls seem to only care about getting pregnant, nothing about STDs. the whole article was really worrying. i'm only 24 but if i thought my 16 year cousin was doing this i wouldbe really upset.
By Pamela.. Posted August 4 2009 at 9:58 AM.
This is nothing to be proud of.
By Roseann McGee.. Posted August 4 2009 at 7:18 AM.
I am so sad after reading this article that I am crying onto my computer keyboard. My Husband and I have been trying for a family for the past three years and it makes me so angry that a life which is so precious can be ended like that. Unless you've ever been in our position you can never know how hearbreaking it is. I'm all for choice but come on three times? For anybody reading this please remember the responsibility we all have (not just health professionals but for ourselves) to make sure this sort of thing doesn't happen. Remember there is still adoption!!!
By Ashley.. Posted August 4 2009 at 1:41 AM.
i don't think anyone is any posititon to judge people after having a abortion. Im 18 and had one earlier this year, and people need to understand that contraception doesn't always work, and that abortion is such a taboo subject when it really shouldn't be, it is a traumatic thing to go through, and no one will ever understand unless they actually go through it.
By gemma .. Posted August 3 2009 at 9:21 PM.
I don't like to judge people but with what as happened to me this year it is hard to be. I think that these girls should have learnt by there mistakes after the first time and i think i it bad that Nia said she never thought about contracetion but thougth it would be ok to have an abortion because ofter girls in her school had. There are a lot of women out there how can not have children and have to go years of IVF and still can't have children so these girl should think of people like that and think of contraception.
By Karen.. Posted August 3 2009 at 7:42 PM.
May God forgive this young women, I hope they will have some respect to God who is the giver of life and stop destroying babies, their own mothers did not destroy them... Having the fear of God is what they need, and they can not have the fear of God without allowing God into their lives. May God Make them surrender to him....Amen
By Mercy.. Posted August 3 2009 at 4:12 PM.
I am really disgusted to read all of the malicious comments that have been made about the two girls. Yes, you may perceive them as irresponsible but I am sure they are/have been paying for their decisions in their own way. You are all quick to jump on the moral high horse and then verbally attack these women, its a joke. I understand it must be hard to hear to those mothers who have children and for people who can't conceive but don't take out your issues out on those girls. I applaud them on talking about this incredibly sensitive issue and having the strength to talk about it as this is part of their recovery process. So all I can say to those ignorant ladies is take a look at yourselves and concentrate on critiquing your own lives.
By Lorna.. Posted August 3 2009 at 1:54 PM.
I'm so saddened by this. I have no understanding of having an abortion, but i know that it must be the hardest thing that you can do. Emotionally it will mess with your head for the rest of your life if you don't come to terms with it. I hope that these ladies are now learning to respect themselves more and don't sleep with just anyone, wait for the guy that does respect you and if you do have a "mistake" that he'd be willing to support you. These ladies are still very young and will have to live with their decisions. I just hope that in the future they will be able to become mothers and that the pain of what they have done will ease.
By Beebs.. Posted August 3 2009 at 1:35 PM.
I'm 16 and I can say that every teenager knows about contraception. At school I've had sex-ed lessons for at least the last 4 years, we've had health people in to talk to us about sex. We're all told to use contraception and about the many different types that we can use. Every SINGLE person whose talked to us has said that abortion and the morning-after pill are last-resorts and not 'quick fixes'.
I can't imagine ever having an abortion, she's just selfish.
By Steph.. Posted August 3 2009 at 12:37 PM.
As a family planning nurse I am angry with Dr Hilary Jones comment that health-care professionals are letting them down. you can take a horse to water but cannot make them drink it. I think it is about time that people started to take responsibility for their own health and bodies. The government does not help but only adds to this problem by setting targets and then expect the health-care professionals to take the blame when they are not achieved. The general public need to take some responsibility. There are numerous forms of contraception, and well advertised, available to both females and males, but patients still come up with the most ill-informed reasons for not using certain 'idiot proof' methods. I could go on but what is the point, maybe it's time to leave the nursing profession.
By Pauline.. Posted August 3 2009 at 2:38 AM.
These girls need to grow up. Anyone can make a mistake but 3 abortions by 18 is ridiculous. Neither the morning after pill nor terminations are forms of contraception. There is enough choice of birth control out there and it is all free. I assume these girls are also expecting the NHS to fund their terminations. I am not anti-abortion - I agree that everyone has the right to make their own decision but not on a regular basis. If they are old enough to have sex they are old enough to be responsible about it. Saying you will only forget to take the pill is frankly pathetic. These girls appear to have no self respect so how can they expect anyone else to have any respect for them.
By Jane.. Posted August 2 2009 at 11:36 PM.
CTZ I do agree with you in part, the men in the girls life are just as irrisponseible however these girls got pregnant with different men each time. therefore they are much worse. You cannot expect others to respect and look after your body if you don't yourself. To get pregnant 3 times to 2 different fellas is beyond comprehension. The last guy supported her and is named in the article. If these girls felt soooooo guilty and soooooo bad why let themselves go there time and time again. Sam I am sorry for you that you can agree with these girls behaviour. I am pro choice but I also feel it should not be abused I am shocked you find the girls acceptable. There fertility could be compramised it was our tax £s that paid for the abortion and no doubt our tax £s that will pay for fertility treatment when they find they cant have kids, and some poor deserving soul will lose out to these spiteful selfish girls.
By jenny.. Posted August 2 2009 at 11:18 PM.
To Claire Mascall, yes totally agree with what you're saying about demanding respect from partners. It sounds as though this is something you are able to do and good for you! However, not all girls are that strong minded. If commenters on here (not you!) are going to judge these girls and call them nasty names, it is only fair to do the same for the boys: Selfish, disrespectful and immature are words that spring to mind! How sad these girls could not find better men for themselves.
By CTZ.. Posted August 2 2009 at 10:46 PM.
Good for them.
There's no point in bringing a baby into the world if you can't look after it and don't have the time for it
especially if you can't even afford it!
A foetus isn't a baby, it's a part of the woman's body.
She took out a part of her body which was her decision.
Lighten up you losers.
By sam.. Posted August 2 2009 at 8:41 PM.
After just having a baby myself i couldnt imagine my life without her. I did toy with the idea of an abortion myself however im in a serious relationship and felt that we have became pregnant and we have to deal with it. I dont think there is anything wrong with the morning after pill as nothing has formed yet and to be honest i dont disagree with abortion once as it is a hard thing to do.....or so i thought? 3 times???? you want your tubes tied and i hope when you settle down if you ever do, and want children i hope you cant have any as you are to selfish and self centred. All the people out there who want a child and you have killed 3? you horrid girl.
By sandra.. Posted August 2 2009 at 8:15 PM.
i have just read mandys story and i am so concerned for all the young girls growing up at the moment, i am 30 with a 8 year old son and 10 mth old daughter. when i was 15 i got caught pregnent and had a aborition which i have always regreated, i was using contraception even tho i was so young to have sex i still knew the dangers and what might happen.. i think kids today know all the outcomes of there actions but they just refuse to take any responsabilty and blame school,parents for not educating them. mandy says in her story "people may think im selfish, but i think its selfish to bring a baby into this world unless you have the time to be the best possible mother" what about having some respect and taking concraception to prevent becoming pregnent.....
By sarah.. Posted August 2 2009 at 7:02 PM.
I THINK THIS IS DISCUSSING AS A WOMEN OF 51 YEARS I AND MY HUSBAND TRIED FOR 11 YEARS TO HAVE CHILDREN. AND TO THINK TAHT THESE GIRLS THINK IT IS OK FOR THEM TO USE THE MORNNG AFTER PILL AS CONTRACEPTION ID DISCUSSING.
I WAS BROUGHT UP IN THE 70S AND YOU DID NOT DISCUSS SUCH THINGS WITH YOUR PARENTS. THERE IS NO EXCUSS FOR THE YOUNG IF TODAY TO HAVE UNWANTED PREGNANTS.
By LINDA MORRILL.. Posted August 2 2009 at 5:06 PM.
Iwas horrified to read about theses selfish, irrisponsible girls.There is no excuse for there irrisponsibility, I have been trying for a baby for the last 5 years, and have now had to give up because i cant afford I.V.F, and this is the only option left.I cant get this treatment on the NHS because i have a child already,who doctors have said it was a miricle i had him, theses girls had there abortions on the NHS, but i cant get treatment to have a child who would be so wanted,as i read this storry i cried for the babys that have been terminated and for the baby i will never be able to afford.
By alison kathleen greenall.. Posted August 2 2009 at 5:03 PM.
After reading their stories it made me SO angry!! They're selfish. There are so many people out there who can't have children and yet these silly girls take having abortions for granted! I can understand they're young and want to get on with what they want to acheive but theres no excuse nowadays to get pregnant as theres so much to prevent it!! I just hope they realise what they've done is wrong and either use contraception (properly) or not 'do it' at all!
By dee.. Posted August 2 2009 at 4:38 PM.
I was horrified when i read these stories. Being a mother of 3 gorgeous little girls and only 20. It was so selfish of them and all Mandy cared about was a modeling career. She could of had kids and still have a career. Once is a mistake not 2 and 3 times. If they can lie back and open there legs they can sit on there arse and look after them.
By katie.. Posted August 2 2009 at 4:17 PM.
I cannot believe this, everybody deserves to make 1 mistake but 3 that is just irresponsible and selfish.
By Molly .. Posted August 2 2009 at 3:55 PM.
I cannot believe this, everybody deserves to make 1 mistake but 3 that is just irresponsible and selfish. I have lost babies and now have had to have a hysterectomy so will never have the joy of becoming a mum. I don't think i need say anymore!!!!!
By TJ.. Posted August 2 2009 at 3:18 PM.
i have just read the stories and i just think what a disgrace, abortions are very traumatic and is a very hard decision to choose, making a mistake is fine but to make the same mistake 3 times is selfish and damn right immature! one is bad enough the stress the emotional effects of abortions and i personally wouldn't want to repeat 2/3 times!! As for Mandy what is wrong with her yes the contraceptive implant makes u put on a little weight but a balanced diet with exercise helps. im not against abortions having had one myself but i wouldnt never ever want to go through what i went through i learnt from my mistake why cant these 2!
By ange.. Posted August 2 2009 at 3:18 PM.
I have just read about these girls, and can may be understand why you may have one abortion with certian circumstances but no because your boyfriend is so selfish he won't wear protection or that you can't remember to take a pill once a day!! I am sure they manage to put their makeup on once a day though!! What about diseases they may catch? from my point of view I have had three miscarrages and had to be hospitalised for one of them can you just tell these girls look at the woman opposite you in the hospital bed who didn't have the choice to be there, and having to have a baby removed that was very much WANTED!!!
By kayla.. Posted August 2 2009 at 2:36 PM.
to ctz the men are responsible to but to give in to a man demands just because he been pesterin is pathetic ''He always wanted unprotected sex because he said it was nicer for him. On his 17th birthday, I caved in and agreed. I told myself I'd just take the morning-after pill. I'd already used it twice when condoms split - it was just like taking a sweet as far as I was concerned.'' that is a typical thing you hear nowadays and its wrong!!!
ctz these girls should have enough res[ect for themselves and their bodies to say, oh wads that word? oh yeah NO wen men get like that....just cos a guy pesters doesnt mean you give in your stick to your guns and find a guy willing to accept and respect your desision.... i was having sex from 14 and i am 24 now and i didnt have my daughter until i had been married 2 and 1/2 years.... it can be done!!!!
By claire mascall.. Posted August 2 2009 at 1:51 PM.
Why are all the comments on here about the girls concerned and not their horrible boyfriends? Yes the girls were weak and naive but look at the way they were treated too! Why is it when we are supposed to have equality that sex is STILL all about pleasure for the men and blame/shame for the women?
By CTZ.. Posted August 2 2009 at 1:33 PM.
i cannot believe that mandy ouldnt even consider going onto the implant just because of the thought of gaining weight! i think that is a pathietic excuse and i am a firm believer tht abortions should be used under certain cercumstances but to use them as a quick fix is wrong and a kick in the face for many people who have been told after years of trying that they are unable and cannot get through the legal hassle of our uk adoption system. i think if you think you are rown up to have sex the your should be grown up enough to be mature about our contraception or woman enough to deal with the consequenses of stupid imature attidutes towards pregnancy. it is getting to the point tat all girls will soon be put on the injection or implant from age of first period until they are woman enough to say they want to try for a baby!!!
you my love are disgusting and i hope your children in later life are told (by you) not to be so bloody stupid!!!!
By claire.. Posted August 2 2009 at 1:19 PM.
I read this with great sadness.To go through 1 abortion is traumatic (I know) but 3!!! I learnt by my mistake at 16 and went to great lengths to ensure it never happened again. I am pleased these girls did not have the kids they aborted as they are selfish and would have been terrible mothers. some girls are in real need of medical help and seek to abort when they have no other options these girls make out it is a quick fix to a PROBLEM I just hope other girls are not affected by their callous and disgusting actions.
By Jenny.. Posted August 2 2009 at 1:25 PM.
i cannot believe that mandy ouldnt even consider going onto the implant just because of the thought of gaining weight! i think that is a pathietic excuse and i am a firm believer tht abortions should be used under certain cercumstances but to use them as a quick fix is wrong and a kick in the face for many people who have been told after years of trying that they are unable and cannot get through the legal hassle of our uk adoption system. i think if you think you are rown up to have sex the your should be grown up enough to be mature about our contraception or woman enough to deal with the consequenses of stupid imature attidutes towards pregnancy. it is getting to the point tat all girls will soon be put on the injection or implant from age of first period until they are woman enough to say they want to try for a baby!!!
you my love are disgusting and i hope your children in later life are told (by you) not to be so bloody stupid!!!!
By claire.. Posted August 2 2009 at 1:21 PM.
I have just read Mandy and Nia's stories and am absolutely disgusted. What about all the women out there who can not have children but would love to be given the chance to and you have these to immature girls getting pregnant time after time and then killing their babies. If they cant be bothered with proper contraception or remember to take the pill, maybe they should keep their legs shut! Its all to easy now to distroy a life because you cant be bothered to be safe.
By kelly.. Posted August 2 2009 at 12:44 PM.
What a pair of tramps
By Cath.. Posted August 2 2009 at 12:06 PM.
these so called "women" disgust me.... good luck getting pregnant in the future darlings.... 3 abortions in 3 years? unreal! i am 32 years old and never had one, even if i have been sexually active since 17... why is that? because i use condoms and take the pill, like any woman who has some intelligence should do. i am truly disgusted.
By nell.. Posted August 2 2009 at 11:43 AM.
This is the most disturbing and shocking thing I've read - 3 abortions is terrible but in 3 years and under the age of 19?? How selfish are they - if you don't want babies stop having sex!!!!! I'm unable to have children due to a childhood illness and I can't believe how these girls can just throw precious life away as if its nothing. I hope these people find that due to their selfishness and irresponsibility they are no longer able to conceive - they don't deserve the miracle of life after they've should such little respect for it.
By JD.. Posted August 2 2009 at 10:58 AM.
the information is there for contraception, condoms etc but again they think it will never happen. parents have to take some of it on board but often cant do - abortion is the severe way of ending a pregnancy - have no sympathy with this girls if it is there second, no brains.
By josie.. Posted August 2 2009 at 9:17 AM.
what a self centered litttle imature girl she is,never ever have i been as a mother of 2 daughters and 2 sons been so offended where o where was and is this selfish little girls mother?
By linda.. Posted August 2 2009 at 8:16 AM.